Finding and Keeping Love

An Imago-Based Program for Getting the Love You Want

De: Harville Hendrix PhD

Narrado por: Harville Hendrix PhD

In the field of relationship psychology, Harville Hendrix has transformed our understanding of what makes us fall in love—and what makes it last. His Imago Relationship therapy, co-created with his wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, is a proven healing process now used by more than 2,000 therapists worldwide. With Finding and Keeping Love, this world-renowned relationship therapist brings you the most important practices and insights from Imago therapy distilled from more than three decades of working with singles, couples, and parents. Whether you’re still looking for that special person or you’re already in a committed relationship, here is a program to help you better understand yourself, your partner, and the vital ingredients for deep and lasting love.

The Imago Approach: Understand Love at Its Deepest Level
What causes us to fall in love? Although you may have a conscious idea of the traits you’re attracted to, Harville Hendrix teaches that there is an even more powerful force in the subconscious mind that defines your ideal partner: the “Imago.” This is an image that lives in your deep psyche, created during your childhood from both your happiest and most difficult experiences with your caretakers. To help you develop an awakened approach to relationship, Dr. Hendrix provides you with practical techniques for seeing how your Imago was formed, learning what qualities you truly seek in a mate, and becoming aware of the subconscious forces that ignite the spark of romance.

But what happens when romance wears off? Dr. Hendrix explains that when our idealized projections dissolve and we start to know our partners for who they really are, the relationship enters a “power struggle.” Navigating the turbulent waters of this critical time requires us to learn a new way of communicating, one that he calls “Imago dialogue.” Through step-by-step instruction and guided exercises, Dr. Hendrix teaches you this critical skill for open and honest discourse—where each partner expresses their needs without criticism or negativity—in order to build the foundations for mature, passionate, and unbreakable love.

Our search for love is “our most important human project,” teaches Harville Hendrix. It is through the sweet and sacred power of relationship that we can find true healing, complete the unfinished business of childhood, and return to our natural wholeness. Join this trusted expert on Finding and Keeping Love for a complete home-study course to learn the key insights and skills for building a successful relationship—and to realize the true love you were meant to have.

Good practical advice you can use

Very informative and inspiring advice that seems to help.

Good audio version specifically made for this format.

Helpful exercises to pause and work through in each chapter. This along with Hold Me Tight is a good choice when in pursuit of relationship help. Both have interesting perspectives and practical help.

Both partners would need to read or listen to either one for it to work; and be willing to have a go.
This book in particular though has left us both feeling like we have something to begin with, rather than just give up in our efforts to save our relationship.

Yaay another one dusted.

I loved being able to listen instead of read having lots time on the rd. loved that narrated by author. another tick off my favourite must read author list. loved the exercises at the end of each chapter.

Its like turning on a light in a dark room!

Lot's of "ah ha" moments,. For me, love has often been similar to being In a dark room - hope for the best but brace for the worst when you don't expect it. Not only does Harville illuminate common relationship patterns and why they happen, but he also clearly explains exercises and gives examples of how to reenergize love and bring back safety and passion, I'm super-excited that "true love" is not only possible and long lasting, but can also exceed the experience of the initial "romantic love" phase! It takes increased awareness and transformation, but as Harville points out, there is no higher human purpose than to give and receive love. Thank you Harville!.

Every one should read, practice this in life.

We practiced this together and we made it. He passed away 10 years now,and I still feel His love. And love him. It is the most wonderful experience in life to have true love. And by keeping improving myself to be true to my needs and want with clear expression. Made me full with better life today like free bird...with respectful relationship with each one I am in touch with!! Thank you for the books. Because we are here to learn to love and be loved.

great information

this feels like a timeless classic and I hope to listen again and again. I appreciate that it's not too long.