Not by Chance

How Parents Boost Their Teen's Success in and After Treatment

By: Tim Thayne

Narrated by: Tim Thayne

Length: 7 hrs and 47 mins

Publisher's summary

Your struggling teenager is going to a residential or wilderness treatment program. Their addictions, learning disabilities, or emotional/behavioral issues have brought you to a moment of decision. Heartsick, anxious, and exhausted, questions bounce endlessly around your mind. Will this work? Was this really necessary? Will she ever forgive me? Can we handle him at home when the time comes? Dr. Tim Thayne delivers the answers in his groundbreaking book Not by Chance. As an owner/therapist of wilderness and residential programs, Thayne was frustrated when young people made monumental progress, only to return home where things quickly unraveled. His mission became to vastly improve long-term success by crafting and proving a model to coach parents on their power to lead out through full engagement during treatment and management of the transition home.

©2013 Tim R. Thayne, Ph.D. (P)2017 Tim R. Thayne, Ph.D.

An amazing, heartfelt and non judgmental guide that is helping me parent from confidence not fear.

This is the book I wish we had read when my daughter had been in the inpatient psychiatric hospital. We have been home for four months and have been desperate and afraid as things have unraveled back to where they had been before her treatment. Within the first two hours of reading (listening)Tim‘s book, I could feel my confidence, reassurance and trust in my path forward return as a parent. It made me feel ready to take on the challenges of each phase and know that by applying these principles, it would help us through this challenging time to a better and more healthy life for my daughter and our family. Wonderful author! Thank you so much for this gift! I will recommend it to anyone who will listen!

Very helpful

I highly recommend this book if you have a child with anxiety or other problems.

Great program recommendations

The information and stories in this book were very relevant to our journey. This gives a roadmap for success and highlight’s pitfalls everyone and fall into. If you have a child in program, I highly recommend reading this book during and post programs.

Fantastic

Excellent advice and strategy, she comes home in a few months and ill report back on how it worked for us.

Exactly what I needed to hear and learn while my child was in treatment for severe depression and suicidal ideation

Tim has done the work over the years to know what works and what is needed. Immerse yourself into this information and teach yourself all you can to prepare, not only for your teen, but yourself as well. You will become a better person if you follow as educated. I have a whole lot more to learn, everyday.

amazing book for any parents with difficult teens

loved it , helpful , insightful & extremely appropriate for parents with child in treatment for substance use, mental disorders, oppositional disorder.

Critical tool for parents

I would strong encourage every parent with a struggling teen to read this book. The children are getting so many tools while the parents are not. Well here is a great tool!!

Teens, learning to transition into adult hood

This is an other excellent example of the many teaching tools available to the average person. It seems we live in the golden age of digital learning. This book gives a thorough and comprehensive look into many of the challenges associated with teens transitioning into adult hood and transitioning out of wilderness programs back into the home. It delt with primarily 18 and older which is particularly pertinent in my case. Very thoughtful and helpful information. Highly recommend?

Fantastic

Our son has been gone from our home 6 months, first in wilderness therapy for 3 months and now TBS. We've learned so much and have now been more accountable for our past actions. This book has given me direct insight into the work that still needs to be done on a parent level. Wish I would have read this book 6 months ago! Our son is thriving and more importantly healing. My new motto is Win the Day. Thank you so much!

This is a great book...

whether you have a child in treatment or just interact with any other humans in general! It’s healthy boundaries 101. If you’re a caretaker...read this.