• The End of Gender

  • Debunking the Myths About Sex and Identity in Our Society
  • By: Debra W. Soh
  • Narrated by: Debra Soh
  • Length: 7 hrs and 38 mins
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  • Categories: LGBTQ+, LGBTQ+ Studies
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (713 ratings)
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International sex researcher, neuroscientist, and columnist Debra Soh debunks popular gender myths in this fascinating, research-based, scientific examination of the many facets of gender identity.

Is our gender something we’re born with, or are we conditioned by society? In The End of Gender, neuroscientist and sexologist Dr. Debra Soh uses a research-based approach to address this hot-button topic, unmasking popular misconceptions about the nature vs. nurture debate and exploring what it means to be a woman or a man in today’s society. 

Both scientific and objective and drawing on original research and carefully conducted interviews, Soh tackles a wide range of issues, such as gender-neutral parenting, gender dysphoric children, and the neuroscience of being transgender. She debates today’s accepted notion that gender is a social construct and a spectrum and challenges the idea that there is no difference between how male and female brains operate. 

The End of Gender is a conversation-starting work that will challenge what you thought you knew about gender, identity, and everything in between. Timely, informative, and provocative, it will arm you with the facts you need to come to your own conclusions about gender identity and its place in the world today.

©2020 Dr. Debra Soh. All rights reserved. (P)2020 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Excellent and informative!

I am a transwoman who is having issues with the trans community ideology lately. I was starting to feel that things were getting a little too crazy. After reading this book, I know why I was feeling that way...
Thank you Dr Soh!

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More balanced than I had anticipated

At first glance, I thought this book might be a right-wing tirade about gender norms and the transgender community. However, this book presented a balanced and data-driven view of issues relating to gender identity and sexuality. I was pleasantly surprised by the author’s acknowledgement of the realities faced by the transgender community while also combating common misinformation often found among trans activists, especially as it relates to gender dysmorphia in children.
The author also does a pretty good job narrating, much better than many other authors who narrate their own books.

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stirring a conversation that is lacking

clearly stated points, interesting read. written with humility and professional attitude towards this problem. I hope it will get attention it deserves

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One of the most important books of our time

Being a liberal and a parent with an appreciation for quantentative evidence right now is scary. In the face of the ongoing political movement to encourage children to transition at a young age or learn that gender disphoria is societally more advantageous than behaving typically as your sex (both typical male and female behaviors being stigmatized), most people are cowed into silence on this issue.

Not Debra Soh. With a highly clinical and compassionate approach, she speaks volumes of truth she will sadly be attacked for by activists who won't read her book or the studies she sites.

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Too much politics, too little science.

Much of the book revolves around the absurdities that are proclaimed by ‘some’ trans activists, and the consequences of that. I had much rather read a lot more about the actual academic research available and what that meant. Now that part is sort of glossed over at the beginning of each chapters, before heading back to the discussions meant Ionel before, fueled by the author’s own experience from her career as both scientist and journalist.
I feel like the book has wrong title. Not enough science and too much bickering.

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Excellent book for understanding who we are.

Having heard Dr. Soh speak, I was eager to read this. What a refreshingly honest scientific description of a subject made so confusing by leftist activists in academia. Also extremely useful for understanding ourselves as humans. I hope society learns the lessons she’s teaching here.

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Useful at points, disappointing overall

Some useful definitions and data points, but generally disappointing. The style was too informal for the topic, and the studies were not sufficiently described to let the reader to form an independent opinion.

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Wish I Spent The Time Listening to Another Book

Some of this seemed backwards and outdated. Toxic masculinity doesn’t exist? Ha. I witness it everyday through my own lived experience and by reading the news. Advising women to be passive and docile when it comes to expressing romantic interest? It’s not like her advice here is based on scientific evidence. She’s just sharing her own (retrograde) personal viewpoint. No thanks! Keep your unsolicited advice. If I was looking for an uptight, moralistic take on things I’d read THE RULES. 🤮

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Must read

I’ve been confused by the trans movement, not understanding the issues and motivations, and afraid to ask.

The book give excellent explanations of the terms and issues, with balanced and nuanced perspective.

I’m overwhelmingly impressed by the courage, and knowledge of the author. I wish this book were required reading.

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Actual Science

Listened to this start to finish in one sitting. Good science & objective facts. Absolutely loved this book & recommend highly; especially to any naysayers.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-23-20

This is a hateful book masking itself as educational

Despite Debra stating that this was a scientific approach to gender I found this book extremely biased an non scientific. Many times she states that there isn’t evidence against her claims when that simply isn’t the case. I have come across such a vast amount of evidence specifically countering her points throughout my time in academia. She tactfully presents the information in a way that supports her prejudice and I honestly found this book deeply disturbing and upsetting. The fact that she states that she respects trans and non-binary folks yet spends an entire book essentially invalidating their existence is heartbreaking. Could not recommend less. There are so many better resources for people to learn about gender. Please do not read this book ESPECIALLY if your a parent with a child questioning their gender identity.

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  • Laveyheed
  • 09-17-20

Finally!

I was beginning to think I was losing my mind these days. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. The author also gives measured responses and reiterates that this information is not for dismissing the transgender community. So anyone saying that this is just a baseless attack on transgender people, clearly hasn't read the book.

A definite eye opener on what we allow to happen in society if we continue to not voice Opposing opinions.

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  • SarahY1301
  • 08-24-20

An okay book.

Honestly, didn't love it. There was quite a bit of bias in this book which made me question whether the author was cherry-picking studies. However, if your new to learning about gender, transgenderism and the differences of sexes, then I do suggest this book as long as you go in with a critical mind. I was hoping for a more in-depth conversation discussing why more people are choosing to define themselves as gender non-conforming and the increase in transgender people. There was some discussion, but I guess I had really hoped for more so I felt like I had wasted my money a little as a lot of this, I already knew as it's been discussed so much. Also personal note to the author: please stop playing the victim. We get it, you're risking your life to publish your studies...or something. If it pains you so much, do something else.
Also never acknowledge Ben Shapiro - that's quite literally stabbing yourself in the foot.

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  • hnbrgo
  • 09-06-20

Separates Facts and Emotion

Debra Soh's quiet approach explains and clarifies the emotionally charged theme of gender vs biological sex.
This book should be compulsory reading on all campuses.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-26-20

Balanced and Compassionate But Also Science Led

This is a brilliant book, read by the author which I always think is best for non-fiction. This book gives an overview of the ideological capture of the sciences and scientists researching sex, sexuality and gender and the effect of trans ideology on the discussion around rights and treatment. Soh is always compassionate and considerate towards trans people during these discussions and never suggests that Trans people don't exist or that they should be able to transition or that they should not have all the rights everyone else has. She brings her background in Sexology to bear on the controversial subject of Trans and TERFs and clearly outlines the myths on both sides of the debate along with an overview of the scientific evidence.
This is an important book to add to the debate and it is a shame that the Trans lobby have been attempting to discredit the author since she first started writing about these issues.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-15-20

Brilliant dissemination of the false logic of woke

Debra Dog does an excellent job of stating the scientific foundations of sex and gender, as well as the current research. She articulates thoroughly what you already feel is the case, and exposes the failures within academia and the moaist like behaviour of "keep your head down, in order to keep it" from the scientist who disagree that gender is binary.

Great for both layman and people with prior knowledge of the topic.

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  • LanaLeigh
  • 08-19-20

A MUST read, especially for parents!

this is not a political book, it simply states Scientific FACT which in the current climate of "wokeness" is a rarity! I commend the author for her bravery. This is a refreshing read as it is written by a Sexoligist (who has now moved out of the field feeling she can not tell lies in aid of political correctness) who is, for the most part a left leaning Liberal. this book does not have a political agenda. if there is an agenda at all it is that we must tread carefully when making life changung decisions for our children. apart from discussing the Trans/non binary movements it addresses relationships between heterosexual men and women and just how wrong we are getting it by denying sex differences! This book was informative, wonderfully written and very engaging. I sincerely hope the author continues to enlighten us with more!

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  • Stephen
  • 09-16-20

insightful

this book was a honest, factual and genuinely a nice change of pace to what we see and hear.

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  • WNeill
  • 09-08-20

A great start in this debate

This was an excellent introduction to the debate. More reading is essential, but this book gives you the rudiments from the scientific point of view, not the nonesense the media feeds us

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-11-20

Most Amazing

The most educational and scientific read in a long time. amazingly good and thoughtful. highly recommended

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  • David
  • 08-19-20

A much needed scientific voice in an ideological crisis

As an educator I am surrounded by new trends and ‘research’ in gender and care for students. There were many questions and insights that didn’t make sense to me, but Debora helps provide a scientific and level approach that helped me support students and their needs while also advocating truth.

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  • E. J. Lizier
  • 02-20-21

Outstanding work

This is an extremely clear report on the true and scientific nature of sex and gender. I appreciate Dr Soh’s honesty and courage in speaking so plainly and in writing so boldly.
I can’t recommend this book highly enough and I encourage everyone to read it, several times, and to encourage many others to do likewise.

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  • Nick
  • 02-10-21

A scientific lens set on our modern fervour

In a time frought with emotion I found this scientific walkthrough of underlying concepts helpful as a basis.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-21-20

Excellent- science rocks


Excellent, informative, scientific, balanced, not hateful or cruel but also, not bogus.
Just right; like the temperature of the baby bear’s porridge.
Points out the logical reasoning flaws of some activists arguments, but also, points out that historically ‘outlier’ people have been poorly treated.
Just because something is not biological doesn’t mean we should be mean or not treat people fairly.

I Particularly like the highlighting of the difference between arts theory and scientific theory. Science theories start as a hypothesis, then an experiment (preferably validly constructed) and ends with a theory to explain the results.
Arts theories are more: “I reckon that blah blah blah..... and I will back up this theory of mine by referencing Dr Me (my own book, written last year) as well as the book I wrote in ‘96, and ‘84 and that bloke Dr Lucky Fields..”

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  • 04-11-21

Gender is binary and not a social construct

I learned so much. Mostly how findings are the product of fear from social politics.

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  • Paul L Wheeler
  • 01-15-21

Required reading

Required reading for all parents. Evidence based science used in this thought provoking analysis of gender.

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  • Roberto
  • 11-14-20

Food for the rational

A well researched book, full of love for diversity without sacrificing reason. Must read for a compassionate application and contribution of science on a topic that has become an issue for so many.

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  • B-Chin-B
  • 10-26-20

Took a long time and still not finished... sigh

Listening to this book is like listening to nails lightly scrape down a chalk board. A bit harsh of a comment, maybe. However, it was really difficult to get through. One moment the author is appears to be against a group the next the author is for that group... it’s as if the author had difficulty reconciling their beliefs and personal commitments to those known to them. I felt that many of the author’s thoughts were justified by the authors education by consensus. This really was a bit of a waste of time it was like reading the internet / New York Times and watching CNN. Sorry.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-24-20

Very informative and interesting

Very well written and researched. Voice provided by Dr Soh is clear. Will be listening again. Looking forward to further books.