Getting the Love You Want

Publisher's Summary

Originally published in 1988, Getting the Love You Want has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. This 20th-anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to the groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix's updated philosophy for eliminating all negativity from couples' daily interactions, allowing listeners of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.

©1988, 2008 Harville Hendrix (P)2008 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship." (M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled)

One Stop Resource for improving your relationship

I found this book useful, inspiring, and immediately implementable. It helped me understand myself, my wife, and what I needed to do to improve my marriage. I would make this required reading by law for anyone married on planning to get married. I would recommend this book to anyone.

12 of 12 people found this review helpful

Startling, Yet Thrilling!

If you could sum up Getting the Love You Want in three words, what would they be?

I don't think three words are enough for this crazy adventure I just went on.

What did you like best about this story?

I liked how this book was very thorough. The narrator explains how our brains work within our relationships in terms that are easy to understand.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

The Hidden Agenda of Your Subconscious!

Any additional comments?

Though this book seems to be written for couples who are already going through the "power struggle" and learning how to get their relationship back, I decided to give it a try. I'm 27 and currently living with my boyfriend of three years. We have had a great relationship so far but this book taught me some of the underlying tensions that seem to develop over time. An entire new world has just been opened to me and it has terrified me and exhilarated me. I've just learned things about my past that I've never known before and with this new information, I can move forward in my relationship with a better light.
I'm pretty sure everyone can learn something new about themselves with this book. Even if you're single and not even interested in a romantic love right now, the knowledge in this book will put what you need from a relationship in a new perspective. I highly recommend it to every human being.

9 of 9 people found this review helpful

PLEASE match narration to content!

I really wanted to like this book, but the narrator's style was so annoying I couldn't listen long enough to get to the first chapter. His style was too dramatic and over-acted for the material and thus came across as condescending and inauthentic. Good narration should add to, not detract from, the material being read. Unfortunately, the listening samples aren't long enough to allow one to determine whether a particular style is well suited to the content, and what may be palatable in a short sample can easily become a distraction over a longer period.

34 of 37 people found this review helpful

Over-dramatic narration proved unbearable

How did the narrator detract from the book?

I will have to find time to read this book because while the content is engaging and extremely useful, the narration was distracting to the point that I just couldn't take the mismatch with the material any longer and gave up. Garrett's style may fit the Westerns he usually narrates, but it kept making me think of car-chow commercials, and I couldn't concentrate on the principles he was bulldozing through. I hope Audible, and/or the Hendrix's, will try to find a more suited narrator who A) cares more about the material, and B) who has the nuanced capacity to take the listeners through the varied emotional and psychological territory of the book.

7 of 7 people found this review helpful

Life saver!

The ideas here were the key to being able to really communicate about problems and appreciate the good in our relationship! No other book has been so valuable. The authors years of experience are evident!

11 of 12 people found this review helpful

The most compelling self help book I've ever read

This book is well written, captivates my attention, is easy to follow, very informative, thoroughly answers many questions that I've long struggles with and gives me hope of having the marriage I've long wanted. It is much more than a book on relationships, it is a book on healing and becoming whole.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

Great Book

If you are in a relationship you need to listen to this book! Great for everyone involved.

8 of 9 people found this review helpful

Good but....

What did you like best about Getting the Love You Want? What did you like least?

I liked that there are exercises you can do alone and with your partner.

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

Less religion. There is a whole chapter on the author's biography and how he sees therapy as a way to bring people close to God. He needs to be neutral in order to relate to ALL his readers

Would you listen to another book narrated by Jack Garrett?

not if religion is over lapping psychology too many times.

Any additional comments?

Please put a pdf file for the exercises section. It is hard to take note of the verbal instructions. A pdf list for exercises would be a well needed study addition.

7 of 8 people found this review helpful

Easily in Top 5 of most effective Self Help books

One of very few books that I think literally everyone should read. The style, to me, was like a cross between King, Warrior, Magician, Lover and How to Make Friends and Influence People. It had a great deal of quality psychology information that is relatable to a wide audience as well as lots of stories with the same affect. It will be easy for most people to relate to and to understand. I fucking loved it. It's helped me understand how to do as it says and get the love I want. All of my relationships are better for it, and all other areas of performance in my life have improved because of this book. I'm already listening a second time.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

The Guide Anyone Can Use

Would you consider the audio edition of Getting the Love You Want to be better than the print version?

Harville Hendrix and Helen are amazing individuals. I can't tell you how many times I thought that they might be spying on me to get their insight because the things they were saying rang true in my life and those were the specific things I was looking for answers to. I really enjoyed this book and the fact that they give you knowledge you can start using immediately.

What other book might you compare Getting the Love You Want to and why?

None, but I do love Making Marriage Simple too!

Which scene was your favorite?

All

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Absolutely

3 of 3 people found this review helpful