Loving Our Kids on Purpose

Making a Heart-to-Heart Connection
Narrated by: Troy Klein
Length: 4 hrs and 29 mins
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Publisher's Summary

You can raise good kids!

Loving Our Kids on Purpose combines the principles of the Kingdom of God and revival to form a powerful strategy for parents.

Where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. (2 Corinthians 3:17). Rather than the traditional approaches that train children to learn to accept being controlled by well-meaning parents and adults, this book teaches parents how to train children to manage their freedoms and protect their important heart-to-heart relationships.

Children were designed with the core need of freedom. To deny this or live ignorant of it eventually destroys the trust connection between parent and child.

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.(1 John 4:18 NKJV).

Loving Our Kids on Purpose introduces paradigms, perceptions, skills, and ideas that will help parents reduce fear by eliminating the tool of punishment, and strengthening the core character of their children by empowering their self-control and value for their relationship with their parents.

©2008 Danny Silk (P)2016 Destiny Image Publishers

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Life Changing

I would recommend this book to everyone raising children ... My prayer is for the Lord to ingrain into my brain these truths that I have missed all these years ... I have so messed up this parenting thing in so many ways ...with all of my good intentions!!! I have been parenting out of pure fear ... thinking that I could control behavior! Fear of failure ....I have failed miserably ...
Lord change ME, open my eyes to your Perfect Love - help me to know your love in my heart so that I can LOVE my kids on purpose!!!
Thank you for sharing these pearls of wisdom & truths!

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Confusing, but some good advice

Danny makes some good suggestions, but his idea of God relating to us is confusing. He speaks as if God’s main priority is to make us independent of him and for us to make decisions without him. Danny relates this to parenting and says that that is our main priority. This is confusing. God does the opposite. He’s not trying to give us freedom in order to be self-reliant people. God wants us to be completely dependent on him in every situation. So to make the parallel between God’s parenting of us and our parenting of our children is confusing. His recommendations of giving choices is helpful in many ways, however he speaks as if we should give choices in every situation. This is impractical. He doesn’t do a very good job of speaking about what it means to honour your father and mother. Instead he makes the child the center focus of the family. He almost speaks as if a child can either have freedom or can respect their mother and father, but can’t do both. The child’s freedom, in his opinion, is of paramount importance. Sadly, they are in for a rude awakening when they enter the workforce and realise that they have to submit under authority and their boss is not going to always give them the choices they want. I like his idea of a “think it over” chair. That was good. If you are to read this book, I would suggest you read some other parenting books as well. I would not use this as your only parenting guide.

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Thank you

This book gives me more understanding on how to raise and approach my child. After listening to this book, I rarely yelled at my child as before. I now realized what I’ve been missing. Thank you.

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Provides a great alternate perspective

Provides a refreshing perspective about what raising kids could look like without losing your mind or, more importantly, your relationship with your kids.

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Awesome

A must read for every parent! Practical examples used. Wish I read this book earlier in my life.

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Wow

This changes everything! So thankful for direction in these trying times of 3 young boys and quarantine. Holy Spirit inspired!

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Excellent book and raising kids.

I absolutely loved this book. So many practical examples and principles in which to build a foundation of love and connecting hearts in raising our kids. Such great wisdom and hope is shared.

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Exceptional

I am going to need a paper copy because there are so many things I need to go over. I felt deep sadness that I didn't know of this book until last year but it has been published since 2008. I feel like I need to give this book to every new parent. I am so indebted to Danny and his family for the wisdom imparted in this book!! I am going to be choosing to love my Kids like Jesus loves them and try to recover myself and their hearts from the anger, shame and condemnation in my ignorance.

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Get it off my devise it is isles boring and not informational so bad. Good by to it forever and ever

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Parented many many kids...yet

I learned more from this book than any other parenting book! I’ve been a professional nanny and foster mom and mom of 6 and this ... wow so so so powerful!

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  • 04-02-18

Loved it took a lot out of this book and will use

I will be using some of the tips from this book. recommended.

Loved A***

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  • John Fin
  • 02-13-17

Fantastic and extremely useful book

I have a 15 month old son. This book has already made a huge difference to ou

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  • Gloria I Glow
  • 02-14-20

Excellent book

wow! This is so good. will read it again and again, but already applying some of the principles and they are really good.

Thank you very much. recommending to all my friends.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 11-22-19

Great parenting book

I love the way the book connects the dots with the Bible quotes. Very balanced and inspirational approach.

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  • MideastMC
  • 04-04-19

Helpful and insightful (but will buy print book)

This book is a refreshing take on parenting from a Christian perspective, which furnishes the listener with both a compelling paradigm, to bed in over months and years, and tools to deploy immediately. Central to the whole book is the focus on recognising both a parent’s and a child’s power and need for freedom, and the importance of a heart connection between them that is more resilient and more effective than any external system of control. I have some quibbles, with the theological framework which asserts a very hard and fast distinction between the Old Testament and the New Testament, and with the allowance made for corporal punishment which I found confusing in the broader context. Neither of these are significant problems for the main argument and the genuinely exciting approach to parenting that it presents.

Alas the audio is let down by hasty and inattentive reading and there are several misplaced emphases.

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  • Josie O.
  • 03-31-18

very good but too brief

loved it but too brief. very helpful examples too. The narrator was also very good.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 03-19-18

Best parenting book I've ever read!

Full of very useful and practical advice and methods & example conversations. I really wish I'd read this years ago!

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  • 10-10-16

Excellent reading

Loved it, easy to listen to. Enjoyed the concepts presented, valuable reading for every parent. This book has the potential to change generations for good . Highly recommended!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-18-20

Excellent book

This book has really impacted my parenting in a positive way!!!! Definitely would encourage others to read it!

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  • 09-09-19

New perspective

I am a mother of three (10,5 and2 years of age) My husband and I were brought up with the traditional discipline that is to instill fear and authority over your child so they make the right choice, your (parents) choice. If they don’t follow suit then you punishment / discipline them. And I have struggled to keep this up. It’s tiring, fruitless, mentally draining so I have been looking for a, this sits right in my spirit approach. At first this book was confronting but after listening to this book over two days. It has made me question my many missed opportunities to show God’s love through me. I need to listen several more times of course because their is a lot of good points to remember. But thank you to the author for sharing parenting your experiences and wisdom a Godly way. Here’s to a new journey of parenting for me and my family 🙌

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-04-19

Wonderful and challenging advice

Putting the ‘loving your kids on purpose’ principles in a Christian context, the book promotes treating your children with honour and disciplining through love and not punishing with fear and anger.

Challenging but wonderfully inspiring, it shows you how to help kids develop behaviour they will keep even when you are not there - because they love and value not hurting your heart of love towards them.