Chatter

The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

By: Ethan Kross

Narrated by: Ethan Kross

Length: 5 hrs and 44 mins

Publisher's Summary

An award-winning psychologist reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and shows how we can harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying, and more productive life.

“This book is going to fundamentally change some of the most important conversations in your life - the ones you have with yourself.” (Adam Grant, best-selling author of Give and Take)

• One of the best new books of January 2021 - The Washington Post, BBC, CNN Underscored, Shape, Behavioral Scientist, PopSugar 
• Kirkus Reviews, Publishers Weekly, and Shelf Awareness starred reviews
• Next Big Idea Club finalist

Tell a stranger that you talk to yourself, and you’re likely to get written off as eccentric. But the truth is that we all have a voice in our head. When we talk to ourselves, we often hope to tap into our inner coach but find our inner critic instead. When we’re facing a tough task, our inner coach can buoy us up: Focus - you can do this. But, just as often, our inner critic sinks us entirely: I’m going to fail. They’ll all laugh at me. What’s the use?

In Chatter, acclaimed psychologist Ethan Kross explores the silent conversations we have with ourselves. Interweaving groundbreaking behavioral and brain research from his own lab with real-world case studies - from a pitcher who forgets how to pitch to a Harvard undergrad negotiating her double life as a spy - Kross explains how these conversations shape our lives, work, and relationships. He warns that giving in to negative and disorienting self-talk - what he calls “chatter” - can tank our health, sink our moods, strain our social connections, and cause us to fold under pressure.

But the good news is that we’re already equipped with the tools we need to make our inner voice work in our favor. These tools are often hidden in plain sight - in the words we use to think about ourselves, the technologies we embrace, the diaries we keep in our drawers, the conversations we have with our loved ones, and the cultures we create in our schools and workplaces.

Brilliantly argued, expertly researched, and filled with compelling stories, Chatter gives us the power to change the most important conversation we have each day: the one we have with ourselves.

©2021 Ethan Kross (P)2021 Random House Audio

Easy read for powerful change

I religiously follow BJ Fogg do when he recommended this book I was in. I found it to be remarkable and especially helpful in coaching people with addiction who struggle with excessive chatter. Thanks 👍👊 A+ ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Great book

I really enjoyed this book. Not only were there great ideas and suggestions but it was clear, descriptive and well written. He summarizes his “toolbox” of ideas at end which was very helpful.

Chatter is Great

I found chatter to be in someways similar to the wonderful book: Why we sleep by Matthew Walker. Similar to Why we sleep, Chatter is greatly researched, clearly articulated, And most importantly, it highlights a variety of very illuminating solutions that show what works and doesn’t work to clear the mind.

The performance is OK. The story is very even keeled ..staying away from hyperbole.

I love the parts about placebo, greenery, Perspective, and just all the very tactical solutions that are recommended. I’m going to read it again.

Why is this book written only now?

Makes so much sense. Extremely helpful. The book puts together bits of ideas from others but more importantly, Ethan stitches hem together and injects his own experiences, analysis, and findings and lays it out to us in an elegant discussion.

Well-researched and to the point

“Chatter” is a brief yet in-depth look at how the ways by which we talk to ourselves affect our mental and emotional states. Its core message is this: mental chatter, which is fueled by a variety of different internal and external factors, is a massive source of physical and emotional pain in our society.

When that chatter gets out of hand, we experience stress, anxiety, doubt, and even depression. Thus, Kross’s goal here is to break down the ways by which we cause our chatter to amplify and provide a plethora of tools we can leverage to quiet that destructive voice in our heads.

One of my favorite of those tools is the idea of stepping back from the situation at hand and seeing it from a more distant perspective. As Kross says, we can do this in a multitude of ways. For example, we ask ourselves if the event in front of us will even matter in x number of years. Or, we can talk to ourselves in the second person, calling ourselves by name and, thus, providing an “outsider’s” perspective on the situation at hand.

There are many other great stress-reducing strategies that Kross brings to light here as well. All of those strategies are well-researched and strongly reinforced by references to scientific studies — some of which Kross conducted on his own (or with the help of his team).

One of the best parts about this book is that all of the above information is covered in a relatively quick fashion. Clocking in around six hours in audiobook format, this one provides lots of useful info without dragging things on for longer than needed.

For all of those reasons, I recommend checking this one out.

-Brian Sachetta
Author of “Get Out of Your Head”

So simple

I learned a lot, the author spoke in easy to understand terms. Im going to start implementing the tools!!

Fabulously written

This book is perfect. It does such a wonderful job of connecting so many interesting stories and relevant events to this idea of chatter or self talk. So many nuggets of wisdom in this book.

life changing

compact book, evidence-based, real, and practical. i will start putting into practice these strategies!

A Book That Helped Me See The Bigger Picture!

It's quite amazing how things happen for a reason. Recently, I was bullied by rejecting a man from Facebook Dating saying we aren't a good match. I went with my inner voice or Chatter as this book calls it. That night I got an email book recommendation from Penguin and it was this book. I had a free credit on Audible and I made up my mind, then purchased it.

Little did I know that I would encounter a story told by Ethan. Normally when I encounter or come across books similar to this one I was expecting a whole lecture on our thought processes. This book is totally different! I will not give away spoilers for there are many that come to mind. But, what I can say is that if you are an introvert and also an over thinker then this book is for you.

I've always ignored my chatter, never went with it, my intuition etc. Recently, I went with it due to relationships in dating. Because of that I learned how to harness my emotions and to not react when provoked to do so by someone else who is angry. Trust me...this book gets 5 stars. Read it and learn about your own chatter. Recognize it and use it to the best of your advantage.

Ethan Kross unlocks profound understanding.

Reading this book and using it's insights has empowered and healed me. Thank you Ethan Kross