Narcissistic Lovers

How to Cope, Recover and Move On

De: Cynthia Zayn, Kevin Dibble

Narrado por: Pam Ward

In a revealing study of relationships where partners love themselves first, last, and always, Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble help listeners determine whether their partner is over the line and has narcissistic personality disorder. The book draws on the authors' research and interviews with a variety of men and women who've been narcissized. Featuring compelling stories and scenarios, Narcissistic Lovers helps victims understand the pain brought on by their abusers, shows why these self-loathers can't change, and offers hope for healing from their "N-fliction".

©2007 Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble, MS (P)2017 Tantor

Narcs 101

The various relationship dynamics of the stories, I found very insightful. By default, one's mind goes to the intimate relationship with a Narc. There are so many other facets to this deviant type of being. I'm glad and a bit wiser for having chose this title.👍

Amazingly insightful!

No words can explain what this book does to someone who never realized they were extremely codependent. As examples are discussed, I caught old memories that I thought were repressed came back!

Most comprehensive & insightful book on narcissism

I love the way this book covers multiple facets of narcissism in addition to what is goes on in relationships. It happens in work dynamics in a very sneaky shrewd cunning way, and also in churches especially with toxic pastors. Everything is well explained. I wish public schools made this book a must read for teenagers. That would raise awareness among kids and would prevent a lot of problems in their adulthood.

A Godsend!! Just what I needed!

I married someone with narcissistic personality disorder. This book has described my wife perfectly. It gave me clarity, laser-like understanding and the confirmation that I needed. we are still married, but I am much more prepared and in a different place spiritually because of this book. some of the passages and the stories hit so close to home at. The author must have been watching us from afar LOL. the behaviors described or 1000% on point! I was just blown away, but better equipped, and understanding of why she acts the way that she does. and if it will be an end to this, it will be an end worth remembering because I now know why, how, and when these ridiculous behaviors occur. And I also know as I figured out earlier, that her behavior has nothing to do with me. My reactions to her behavior or text book behaviors for codependents, which I did not think I was. Rereading this chapter by chapter as we speak

Excellent content

It was very informative and enlightening content.

The use of “his or hers” and “him or her” and “he or she” every time was incredibly distracting and completely unnecessary. Pick one or the other. Alternate if you want. We get it that it could be either.

Amazingly Helpful

This book helped me tremendously. In understanding the behaviors of my narcissist soon to be ex-husband and gave me a sense of relief that it wasn't my fault. No matter what I did and believe I did everything to make this man happy but give my life, he would have left anyway. Just so glad I only suffered 6 months and not years. Thank you so much for writing this book. It was better therapy for me than going to counseling. Blessings

And yet I learned more....

What did you love best about Narcissistic Lovers?

I loved that the dialogue was down to earth and the examples covered different relationships other than just a narcissistic lover --- this one had examples of lovers, co-workers, friends, parents, etc. All relationships were covered.

What other book might you compare Narcissistic Lovers to and why?

Not sure I could name a particular book that this one compares to on this topic.

Which scene was your favorite?

Chapter 17 (I think) when the narrator was relating a middle of the night phone call from a narcissistic lover to his girlfriend. When she was saying what he was "really saying"....It literally made me laugh out loud....but, I am on the "other" side of my relationship and can see this scene for exactly how it is....

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

YES....I had an "ah-ha" moment -which I again didn't think could happen to me anymore on this topic due to past research and experience.....BUT there is a part where she describes a lover to a sematic narcissist as an extension for his own masturbation. This may be hard to hear....but, if you have ever TRULY lived with one - - you would know that is the BEST way to describe most of these situations.....

Any additional comments?

This book kept my interest and the narrator did an AMAZING job~~~~

Realty!

I loved how detailed it was and I got a very good understanding overall. Very good book for those in need of understanding and strength. It is very hard ti accept the truth but this really gave me so much understanding about what I was going through.

Awesome information

loved this book. it really helped me to understand the relationship patterns I have been in and why.

Very informative.

This book opened my eyes to a lot of things and confirmed things I had already suspected. I recommend it 100%.