Finding and Keeping Love

An Imago-Based Program for Getting the Love You Want

By: Harville Hendrix PhD

Narrated by: Harville Hendrix PhD

Length: 6 hrs and 38 mins

Publisher's Summary

In the field of relationship psychology, Harville Hendrix has transformed our understanding of what makes us fall in love - and what makes it last. His Imago Relationship therapy, co-created with his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, is a proven healing process now used by more than 2,000 therapists worldwide. With Finding and Keeping Love, this world-renowned relationship therapist brings you the most important practices and insights from Imago therapy distilled from more than three decades of working with singles, couples, and parents. Whether you’re still looking for that special person or you’re already in a committed relationship, here is a program to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the vital ingredients for deep and lasting love. The Imago Approach: Understand Love at Its Deepest Level. What causes us to fall in love? Although you may have a conscious idea of the traits you’re attracted to, Harville Hendrix teaches that there is an even more powerful force in the subconscious mind that defines your ideal partner: the "Imago."

©2008 Harville Hendrix (P)2008 Harville Hendrix

Yaay another one dusted.

I loved being able to listen instead of read having lots time on the rd. loved that narrated by author. another tick off my favourite must read author list. loved the exercises at the end of each chapter.

Every one should read, practice this in life.

We practiced this together and we made it. He passed away 10 years now,and I still feel His love. And love him. It is the most wonderful experience in life to have true love. And by keeping improving myself to be true to my needs and want with clear expression. Made me full with better life today like free bird...with respectful relationship with each one I am in touch with!! Thank you for the books. Because we are here to learn to love and be loved.

Good practical advice you can use

Very informative and inspiring advice that seems to help.

Good audio version specifically made for this format.

Helpful exercises to pause and work through in each chapter. This along with Hold Me Tight is a good choice when in pursuit of relationship help. Both have interesting perspectives and practical help.

Both partners would need to read or listen to either one for it to work; and be willing to have a go.
This book in particular though has left us both feeling like we have something to begin with, rather than just give up in our efforts to save our relationship.

Not at all scientific

focused on too much on post marriage stuff, like marriage could solve all your problem

and I HATE THE THINGS THEY TALKED RELATED TO PHYSICS AND COSMOLOGY to prove their point... first! there is matter and anti matter asymmetry... second! we never proved a particle such that it is own anti particle doesn't exist...

these two don't understand what science is so STOP talking about it

Its like turning on a light in a dark room!

Lot's of "ah ha" moments,. For me, love has often been similar to being In a dark room - hope for the best but brace for the worst when you don't expect it. Not only does Harville illuminate common relationship patterns and why they happen, but he also clearly explains exercises and gives examples of how to reenergize love and bring back safety and passion, I'm super-excited that "true love" is not only possible and long lasting, but can also exceed the experience of the initial "romantic love" phase! It takes increased awareness and transformation, but as Harville points out, there is no higher human purpose than to give and receive love. Thank you Harville!.

Life-changing

This is the first book by this author that I have “read” (listened to). I am blown away. I have studied things like Nonviolent Communication, and I can’t believe I’ve spent my whole life without this information! I am very looking forward to listening to this again and again, putting it into practice, and watching the relationships in my life transform.

So much wonderful information

I love this book and will use it regularly until it becomes second nature. I wish I'd found it sooner.

great information

this feels like a timeless classic and I hope to listen again and again. I appreciate that it's not too long.

Transformational

I came to this book upset and out of ideas. Me and my boyfriend love each other very much but can’t stop arguing over seemingly small things. I could feel affection wilting because our relationship isn’t a safe place anymore and I didn’t know what to do to fix it. Having listened to this book I now feel so full of hope and energy. Harville identified so many things that I have been doing wrong and can easily change. I never realized before that me and my boyfriend have difficulty asking for what we want so unmet needs and frustrations were mounting. Now I have a practical and safe way to communicate my needs to him. I feel like we can turn things around. A must have for a serious relationship.

Conscious relating in action

Love this audio with Harville Hendrix.
If you are interested in being in a conscious relationship this audio has a lot to offer.
It explains the underlying dynamics, why, what is happening - is happening... and how to break the spell of the power struggle that seems to be very common in relationships.
It addresses couples and singles alike.
How to bring change to a relationship and how to prepare for a new one.

Great ideas lovingly put

My favourite part was the example dialogues, you can hear real love in their voices! I can't wait to start putting these techniques into practice in a new relationship, I think it could help build a strong foundation.

I believe this is what I needed to do to heal

It was pleasant listening to his voice, clear and at the right speed for this kind of information. I could do the meditations. although single at the moment, I believe my next relationship experience would be different, would still do the practices in the meantime.

This is the Bible of happy couple relationships

I listened to it in two days, after I hurt the woman of my dreams and she left me. I know how to make it work now. I hope I will get the chance.

Easy to listen along and makes so much sense

The chapters on childhood development were fascinating to me. It’s a beautiful thing to realise that we can heal our childhood wounds in conscious partnership.

Disappointing

I was quite hopeful to get a lot from this book only to find it focused on a single streak in such a complex multilayered dynamic in life
There was a lot or repitieron of simplistic theories and slogans
Kinda of wasted my time

Pleasure to listen

The voiceover is very calming and gently invites you to join this sessions. The book consists of several sessions that you better do together with your partner. I think it is more suitable for couples who were together for many years or for those who who went through the romantic stage of their relationship and started the routine, kinda boring life together and would like to restore the passion they used to have. Nice book. Sometimes author goes too much into talking about quantum physics or cleverness of nature and as a mostly rational person I was a bit bothered by that. But the author always says that it is his thoughts, the way he likes to see things and it doesn't have to be true and you don't have to believe the same. I think it was important to say.

Practical and enlightening

This book has taught me
1. The PHASES of relationship behavior from the romantic phase to the power struggle phase to the break through or break up phase
2. The phycology of WHY we are attracted to our specific partners
3. The WHY we go through the 3 phases of relationships
4. HOW to become a conscious couple in simple practical terms including communication, fun and intimacy
Thank you

Eye opening and a great concept

i think a couple of listens are needed and at least one with your partner, but will also change how you parent or talk to a friend maybe.