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How to Heal a Painful Relationship

And If Necessary, Part as Friends
Narrated by: Bill Ferguson
Length: 2 hrs and 12 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (145 ratings)
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Featured on Oprah, this book shows, step-by-step, how to end conflict and restore love in any relationship. You will learn what creates love and what destroys it. You will learn how to end conflict, heal hurt, release resentment, communicate, resolve issues, and restore your peace of mind. Bill's experience as a former divorce attorney provides rare insight into the nature of relationships. The author of this book was featured on Oprah.
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Finally something that works!!!

I shamfully admit to owning over 200 self help books collected over the last 10 or so years, so I feel very confident telling everyone that this book is an absolutely mind blowing, life changing experience to say the least! I started reading it hoping to learn new skills on how to keep a very crazed, dumb-a**, soon to be ex-husband calm, and hopefully avoid an expensive war. I ended up understanding my husbands issues as well as my own and was able to uncover the love that had been buried by 10 years worth of pain. In a nutshell, we are back together again enjoying a relationship we never had but had always wanted. The lessons are easy to understand, but the work is very hard. This is something that needs to be listened to over and over again. You'll get something out of it every time. If you do this, you'll know when you finally "got it." Looking in the mirror and really seeing the truth is a very humbling, albeit liberating experience and the hardest thing anyone will ever do if they're brave enough to try. When you get to the point where you don't feel the need to be heard anymore and genuinely hope for the best for both, then you'll understand what I'm trying to explain. If someone had told me I'd feel this way before reading it, I might not have started it since I did get something out of being right. Who knows what will happen in the future. Knowing that I am good enough for myself has allowed me to enjoy all of my relationships without a sense of feeling that I need those relationships to feel worthwhile. You might think you know who you are and that your partner is truly satan reincarnate, but to really KNOW yourself down to your soul despite your past, despite what your spouse has done to you......that's a totally different experience all together. There are no words to explain what that kind of joy feels like. The beauty of it is you don't need your partners cooperation to get results. Thank you Bill Ferguson!!! I'm forever grateful!!!

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Critical information for any couple

This book should be mandated reading for any couple considering divorce. More marriages and families could be saved if couples are given truly good advice, and the current unnecessarily adversarial legal system which only serves to disconnect couples further is reigned in.

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  • 12-06-16

It Works, Has Bonuses, Ends Victim Mentality, ETC

This is a fabulous book for everyone, considering marriage, married or in a bad relationship. It helps improve communication. It's the best book I have found on understanding being a victim and how to stop being a victim. It's a great book.We each bring baggage into a relationship and this book is a blue print on how to let go of it and not let it taint your experience. It's very helpful. I sent a copy to both my kids and three friends.

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Very helpful.

This audiobook put things into perspective and was very helpful. I recommend it for couples who would like to fix their relationship.

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easy to follow

this book was very easy to follow and understand! helps you make decisions without alot of conflict.

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useful information

I found the book to be useful and believe it will be helpful to me.

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Tools to help my marriage and my job!

This book was excellent. It gave me some tools to navigate not only my relationship with my husband, but my boss and coworkers as well. Thank you Bill!

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Not a usual book of theories but one with action steps

I found the clear action steps to be extremely applicable and effective in my case. I’m glad I read this book.

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Worth every single penny

I always thought that responsibility was blame and this showed me the difference... I never knew how selfish , demanding and insensitive that I was to the situations in my life... I learned how to let go, how to genuinely give an apology that he accepted... amazing truth, amazing revelation, amazing how 2 hours of listening was able to break a glass that months of resistance & advice from friends never did... He is a God send ...

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great book a lot of good information

great book a lot of good ideas and points to think of no matter which way you end up