In this episode, we’re taking a fresh look at sexual milestones—the kind that don’t revolve around “losing your virginity.” That term? It’s vague, outdated, and honestly, we’re not fans of that term. So instead of centering one arbitrary moment in your sexual journey, we’re celebrating all the deeply personal “firsts” that shape our sexual lives: the first time you had an orgasm, the first time you got tested for STIs, the first time you tried a sex toy, or talked about a kink with a partner.

These moments may not get talked about much, but they matter. A lot.

We talk about the emotional weight of these experiences, especially if you are healing from trauma, navigating body changes, or just trying something new later in life. We even touch on milestones like choosing to end a relationship that is no longer right for you—a powerful act of self-care that deserves recognition too.

It’s all about curiosity, compassion, and shifting the narrative around what it means to grow sexually. No matter your history or where you are in your journey, we hope this conversation helps you embrace your own timeline and feel seen in the “firsts” that you’re excited about.

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Take a listen to Dr Sue talk about virginity on Talk Sex With Annette here: Virginity is a scam!

Think about it before you stick it in! In this episode, we unzip the do's and don'ts of shopping for sex toys — because when it comes to your body (and your fun), a little knowledge goes a long way. We break down why non-porous materials like silicone, stainless steel, and body safe plastic are the best options, and why you should steer clear of porous materials like jelly and wood (yep, even if it looks cute).

We also get into the nitty-gritty of toy care: how to clean, store, and maintain your toys so they stay safe, fun, and ready for action. Thinking of grabbing a random veggie or a household item? We share why that’s a risky idea.

We highlight tips for shopping smart, whether you're hitting up a local boutique for a personalized experience or browsing trusted online retailers like Adam and Eve. We even touch on things you might not have thought about, like noise levels, discreet designs, and toys for people with medical or mobility considerations.

Whether you're shopping for your first toy or upgrading your collection, we are here to help you navigate the shelves (and the search results) with confidence. It’s all about making choices that feel good, are safer, and support your pleasure — however you define it.

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If you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question

Where does sexual shame come from—and how do we start letting it go? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip some of the complicated ways shame shows up around sex, pleasure, and curiosity. We chat about how cultural messaging (like the old idea that sex is only for making babies) still impacts how people think and feel today—and how hard it can be to find accurate, judgment-free information about sex in a world full of misinformation and censorship.

We also get real about the role of the internet: yes, it can be a great place for anonymous questions and advice—but it can also fuel judgment, shame, and confusion. Dr. Sue shares insights from answering anonymous questions online, and we each reflect on how deeply ingrained shame can hold people back from fully understanding and enjoying their sexuality.

Throughout the conversation, we offer encouragement for anyone struggling with sexual shame—including tips for tuning out external noise, starting open conversations with trusted people, and knowing when it’s time to reach out to a professional. It’s an honest, compassionate talk about why normalizing conversations around sex isn’t just important—it’s necessary for healing and connection.

If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here: ⁠Show suggestions

If you want to ask Dr Sue a sex question for the weekly Q&A you can submit it here: Ask a question