• So When Are You Having Kids

  • The Definitive Guide for Those Who Aren’t Sure If, When, or How They Want to Become Parents
  • By: Jordan Davidson
  • Narrated by: Jordan Davidson
  • Length: 12 hrs and 1 min
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (7 ratings)

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By: Jordan Davidson
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Publisher's summary

As we expand our understanding of what “family” means, we need to change the way we think about having kids.

How much does it cost to have kids? How long can I wait? What if I have fertility issues? And, wait a minute… do I even want kids? If you’re unsure whether you want kids or struggling to decide, this book is for you.

So When Are You Having Kids? is not your parents’ parenting book, nor is it a how-to for getting pregnant. It’s a nonjudgmental, inclusive guidebook for women, men, gender-nonconforming people, same-sex couples, and prospective single parents who want to make an informed decision regarding if and how they bring children into the world. Combining research with over 100 compelling real-life stories, the resources in this book are as diverse as the generations they’re meant to serve.

With deep insight and empathy, Davidson explores:

  • Ways to cope with familial and societal pressure to have children
  • What makes a good parent, and the skills you need to be one
  • The facts about infertility, adoption, fostering, and alternative methods of becoming a parent
  • The real financial costs of having and raising kids
  • How to move past fears related to pregnancy and childbirth
  • The ethics and consequences of having kids in the face of climate change
  • And, what it means to choose a child-free life for those who are unsure whether they want kids

So When Are You Having Kids? is a much-needed resource for family planning in the modern world, packed with the knowledge and tools you need to make one of the most important decisions—if not the most important decision—of your life.

©2022 Jordan Davidson (P)2022 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.

Critic reviews

“Davidson narrates her own work, delving deep into the reasons why and how people choose to have children by drawing on substantial information gleaned through interviews with straight, cis white men and women, as well as people of color and trans, nonbinary, and other queer individuals.… This is a much-needed book on how to decide to become a parent. Davidson handles the diversity of individuals and situations with tact and care.”Library Journal

“Whether or not to become a parent is the biggest decision a person will ever make. Jordan’s book leaves no stone unturned in helping people consider their options and will undoubtedly help people feel more confident in pursuing whatever path is right for them.”—Ruby Warrington, bestselling author of Sober Curious and Women Without Kids

“It is rare for someone like me—disabled, queer, and childfree—to feel welcome in a book about having children, but Jordan Davidson’s debut made me right at home. If you’re deciding ‘if, when, and how’ to have children (or even if you’ve already made up your mind), Davidson’s text will arm you with empowering information and a steady, guiding voice. The rest, as she gently reminds readers, is (and always should be) up to us.”—Tessa Miller, New York Times editors’ choice author of What Doesn’t Kill You

Dear Listener,

What was the exact moment I decided to write So When Are You Having Kids?
Shortly before my 25th birthday, doctors told me I might not be able to have kids. Though I wanted kids, I wasn't at a point in my life or career where having children felt like a responsible choice. I started asking those around me how they knew they wanted to have kids and what helped them know they were ready. I was met with a sea of answers that only left me feeling more overwhelmed. The deeper I dug, the more I realized how many people were pondering similar questions to the ones I was asking myself. There was no lightbulb moment that I decided I should write this book, but rather a gradual realization over the course of several years that there needed to be a resource to help people parse through their indecision toward this question.
I’m a journalist, so I began approaching the topic like I would any other story, and it took off from there. I sat with the idea, and my research, for months. Then I started telling people I was writing a book, just to see how it felt before I really committed to anything. It wasn’t until the pandemic that I finally decided to make So When Are You Having Kids? a reality—and I’m so glad I did. I hope this book helps you like it did me. - Jordan Davidson, writer of So When Are You Having Kids?