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The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

By: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Narrated by: Dr. Laura Schlessinger
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In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.

Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.

Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life. With real-life examples, and real-life solutions, Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.

©2003 Dr. Laura Schlessinger (P)2003 HarperCollinsPublishers

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"Like many of the author's best-selling books and audios, this is a groundbreaking and refreshing lesson. Schlessinger's own friendly and youthful narration makes the presentation a joy to hear in spite of the jarring nature of her message." (AudioFile)

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If you want to stay married....

If you truly love your husband, you will be open to listening to this book. It contains practical, accurate and "do-able" advice for women who want to make their marriages better.

If there was a book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Wives" and your husband REFUSED to read it.... how would you feel? Most women treat strangers better than they do their own husbands.

I'm amazed at how defensive women get when they hear about this book. "Well, why isn't there a proper care and feeding of wives book?", said with a snotty attitude. This is not anti-women. There are a lot of men out there in serious pain at the disdain in which they are treated by their partners. We have real power to enact change, this book is very pro-woman, but it does require you to plug-in.

I have bought a copy of this book for all of my male bashing friends, because I love them and want them to be happier in their marriage.

All it take is a bit of re-prioritizing and a few kind words to really see how much power you have as women to control your most important relationship.

Even if you are not a big fan of Dr. Laura, I think you are mature enough to get past that and learn a few things.

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My Husband's Happier...So am I

After 20 years, I thought my marriage was pretty good...for a 20-year marriage. This book gave me eyes to see what was right in front of me. I've been looking at my husband and seeing his actions and behaviors as if he was a woman, like me. He's not. He's a man, and a great one at that. I have new eyes to see him the way he is, and a much better attitude toward him. Actually, I feel giddy again, like a newlywed...or even like I did when I was dating him. This is the first (non-religious) book I have ever read that actually made a difference in my life. I recommend it to ANYONE who is interested in improving their marriage, or even their day-to-day relationships in general.

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THIS IS AMAZING!

This is the finest book I have ever heard on the issue of relationships between men and women. This is now a must listen to for any premarital counseling that I do and will be heavily used in marital counseling.

Women, LISTEN TO THIS BOOK if you want to stay married. You will probably not like it, but IT IS 100% TRUE!

Men, I am taking a collection to make Dr. Laura an honorary guy, where are the rest of the women out there that get it? Se has looked into the soul of men and seen the truth and says it clearly and simply. Dr. Laura has the unique ability of cutting off objections at the pass of nay sayers.

This book is not the friend of feminism at all, but she shows how feminism is the castration of men. Simply said, if you want your husband to be a man, treat him like a man, not a woman!

GOD BLESS YOU DR. LAURA WHEREVER YOU ARE!!!

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The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands!!!!

There are many in the media who claim that this book is terrible and that somehow a terrible step backward for women. If happines is a step backwards then it must be the biggest step ever! I can tell you that the day my wife bought this book was the day I noticed a change for the better in our marriage. She has confided that she now understands me better. From my perspective based on her actions towards me in our marriage I would have to agree. After 6 years of marriage we are finally able to row the boat together and in the same direction.

I have NOTHING BUT PRAISES for this book of REMARKABLE insight into us as men. I was surprised initially by her statement that men are simple creatures, but after considering her point I realize she was right. We don't ask much of our wifes' especially if we are "properly cared for and fed."

Wifes if you want to understand your husbands then you have to read this book. Or in this case listen to the audio... But I recommend you get the book too, just for the psychological effect it will have on your husband.

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Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands

Dr. Laura has helped so many readers and listeners with this book. She has saved marriges and relationships from horrible endings. I would recommend this to any couple who wants to have a better, more loving relationship with their partner. The key is to be nicer and to be caring for men's needs. Stop being selfish and self centered. Men have feelings too! Great Book!!!

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Awesome

This is a awesome book that addressed several of the issues that plagued our marriage for years. It gave us a new perspective on life and marriage that helped us tremendously. We highly recommend this book.

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Very useful hints

This is a typical Dr. Laura book, however it gives great tips on how being more affectionate creates a more loving environment. She has plenty of listeners calls and examples. A good helpful hint on marriage book.

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The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

I'm actual going to use part of this title in my upcoming wedding vows. If more women were to listen to Dr. Laura, there would be a lot fewer unhappy couples. I highly recommend it.

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The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

Do you know how to keep your man happy? I suppose most of you are thinking of something below the belt. This book will help you to realize it isn't all there. Your husbands heart, mind and soul are much more entwined in this fast read book. You may think you know exactly what your husband is thinking, but this book lets you UNDERSTAND what he is thinking. Admit it ladies, you alway wanted to know what was on your husbands mind. This book will tell you in depth what wheels are turning inside the male mind. I always wondered when someone would figure it out, and now some of us are too proud, ignorant or stubborn to practice it. This is not oppression, THIS is the liberation of our generation. You may not always agree with all she has to say, but the bells will ring true when she reveals the needs and desires of your man. Thank you Dr. Laura for opening the minds and hearts of women of all ages. I love this book!

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Good stuff for any wife who wants to stay married.

Great insight and practical advice for women who want to be the helpmeet that God intended .

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  • CluelessFloob
  • 12-30-12

I loved the book

I didn't like the audio book. Laura speaks incredibly fast, with a tone of voice that makes it hard for me to listen to and completely follow what she says. Instead of relaxed and at peace, I find myself stressed and tense, from what she says and how she says it. I've enjoyed the book on Kindle before, but listening to it hasn't at all given me the same joy.



She shares invaluable information, has plenty of good points and while I disagree with her about a lot of things (Christianity, the need for marriage, staying together for the good of the children, and a few other things), this is a good book.



It's just not a good audio book.

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  • joanna
  • 03-14-23

Very helpful listen

I would recommend this book as this advice works and you both will be more content with life.

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  • Dawn Smith
  • 02-18-23

The proper care and feeding of husbands

I enjoyed this audible book. I have recommended it as a must reading for my two daughters

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  • My Name
  • 12-17-22

Every Woman and girl should read/listen to this

I wish that my wife could read this, unfortunately her English is not good enough. This made me quite emotional, to hear a woman really understand men. I think that it is men that are the true romantics, but it gets suppressed by feminism. Although it appears that feminism targets men, I believe the true victims are women. Has a woman's life really got better because of feminism? I would argue that it has not.

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  • cheryl1700
  • 12-08-22

don't where feeding and care came into it

could not finish this book. this lady has men on a pedestal, they can do no wrong. if they cheat it's the woman's fault, if they return to you they are being kind and loving.
basically if you want to hear a woman slagging and blaming women for everything since the beginning of time then listen to this book. I learnt nothing from it except not to buy from this author.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-17-22

It’s a must!

One of the best books on marriage and nurturing husbands. Every wife should have this book!

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  • Motherdearest
  • 08-06-19

They don’t make them like this anymore

Excellent book. Loved each second of it. I agree with the theme of the book. Women are not whining brats who are solely reliant on their husbands for entertainment. Wives have responsibilities to their husbands and children and need to be mature enough to fulfill them even when they don’t feel up to it. That right there is being a grown up.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-20-18

Truth

Could stop listening, so much truth...some hard to actually hear and know you have to do. go Dr. Laura

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  • Miss A Mantziou
  • 08-16-17

Great advice

Not a long listen, but packed with advice and guidance. Would rather have something shorted and if quality than hours longer and just waffling on. Absolutely love her way of being Frank with the listener. Highly recommend. Read/listen to her wives!

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  • Mark
  • 11-06-17

Absolutely Terrible! Most Definitely Not Recommend

This woman seems to think that every woman is at fault and bad wifes!! Ridiculous!!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-25-22

Hard-hitting, sassy and potentially marriage savin

Sassy and direct delivery of marriage saving content. Thoroughly enjoyed it and will put all into practice. Loved it

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  • Tiffany Gunn
  • 11-19-21

explains well and it's engaging

I was recommended this book as I was having troubles to say the least. I have been to couples therapy and it didn't really help. after listening to this book I understand more now than the counselling. I basically listened to it in one fell swoop. it was very engaging. sucks it was so short.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-07-20

AMAZING

I loved it. not for the feminist that's for sure, but I think it's perfect advice for any wife

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  • caleb
  • 07-08-19

Must read for wives

Women, read this book it is absolutely wonderful and has great advice. Listening to Laura tell stories is very entertaining

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  • Jaimie
  • 09-24-16

Wonderful reality check

I was reluctant to read this book after my mother told me it was all I needed to do to fix my broken marriage. I am now accepting of what I could and couldn't do at the time it was needed.

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