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Are you ready to open to love’s deepest bliss?

Every woman knows the fairy tale: find the right man, give him what he wants and needs, and he’ll love you forever. But when the myth you’ve been asked to believe fails to deliver - when you sense you’ve been settling for far less than you know in your heart is possible - how do you attract and keep a man capable of meeting what you most passionately yearn for?

In Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide to Men, Sex, and Love’s Deepest Bliss, David Deida explores every aspect of the feminine practice of spiritual intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to family and career to emotions, trust, and commitment. Presented as a collection of letters from a man to his “dear lover”, here is this internationally acclaimed writer’s invitation to practice love as a living art as you discover: 

  • Why your man is always your choice - and how to choose a man of deep integrity who will satisfy the needs of your body, heart, and spirit
  • “Sexual essence” and the three stages of loving: how to understand your fluctuating capacity to experience divine connection with another
  • Knowing when to end a relationship and how to deal with the “him-shaped void” your absent man leaves behind
  • Daily exercises to help you and your partner move from separation to openness in two-bodied devotional trust

Ultimately, what every woman wants is to give and receive love fully. Whether you’re partnered or alone, Dear Lover reveals that “your love is the same love that yearns to open at everybody’s heart. You will attract and inspire a man as willing and able to open as you are. Constant yearning is the call to open and give yourself to all as love’s offering”.

©2002, 2005 David Deida (P)2021 Sounds True

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a book with understanding

my fiance told me about this book and I bought this book to help me communicate with him more. we love each other that we always try to better one another and this book opened up alot about myself I never knew. I can say reading this book got me closer to my partner and will my commitment to our relationship we will grow deeper in love and deep with G-d. I highly recommend it to any ladies out there who wants a deeper connection with their partners.

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So good!

YES to everything David is teaching and sharing in this book. This invitation to love more deeply is life changing!

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  • 03-15-22

Read both!

I was introduced to The Way of the Superior Man and found my way to Dear Lover. Dear Lover was a little more repetitive than what I found in The Way of the Superior Lover.

They are both great reads and should be read together.

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Get a little gut punch.

Was very challenging to my ego. First half of the book was a little "meh" and then the meat of the book kicked in and I wanted to both burn and frame the book. Good stuff.

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love this book!

I have listened to the way of the superior man three times, it had a major influence on the shift that took place in order for me to manifest my amazing husband. I didn't know dear lover was available on audible until recently, but it had been recommended by friends. I found the book captivating, enlightening, and it really helped me to fill in the blanks in a couple places when it comes to embodying feminine essence.

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So good

Love this book, so well written. Pure bliss to my ears & warming to my cold yet melting heart

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Not for me

Out of date. Too much unrealistic for the present times. Good luck for those that can be so understanding

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  • 12-30-21

Heart strengthening

Full of poetic inspiration to live fully as a woman. I feel empowered to hold my heart with love and openness and give it to the divine in all circumstances of life and love.

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  • Emzzzer
  • 03-28-21

Gift Yourself Love

A wonderful opportunity to awaken your energy to receive love whether in intimate relationships or alone.

Easy to listen to in digestible chapters

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  • 03-05-22

Literally Life changing

This book is such a profound, insightful, EMPOWERING gift to any woman who gets her hands on this and listens and reflects with an open heart. The timing of this coming into my life right now must be divine. Words aren’t enough to express my deep gratitude to the author and narrator for the precious, life changing gift of a newfound perspective and understanding of the perfect duality and harmony of the divine feminine and divine masculine. My mind is blown. SO MANY things / scenarios / experiences and behaviours make sense now. Before I was blind and now I can see.
Love, light and limitless gratitude xx

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  • 07-06-21

Heart opening

Well, this was just what I needed right now. Such an eye opening and heart opening book. Loved it so much!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-03-22

Dangerous stereotypes disguised as erotica

This book claims to have a deep message, but is full of cliche generalisations about what is masculine and feminine. For starters, the text is extremely repetitive and annoying. But the content is nothing shot of dangerous for women. It promotes the idea that a woman must fully submit to man, not only sexually, but in all aspects of life in order to be fulfilled. The book actively discourages women from navigating and guiding their own life. In an outrageous chapter, the author (with mansplaining arrogance) minimises abusive relationships, claiming that independent women live in self abuse that might be even worse than domestic violence. I found this book insulting and a book that women are certainly better off without.

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  • 03-22-22

Incredible

I don’t have words. I am changed forever with this book. Met a love of my life 2 days after starting it. And it guided me and the partnership into blissful openhearted communion. He went back home overseas but I live with a truly open heart now. With this book and this love. I know the power of it