A Beginner's Guide to the End

Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death

De: Dr. BJ Miller, Shoshana Berger

Narrado por: BJ Miller, Shoshana Berger

The first-ever practical, compassionate, and comprehensive guide to dying - and living fully until you do.

“There is nothing wrong with you for dying,” palliative care Doctor BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger write in A Beginner’s Guide to the End. “Our ultimate purpose here isn’t so much to help you die as it is to free up as much life as possible until you do.”

Theirs is a clear-eyed and big-hearted action plan for approaching the end of life, created to help listeners feel more in control of an experience that so often seems anything but. Their audiobook offers everything from step-by-step instructions for how to do your paperwork and navigate the health-care system to answers to questions you might be afraid to ask your doctor, like whether or not sex is still okay when you’re sick. You’ll be walked through how to break the news to your employer, whether to share old secrets with your family, how to face friends who might not be as empathetic as you’d hoped, and how to talk to your children about your will. (Don’t worry: If anyone gets snippy, it’ll likely be their spouses, not them.) There are also lessons for survivors, like how to shut down a loved one’s social media accounts, clean out the house, and write a great eulogy.

An honest, surprising, and detailed-oriented guide to the most universal of all experiences, A Beginner’s Guide to the End is the one audiobook that everyone needs.

©2019 Dr. BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger (P)2019 Simon & Schuster Audio

I blame Anderson Cooper

After listening to Anderson Cooper’s latest podcast about grief and his interview with BJ Miller, I had to listen to this book. Spot on about so many things. Wish I hadn’t had to learn the hard way but I learn best this way. As a twenty year ICU nurse and losing my own family, I feel I’m almost at expert level. Highly recommend this book to anyone that relies on breathing to live.

Factual, practical & clear

I hope I will dont need this book soon. But its good to organize, simplify and review your stuff, values and legacy often for living a good life, not just before death. Reminding oneself about death can clean out unecessary ruminations and what really matters can stand out. If you cant see it anyway, maybe a good psychotherapy can help you sort your thoughts (and sometimes bringing your consiousness from head to body can do the same). Some practical advice (legal and health insurance) is suited for Americas health system, so its not tell you much if you are from Europe for example (yet it can lead to gratitude for our health system if you are not from USA...). For me, most valuable part is that about fear of death aka mother of all fears. I don't that much fear dyings as I have a problem with being dead since I can't imagine it, maybe I also fear some brain injury or dementia (again because it hard to imagine, hard to grasp with reason). I authors cites Buddhists and stoics: coming close to a truth is always accompanied by fear (that gives me meaning in death) and peace was before your birth and will be after your death - and it's regardless if you're ateist or believer in some sort of way (that gives me comfort) - I am simplyfiyng here, but I gues everyone have some belief more or less.

Great information. weak audio

I would give it 5 stars if the audio was quite a bit louder.

Preparing

This is a wonderful guide. I wish I had it when my other half passed away.

Grateful

This book prepared me for my wife’s death. I’m grateful for the advice and stories that made the process easier for me.

Essential for mortals

Everything you ever wanted to know about dying and death. It's also a great read.

Wonderful, important and practical

This is a book I think about quite often. I read it over a year ago and what I learned has given me great insight into the experiences that so many of my clients are going through. I’m a psychotherapist and deal with those who are dying but also the various family members who have been close to someone who died or is dying. The practical advice in this book allowed me to offer many useful suggestions and insight into the numerous ways that death affects us all. On a more personal note, as my parents age I’m confronted with the fact that it will be my turn to experience that fact of life and hope that I do it in a way that is meaningful without regrets. I learned so much for this book, the authors communicated the complex process of dying and caring for the dying in a user friendly practical and compassionate way that offered forethought about a subject that is not often discussed. They are brilliant.

So helpful; I wish I would have read it sooner

I bought and listened to most of this book on my last 8 hour drive to visit my dad. He was in the final stages of terminal brain cancer and had just gone to stay in a nursing home after my stepmom finally conceded that he needed more care than she and I could handle. I knew he didn't have long, even though he and my stepmom refused to consider the possibility that he may not pull through.

This book helped me to find strength, prepare for what was coming, and have some idea of what to do and what was happening. Dad ended up having even less time than I had thought but I was able to keep myself together enough to hopefully comfort him and ease his passing.

I really appreciate the authors' compassionate yet no-nonsense presentation of these difficult topics. One line that stuck with me was, "death isn't the end of life, it's a part of life."

I recommend this book to anyone, particularly those facing terminal illness, even if you don't think you need it yet, it's good info to have in your back pocket just in case.

Outstanding information

Practical advice to prepare for a loved one's eminent death. Helpful things to consider beforehand.

MUST HAVE

The beginner’s guide to the end is a book I will purchase as a paper copy to have on hand to follow as aging progresses. I will also purchase copies for my close friends & family. It is very well written and gently read.
Thank you for this important guide.