Attached

Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

'A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship.' – John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers listeners a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.

Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.

Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

Critic reviews

Should be essential reading for everyone. Reading this book I understood for the first time why my love life was the way it was . . . Such a vital read to help you understand your own behaviour and that of others. (Marianne Power)

Revelatory (The New York Times)

A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship. (John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

Chock-full of tips, questionnaires, and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of looking for love in all the right places and improving existing relationships.

A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships.

A valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or – as in my case – even after you've been married twenty-one years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse.

For its many, many fans, <i>Attached </i>has been life changing. (Stylist)

Anyone who has been plagued by that age-old question &ndash; 'What is his <i>deal</i>?&quot; &ndash; could benefit from a crash course in attachment theory.

A fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures &ndash; finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

I have lost count of the number of times that I have recommended this book to clients. In it, the authors explain a complicated subject in brilliantly accessible terms, to help us better understand ourselves and the way we form relationships, enabling us all to heal from past wounds and build better futures.

This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment.

A vibe

The information is relayed clearly and concisely. The practical examples and activities add to the reality of the principles and strategies shared by giving the reader the opportunity to reflect on their particular attachment style and practice ways of not only improving (if they need to) but also recognizing other attachment style and deciphering what works for your practical attachment style - really enjoyed this insightful read and I learned a lot.

Great guide

A very useful & authentic self help guide for the path towards fulfilling relationships - much recommended for all relationships

Incredible!!!

If only we learnt this stuff at a school... and if only id got my hands on this sooner! WOW! Don’t hesitate, snag it! ;)

Insightful and impactful

I enjoyed all the examples that explain the various attachment styles. it will definitely help weed out people when dating and shows that communication is key!

One of the best books ever!

Amazin book! Everyone should listen to it!!!

I would also advise you to listen books related to Narcissism, Codependency, Gaslighting, Passive-agressive behavior, etc.

Should I stay or should I go, by Ramani Durvasula
The women who love too much, by Robin Norwood
The book you wish your parents had read, by Philippa Perry
The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle

And I am about to listen Complex PTSD, by Pete Walker

The only book you need to understand relationships

I found the information extremely useful and true to my experiences in love. Realized that a lot of the problems I have run into were because of attachment issues. The advice offered such as about the importance of good communication is straightforward and easy to apply. I have read a lot of books and listened to a lot of shows about love and relationships and so many seem to contradict each other. This book seems to make so much sense and the reading was so great and made it an easy listen.

Briliant and fascinating!

Loved the narrator and could not stop listening until the end. Understand my own behaviour as well as previous partner's behaviour towards our relationships so much better

Informative but a bit one-sided

This book was super easy to follow and packed with useful insights on attachment styles — especially great if you’re new to the topic. It definitely helped me better understand certain emotional patterns and dynamics in relationships.
That said, I did feel like the author had a strong bias. The narrative leaned heavily toward portraying insecurely attached people (especially anxious types) as victims and avoidant types as the “bad guys,” which felt oversimplified and a little unfair. For a topic this complex, I expected a more neutral and scientifically grounded approach. Still, it’s a helpful introduction if you read it with a critical eye.

Life changing

Highly recommended if you or your partner struggle with attachment issues. The book combines science based research with practical steps for the layperson. Truly life changing.

Must read for all!!!

This book should be recommended for teenagers and young adults it really helps you to be able to indentify attachment styles in yourself and others. It really shone a light on my past relationships and experiences