I'm Judging You

The Do-Better Manual
Narrated by: Luvvie Ajayi
Length: 6 hrs and 48 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (2,861 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Updated edition includes bonus chapter

Winner of the 2017 Audie Award for Humor

"A truth-riot of a book!" (Shonda Rhimes)
New York Times best seller
Number-one Washington Post best seller
Redbook "20 Books by Women You Must Read This Fall"
GoodHousekeeping.com "17 New Best New Books to Read This Fall"
BookRiot "100 Must-Read Hilarious Books"
Goodreads Choice Awards Nominee
Now in development with Shondaland and ABC Signature Studios as a cable television series

Comedian, activist, and hugely popular culture blogger at AwesomelyLuvvie.com Luvvie Ajayi serves up necessary advice for the masses in this hilarious book of essays.

With over 500,000 readers a month at her enormously popular blog, AwesomelyLuvvie.com, Luvvie Ajayi is a go-to source for smart takes on pop culture. I'm Judging You is her debut book of humorous essays that dissects our cultural obsessions and calls out bad behavior in our increasingly digital, connected lives. It passes on lessons and side-eyes on life, social media, culture, and fame, from addressing those terrible friends we all have, to serious discussions of race and media representation, to what to do about your fool cousin sharing casket pictures from Grandma's wake on Facebook.

With a lighthearted, razor sharp wit and a unique perspective, I'm Judging You is the handbook the world needs, doling out the hard truths and a road map for bringing some "act right" into our lives, social media, and popular culture. It is the Do-Better Manual.

©2016 Lovette Ajayi (P)2016 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"Ajayi shares her observations of public shortcomings in a brash, honest manner that gives listeners the feeling we're on the other end of a long call from a venting best friend. Her spirited explanations and detailed examples will leave you feeling better about your choices." ( AudioFile)

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Good advice for all--adults, that is .

If you care about our world, our values, and how we treat one another, this book is for you! I am 75+ years old and this book was written for a far younger age group. I listened to learn more about the world as my grandchildren in their 20's experience it. Very helpful! I didn't like the profanity, but the author expresses herself well otherwise, with stories and examples to make her points. She narrates with enthusiasm for her subject and if you're honest, you'll feel "judged" at least once.

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doing better

i loved this book it was wonderful, cant wait for the next one!! thanks to my internet cousin Evelyn for referring me. Great Great Book!!!

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Well worth the wait.

Way to go Luvvie. I honestly believe everybody could benefit from reading/listening to this book. I see great thing in her future. If you've never experienced her blog you should check it out.

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Judge Away Chile!

Would you listen to I'm Judging You again? Why?

Yes! The perspectives that Luvvie gave are worth listening to again. This book can serve as a reference to have on deck whenever I judge somebody or catch myself doing the things she talked about. So much insight in a non-finger shaking grandma way.

Who was your favorite character and why?

Luvvie, duh!

What about Luvvie Ajayi’s performance did you like?

Her Nigerian influences

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I have NEVER laughed so hard

This book was like hanging out with my friend. I found myself nodding and clapping, inspired and jovial. I can't wait to buy a physical copy of this book so I can share it with EVERYONE!

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Pretty good.

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

This book was good and there were definitely some laugh out loud moments. If you're a fan of her blog then you will like this book. They're similar writing styles.

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

I love that the author narrated her own story but, i felt like sometimes she wasn't speaking clearly.

Was I'm Judging You worth the listening time?

Of course. I did feel a bit long at times.

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Side-eye Hilarity!!!

I laughed from intro to epilogue. The author is perfect narrating with her comedic made up words and real life stories.

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Extremely worthy read. Couldn't stop! Great!

It was awesome! Just like Kickin it with a friend talking & everything like always!

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Great book, new fan

I have friends who always talk about Luvvie's Twitter and Facebook. After listening, I can see why they enjoy her. This book has made me want to follow Luvvie on every social platform.

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Not all that

May be eye-opening for ignorant teenagers, but not funny, nor insightful for a grown-up woman

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  • Temi
  • 09-26-18

What an insightful book!

I’m Nigerian living in diaspora, a mom-blogger, instagramer and many of the cliches Luvvie talked about in this book. Although funny and uplifting , it also touches a part of me that needs to take action in certain areas of my life...

Thanks Luvvie for sharing the word ‘yansh’ with the whole world😂😂

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  • H. L. Clark
  • 01-16-18

Loved it!

Funny, poignant and thought provoking. Luvvie is hilarious but also talks a lot of sense!

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  • Victor Femi
  • 03-26-17

modern, down to earth, enjoyable to read

...but i must sound the *corny jokes alert*

besides the occasional corny jokes which were like speed bumps on a highway, this book was such a good read/listen. Luvvie dealt with contemporary social issues on our minds without any byte of chill. This book will be your inner "side eye" when you're about to commit the typical social (and social media) gaffes.

Thanks for speaking out Luvvie.

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  • Child of God
  • 06-28-20

Meh

Listening to Jesus & Jollof is better tbh. This was a bit all over the place. Like listening to constant negativity & bad energy.

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  • Lisa Johnston
  • 06-21-20

Loved it

Loved this, it funny and insightful, and a call for action. Listened within 48 hours.

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  • Moko Gawanas
  • 02-20-20

Incredible!

This book was absolutely amazing from the very first chapter to the last. Luuvi was great at narrating her own book. The content was fantastic and relatable, well put together and so easy to listen to and incredibly funny. I Highky recommend this one.

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  • Jada Powell
  • 12-06-19

Great entertainment and Valid points

I mmmhmed, hollered and related. this was really enjoyable. I judged and felt judged 🤣🤣. I can see myself listening again. fav part was the recollection of moving to America.

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  • M. Lewis
  • 10-11-19

Fantastic book, fantastically read!

I am now officially a Luvvie fan and will now be following the blog from which this book was derived! Such an entertaining book - conscious but funny and very very witty! Deservingly on the bestseller list - i shall also be buying the hardback book cos its one of those that needs to be on the shelf too!

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  • Heather Harris-Phillips
  • 08-23-19

Funny.

A young woman with her feet planted firmly on the ground. I felt the wisdom from her to my grandmother. Thank you.

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  • Aisha M
  • 07-23-19

It's okay,I've heard you sis...I'll do better

I finished this book in 2 days!!

I wasn't sure what to expect but I'm glad I purchased it. Luvvie brought the book to live. Still as relevant today as it was when it was published, you would think she wrote it this year.

Great job sis 👏🏾 👏🏾

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  • Dawn
  • 02-18-18

Great Read! definately recommended

I absolutely enjoyed this book! such an unexpected joy to hear the author actually tell the story. it definately makes it a very personal journey for the reader! loved it!!!

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  • Katherine
  • 01-31-18

Essential for our times

Poignant, witty, hilarious. This had me cackling out loud on so many occasions. Worth it!

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  • Jacob
  • 01-10-17

Awesomely true, unfortunately, love to hear you

Luvvie, you keep on judging sister, I agree with 97%, just not on anal bleaching.

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  • Amy
  • 11-14-16

funny!

very funny, i doesn't always agree but i did enjoy. also apparently i need to write more words...