Nice Girls Don't Win

How I Burned It All Down to Claim My Power

De: Parvati Shallow

Narrado por: Parvati Shallow

“A bible for badass women.”—SARAH MICHELLE GELLAR

“Gripping and liberating.”—ADAM GRANT, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential and Think Again

“Survivor legend and gay icon, Parvati Shallow has won my heart all over again.”—BOWEN YANG

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • A bold, eye-opening memoir about survival, trauma, and healing, from one of reality television’s most talked-about stars

At twenty-five years old, Parvati Shallow was plunged into fame and fortune after becoming the million-dollar winner of the reality television series Survivor. But despite her success, the ghosts of her traumatic past, coupled with the harsh glare of the public eye, kept her locked in a survival cycle of fear and shame that sabotaged her self-confidence and eroded her self-trust. It wasn’t until a series of painful life events, including the death of her younger brother and a challenging divorce, that she found herself on a path of healing that would awaken her true power and reset the course of her life.

Shallow shares the stories that allowed her to transform her most difficult moments into potent catalysts for empowerment. From her childhood growing up in a Florida commune run by a tyrannical female guru, to her journey out of the South and into the L.A. casting rooms that would eventually drop her in the lush but brutal landscapes of Survivor, Shallow shows listeners what it took to build herself into the ultimate survivor—for better and, more often, for worse. She then reveals what it took to rebuild herself into something much greater.

As harrowing as it is healing, Parvati Shallow’s story is a testament to the profound lessons that can be found in radical self-acceptance and self-love.

©2025 Parvati Shallow (P)2025 Random House Audio

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“Nice Girls Don’t Win is a bible for badass women. Smart, fearless, bold, and intimate, Parvati Shallow’s writing is a revelation and a rallying cry.”—Sarah Michelle Gellar, actor and star of Buffy the Vampire Slayer

“Parvati Shallow is the greatest player in Survivor history, but her book is not just for fans of reality TV. It’s a gripping and liberating read for anyone who’s ever been so desperate to please others that they’ve lost sight of themselves.”—Adam Grant, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Hidden Potential and Think Again

“Nice Girls Don’t Win is a bold book, a chronicle of survival, the obstacles that hold you back, and the dreams that usher you forward. It is also a fascinating glimpse into the life of a reality television icon millions of people have gotten to know over the past twenty-five years.”—Roxane Gay, on her Substack The Audacity

5/5

Raw and honest life story that centers around becoming our best self. Well worth the listen. She may not be the black widow anymore but I’ll always be cheering her on.

You don’t need to be “good” to be loved

Loved her honesty and self awareness. I found a lot of themes really relatable - as a fan and fellow recovering people pleaser, this one hits home. Brava x

Parvati is such an inspiration!

I loved her stories, both in and out of the games. She has reached a level of self knowledge I can only dream of…. But inspires me to try and learn!

Love Her Story

I could relisten to this several more times! This story has unique perspectives, life skills, behind the scenes of reality TV, and much more. Truly enjoyed this. Thanks for sharing your story, Parvati!

loved it

highly recommend. learned a lot. could I love her anymore.....???? Yes!!! thank you for this book!

Great book on trauma healing!

I expected an entertaining read when I bought this—and the book delivered—but it was also so much more. I felt Parvati’s story. She does a great job writing and narrating complex topics in a way that’s easily digestible and very human. Her journey really resonates with me, and her somatic telling of trauma healing is in itself healing. I would definitely recommend this book.

Black Widow retired

Parvati shares her beautiful moments and some not so beautiful moments to the world. I really enjoy learning about her. I wanted to learn more. She is truly a modern day goddess and very special. Thank you for your stories, thank you for your strength and for being the amazing mother, you were born to be.

A New Reality Star

Parvati Shallow has always felt like a person, not a character. Seeing the character development changed my reality of her as a person. I learned a lot through this book and feel eager to repeat the transition of transformation as a person, character and reality star. Thank you, Parv

Real, Raw, and Riveting

Parvati left it all on the table with this book. Those who are seeking (or even fearing) a deeper understanding of their own inner psyche will find refuge in her words.

From Reality TV to Real-Life Growth

I really loved this book! Nice Girls Don’t Win gave such powerful insight into how playing Survivor impacted Parvati Shallow’s life - far beyond what we saw on TV. From the grueling physical challenges and navigating complex personalities on the island, to the harsh scrutiny she faced from viewers and the media, her reflections were raw, honest, and eye-opening.

What surprised me most was learning about her upbringing and family dynamics. It added so much depth and context to the Parvati I thought I knew from the show. Her story reframed my perception of her entirely, and I walked away with a greater appreciation for her resilience, growth, and strength.

Highly recommend for any Survivor fan - or anyone interested in stories of self-discovery and redefining your narrative.