In this episode, we’re taking a fresh look at sexual milestones—the kind that don’t revolve around “losing your virginity.” That term? It’s vague, outdated, and honestly, we’re not fans of that term. So instead of centering one arbitrary moment in your sexual journey, we’re celebrating all the deeply personal “firsts” that shape our sexual lives: the first time you had an orgasm, the first time you got tested for STIs, the first time you tried a sex toy, or talked about a kink with a partner.

These moments may not get talked about much, but they matter. A lot.

We talk about the emotional weight of these experiences, especially if you are healing from trauma, navigating body changes, or just trying something new later in life. We even touch on milestones like choosing to end a relationship that is no longer right for you—a powerful act of self-care that deserves recognition too.

It’s all about curiosity, compassion, and shifting the narrative around what it means to grow sexually. No matter your history or where you are in your journey, we hope this conversation helps you embrace your own timeline and feel seen in the “firsts” that you’re excited about.

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Take a listen to Dr Sue talk about virginity on Talk Sex With Annette here: Virginity is a scam!

Think about it before you stick it in! In this episode, we unzip the do's and don'ts of shopping for sex toys — because when it comes to your body (and your fun), a little knowledge goes a long way. We break down why non-porous materials like silicone, stainless steel, and body safe plastic are the best options, and why you should steer clear of porous materials like jelly and wood (yep, even if it looks cute).

We also get into the nitty-gritty of toy care: how to clean, store, and maintain your toys so they stay safe, fun, and ready for action. Thinking of grabbing a random veggie or a household item? We share why that’s a risky idea.

We highlight tips for shopping smart, whether you're hitting up a local boutique for a personalized experience or browsing trusted online retailers like Adam and Eve. We even touch on things you might not have thought about, like noise levels, discreet designs, and toys for people with medical or mobility considerations.

Whether you're shopping for your first toy or upgrading your collection, we are here to help you navigate the shelves (and the search results) with confidence. It’s all about making choices that feel good, are safer, and support your pleasure — however you define it.

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Where does sexual shame come from—and how do we start letting it go? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip some of the complicated ways shame shows up around sex, pleasure, and curiosity. We chat about how cultural messaging (like the old idea that sex is only for making babies) still impacts how people think and feel today—and how hard it can be to find accurate, judgment-free information about sex in a world full of misinformation and censorship.

We also get real about the role of the internet: yes, it can be a great place for anonymous questions and advice—but it can also fuel judgment, shame, and confusion. Dr. Sue shares insights from answering anonymous questions online, and we each reflect on how deeply ingrained shame can hold people back from fully understanding and enjoying their sexuality.

Throughout the conversation, we offer encouragement for anyone struggling with sexual shame—including tips for tuning out external noise, starting open conversations with trusted people, and knowing when it’s time to reach out to a professional. It’s an honest, compassionate talk about why normalizing conversations around sex isn’t just important—it’s necessary for healing and connection.

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Why are sex toys still so taboo? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we take a thoughtful look at the stigma, curiosity, and misinformation that still surround sex toys—and why it’s time to change the conversation.

We explore how limited sex education, media portrayals, and cultural discomfort have shaped how people think about pleasure and the toys that can enhance it. Dr. Sue shares how she integrates sex toy education into her college classrooms and her work with older adults, and we chat about some of the common fears and questions many people have but rarely say out loud.

We also discuss the deeper relationship dynamics at play—like how insecurity, jealousy, or silence can complicate conversations about sex toys in partnerships, especially in heterosexual relationships. Together, we highlight the importance of communication, consent, and respecting boundaries when exploring new things with a partner.

Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already confident, this episode offers insight, validation, and encouragement to think differently about what pleasure means—and who gets to talk about it and who gets to have it.

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Online dating: Is it worth it? Well… that really depends on your "worth it." In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get real about the highs, lows, and “what even is this?” moments of dating online. Charlie shares why online dating hasn’t worked for her, while Dr. Sue brings in perspective from her work with students, seniors, and curious minds of all ages.

We talk about setting realistic expectations, navigating dishonesty (hi, bots), and why knowing what you want before diving in can save you a lot of heartache. From ethical non-monogamy to decoding bios and red flags, we cover the good, the bad, and the confusing parts of digital dating.

Whether you're new to online dating or feeling jaded by the apps, we’re here to help you check in with yourself, stay grounded, and figure out what your version of “worth it” really looks like.

To see the question that prompted today's episode, you can read it on Substack or listen to it on YouTube

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Is honesty always the best policy in relationships? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unpack the gray areas of truth-telling—exploring when full transparency strengthens trust and when it might do more harm than good.

We explore the nuances of disclosure, personal boundaries, and the idea that not everyone has earned the right to know certain details about your life—especially when it comes to topics like sexual orientation, past experiences, and personal choices. We also examine the difference between thoughtful honesty and brutal truth, discussing how timing, context, and emotional safety all play a role in communication.

From small white lies to life-changing disclosures, honesty in relationships isn’t always black and white. We break down how navigating these tricky conversations with intention, and respect, can help you foster deeper trust without unnecessary harm.

To see the question that prompted today's episode, you can read it on Substack or listen to it on YouTube

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What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the complexities of desire discrepancy—when partners have mismatched levels of sexual interest. It’s a common challenge in relationships, but one that’s often misunderstood, stigmatized, or even ignored. We explore the many factors that can influence libido, from stress and medication to relationship dynamics, emotional connection, past experiences, and shifting self-perceptions.

We also challenge outdated stereotypes about men and women’s sex drives—like the myth that men always want more sex and women are the gatekeepers—and unpack how these assumptions can create unnecessary guilt and frustration. We talk about why communication is key, and why those conversations can be difficult or even painful. That’s why we share ways you can work to bridge the gap with empathy, curiosity, and openness.

From rediscovering passion in long-term relationships to handling mismatched desire without shame or resentment, this episode is about fostering deeper connection, understanding, and pleasure—on both sides of the bed. Whether you’re experiencing this yourself or just want to learn more, we’ve got insights, real talk, and ways to help you navigate intimacy with confidence.

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Sex is everywhere—but actually talking about it? That’s still a challenge. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get personal about what it’s like to openly discuss sex and sexuality. As co-hosts of a podcast that dives into taboo topics, we’ve seen firsthand how conversations about sex can empower, educate, and even shift cultural narratives. But we’ve also had to navigate the challenges that come with having these discussions openly.

We explore how having a platform like Unzipping Taboos has changed the way people perceive our expertise in human sexuality—sometimes in surprising ways. We talk about the social calculus of deciding what to share, setting personal boundaries, and how cultural and religious expectations can shape the way people engage (or avoid) conversations about sex. From family reactions to public scrutiny, we break down the complexities of being open about topics that many still prefer to keep behind closed doors.

Whether you're someone who's hesitant to talk about sex or you're already challenging taboos in your own circles, this episode unpacks the power of conversation, the risks and rewards of being open, and why normalizing discussions about sexuality is more important than ever.

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