How to Fix a Broken Heart

De: Guy Winch Ph.D.

Narrado por: Guy Winch Ph.D.

Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty self-help advice for the broken-hearted.

Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand the psychology of love and loss, we can begin to fix it.

Through compelling research and new scientific studies, Winch reveals how and why heartbreak impacts our brain and our behavior in dramatic and unexpected ways, regardless of our age. Emotional pain lowers our ability to reason, to think creatively, to problem solve, and to function at our best. In How to Fix a Broken Heart he focuses on two types of emotional pain—romantic heartbreak and the heartbreak that results from the loss of a cherished pet. These experiences are both accompanied by severe grief responses, yet they are not deemed as important as, for example, a formal divorce or the loss of a close relative. As a result, we are often deprived of the recognition, support, and compassion afforded to those whose heartbreak is considered more significant.

Our heart might be broken, but we do not have to break with it. Winch reveals that recovering from heartbreak always starts with a decision, a determination to move on when our mind is fighting to keep us stuck. We can take control of our lives and our minds and put ourselves on the path to emotional healing and rebuilding self-worth after loss. Winch offers a toolkit rooted in mindfulness and coping skills to help you handle a broken heart and how to, eventually, move on.

Good book but may be my case is a little more severe

I was really desperate for help when I got this book. It is a really painful heartbreak for me. It almost felt like the first time my heart is broken this time. Some of the case of of aftermath of heartbreak written in the book were similar to what I’ve gone through in my much younger years (except for the cancer part). Yet, it doesn’t help much with mine. I’m not saying their cases are less severe; to be fair, it’s a good book and comfort “read” for those who need it to begin their recovery and healing. Overall, it didn’t do much to me.

Very useful.

I have only glowing thoughts of this book. It's direct, highly useful, and full of compassion. This is exactly the kind of book that I wish I had at previous points in my life. I will be relistening to it and would strongly recommend it.

Tons of useful advice

Time is essential for curing a broken heart, yes. But there is a lot more you can do so you do not depend exclusively on it, and heal more quickly and effectively, and this book spells it out not only clearly but with compassion. Hang in there, you will heal. Read this and apply it, you will heal faster and better.

paradigm shift

Guy Winch shines a bright light on an unrealized social problem. one that sorely needs addressing and introduce the skill sets early on. what a marked change in the world we would see from the ripple effect in people. One of our most basic needs is to be loved and loss and heartache are the result of that need having been previously filled and now no longer filled--yet still a need that needs to be filled. its a silent conundrum that has actual healing strategies. why wouldn't we acknowledge the need for and deliver this skill set? and early on? the ripple effect would be far reaching-impact on marriages, families, friendships, and consequently all work environments, which in turn would affect all facets of the publics daily living. This book is a great tangible start to that for interpersonal growth and to add to curriculum.

Amazing!

So much clarity and insight. Ah ha moments.
Research and documentation are invaluable!
Don’t hesitate to listen. I’m going to listen again.