Refinement of Manner: Manners, Etiquette and Elegance for the Twenty-First Century Woman

Narrated by: Moe Egan
Length: 9 hrs and 29 mins
3.5 out of 5 stars (38 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Refinement of Manner will set you on a journey to a finer, more elegant lifestyle, while encouraging and challenging you to become the best person you can be in all areas of life. Social, career, financial, home life... you can balance it all with grace, poise, and talent you never thought you had.  

This is your way to a greater, more fascinating you! This is the book on becoming beyond mannerly to absolutely elegant and refined. Here are the tools to becoming a refined elegant woman of the 21st century.  

This book will change the way you think about manners and elegance. Learn how to navigate through a vulgar world with class, substance, and style. Improve your self-image and self-confidence once you know how to do things right, well, and elegantly. Find better ways to distinguish yourself from others while being genuine in all you say and do. Learn to take the high road when you normally explode over things.  

Here is a clear path to finding your authentic personality, learning self-control in areas of your life that have become haphazard or tired. Make more social contact, find social betterment; meet more interesting people because you are a more interesting woman.  

Here is the formula to realize your dreams and enhance your life.  

Style and class will be second nature to you once you have applied some of the principles and ideas in Refinement of Manner.  

Don't miss out on these ideas for do's and don'ts of manners and etiquette, style and sophistication. Challenging, enlightening, and life-changing.  

This book will take you through steps to become a more interesting and fascinating personality among the mundane.  

Enjoy and enhance your life and discover the lighter side - who you have always wanted to be but did not have the "tools". Grasp understanding of the right tools to be a fun loving, smart, elegant, social woman in your own right. Glean ideas, lifestyles, and facts from other elegant women and icons who have forged the way before you.  

Delight in the ideas of loving who you are becoming and realize your full potential in just a few easy steps. Truly reach your fullest potential as a refined woman. Realize a life NOW that you thought you could never attain. This book will stand the test of time and bring women into a finer way of living - above the rhetoric, games, ploys of the normal. You will become a woman of taste and sophistication.  

©2016 Melanie Jarrell (P)2018 Melanie Jarrell

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Useless

I was hoping for real groundbreaking advice, not platitudes and clichés. Had to jump over first 2 chapters just to reach the real book, which sadly does not teach anything.. Maybe useful for a teenager, but absolutely not for a grown-up woman

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deeply sorry i paid for this<br />

Narrator reminded me of a spokeswoman for female Viagra. Terrible advice if you are interested in being a woman and not a concubine. I wanted to be Refined, not Repugnant. At least Miss Manners is funny. If wearing Ballerina Pink nail polish and a ball gown was all a lady needed, than this book need not exist.

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Sexist and Outdated

The narrator is fine, my issue is with the author; most of her advice is sexist and outdated. Women over thirty should never go out without makeup on? Curly hair is automatically unkempt? It’s 2018, lady.

I stopped listening in the chapter about makeup and skin care because I just couldn’t take it anymore. It sounds like a man from the 50’s is telling me how to live my life. I would not recommend this book at all.

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Wonderful book!

Wonderful and encouraging advice and insight.
In a world, where manners are falling by the wayside - this book is a refreshing read/listen. I wish it could be mandatory reading for everyone!! :)

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An inciteful book about self development.

Ms. Melanie Jarrell's book "Refinement of Manner" is a well written book that should be read by individuals seeking to learn or improve their manners, gain knowledge about utilizing etiquette and developing one's own personal style.

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Fantastic read that I highly recommend!

I enjoyed this book immensely and will be reading it again. I learned many helpful and life changing concepts from this book. Anyone who wants to be a more elegant , benevolent, and intelligent lady should definitely give this book a read.

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Thoughtfulness

A book about kindness and grace, being a decent human being. Nicely written and read, loved this forgotten subject of being civil to one another.

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A Great Enrichment on the Treadmill of Life

Melanie Jarrell provided meaningful enrichment for me as I exercised on the treadmill. She encourages and guides refinement which serves society so well and adds delight to daily life. A must for all who want to improve themselves.

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  • Rianna
  • 08-27-20

Take it with a grain of salt.

This book had a lot of valuable advice in it and has helped me to understand appropriate social behaviour in a variety of situations.

With that said, the author mentions things that are not logically consistent. A specific example I can think of (not having taken notes while listening) is something along the lines of “Love everyone but whether you like them or not is an emotion”. Perhaps this might be better said as “Treat others with courtesy and compassion, regardless of whether those feelings are true”?

Another thing she mentions is that, to be interesting in conversation, listen to others you find interesting and emulate them.

This last part depends greatly on the people you are with. For example I love discussing neuroscience and how studying cases where the brain has been damaged or is malfunctioning has allowed us to understand so much more about the flaws in our hallucinations of reality, as projected by an organ. One could also argue that they find discussing sex interesting and so, to apply her advice, would need only discuss it with others to be interesting. This is certainly not the case!

I do by all means recommend this book, but please take it with a grain of salt and apply critical thinking to what you hear :-)