Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice

By: Craig English, James Rapson

Narrated by: Arika Escalona

Do you (or does someone you know)...

• Apologize frequently or for things you are not responsible for?
• Get preoccupied with what other people think of you?
• Become unhappy when your partner isn't happy?
• Feel worried or fretful so often it seems normal?
• Often not know what you want?
• Constantly second-guess yourself?

Chronic Niceness affects multitudes, causing severe anxiety and depression, crippling self-esteem, and undermining and destroying relationships. Anxious to Please reveals the primary psychological cause of Chronic Niceness: Anxious Attachment. Anxious Attachment drives the Nice Person to accommodate, acquiesce, and avoid conflict. Nice People take what they're given rather than asking for what they want, often sacrificing relationships, careers and their own integrity.

Anxious to Please presents seven powerful practices designed to bring about resilient self-esteem; a happier and calmer emotional life; a reality-based optimism for the future; fulfilling sex; and satisfying relationships.

©2006 James Rapson and Craig English (P)2012 James Rapson and Craig English

Good Book for People Pleasers!

This book was very helpful and insightful. It described me exactly as a people pleaser. It explained many of the pitfalls I've encountered in my life and in relationships. The 7 practices they include are accessible and empowering. A transformative read!

More than don't be so nice but courteous to you.

It is a to the apple's core from the tree knowledge. It will make you pause and breath deep.

Help for the "chronically nice"

If you know someone who suffers from anxiety or you yourself suffer from it, this is a good read to explain why. People who are "too nice" suffer from a form of social anxiety. They want to be loved but do not believe that they deserve love and in fact often feel unlovable. They are sometimes referred to as "people pleasers" and live a life of quiet desperation pretending that everything's well with the world. This anxious attachment disorder often leads them to stay in unhealthy relationships and are prone to sabotage good relationships. This book is about helping those people to gain confidence and be the person they were meant to be.

Super eye opening!!

Loved this book and how it walks you through where the problems originated. How you might act and how to change your thought processes.

Intense Teeth Grinder

The knowledge that this book shared was life transforming. The knowledge helped me to recognize my physical symptoms (grinding my teeth) of when stress is approaching and how to make a proactive plan to manage.

You must put in the work

I would recommend this book to anyone who thinks they may be chronically nice. However, you must take it seriously, take notes if necessary, and commit to using these tools. I saw a large amount of progress early on and then put the book down, and lost my way. Now, I’m ready to start all over from the beginning. The book is that good!

WOW!!

Any additional comments?

People with low self esteem or little confidence, its a MUST!
Very good info, approaches the subject and gives examples in daily life. Take advantage. Great Info. Thanks