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  • 437: Multicultural Identity, Somatic Healing, and Embodied Code Switching w/ Marcia Bonato Warren

    437: Multicultural Identity, Somatic Healing, and Embodied Code Switching w/ Marcia Bonato Warren
    Apr 18 2025
    In this insightful interview, I’m joined by Marcia Bonato Warren, a trauma-informed body therapist, somatic counselor, interculturalist, and author. Marcia brings over 30 years of experience working with cross-cultural mental health, and she shares a powerful lens on how identity, culture, and trauma intersect in the body. Together, we explore the concept of embodied code switching, how our bodies carry cultural and ancestral imprints, and how healing often involves not just the mind, but movement, sensation, and deep awareness of the self. Marcia discusses her personal journey as a Brazilian and Native American woman navigating multiple cultural worlds—and how her lived experience shaped her professional path and inspired her new book. This episode is a rich blend of personal storytelling, professional insight, and hope for a more connected, empathetic world. Key Discussion Points: Marcia’s multicultural background growing up between Pueblo traditions and Brazilian culture What it means to experience culture somatically when language isn’t accessible The definition and practice of embodied code switching How somatic therapy works and how the body holds trauma, history, and healing Cultural embodiment and the importance of body-based awareness across social, emotional, and environmental realms The internal work of bridging identities that may feel in conflict Intergenerational trauma and healing as a form of cultural resilience Marcia’s new book as a form of protest and empowerment amid sociopolitical turmoil The value of curiosity and reclaiming our sense of wonder Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro to Marcia and her multicultural upbringing 04:30 – Advocating through names and early sense of identity 09:00 – Growing up between cultures and learning through somatic experience 14:00 – Noticing what it feels like to “not belong” in any cultural space 17:00 – The physical experience of fitting in (or not) 20:00 – What is somatic counseling and body-based psychotherapy? 24:00 – Holding multiple identities and forming relationships between them 28:00 – Embodied code switching: definitions and origins 35:00 – Identity, trauma, and resilience in the nervous system 40:00 – Diversity, empathy, and learning across differences 43:30 – Somatics, symbolism, and healing in therapy 47:00 – Marcia’s career in advocacy and transition to therapy 52:00 – Her new book as resistance and hope in a polarized world 58:30 – Book structure, audience, and why it matters now 1:06:00 – Final reflections on curiosity, awareness, and personal power Guest Links: Website: https://www.embodiedculture.com Book Info & Resources: https://www.embodiedcodeswitching.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marciabonatowarren Buy the Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Movement-Identity-Multiculturalism-Awareness-Code-Switching/dp/1839978376 Contact Me: Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com Website: https://duffthepsych.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review, sharing it with a friend, or tagging me on social to let me know your thoughts. And if Marcia’s story resonated with you, I’d love to hear how this conversation landed.
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  • 436: Facing Horrific Family Trauma & Finding Joy After Divorce

    436: Facing Horrific Family Trauma & Finding Joy After Divorce
    Apr 11 2025

    In this episode, Dr. Duff takes on two powerful listener questions in a raw and compassionate Q&A format.

    The first question comes from a survivor of extensive childhood abuse, religious trauma, and complex family dynamics, who is wrestling with the decision of whether or not to publish a deeply personal memoir. Dr. Duff dives into the emotional, psychological, and ethical layers of this situation, offering validation, insight, and a heartfelt reminder that healing and storytelling can be acts of empowerment.

    The second question comes from a newly single parent facing feelings of loneliness and hopelessness after a recent divorce. After a disappointing family trip, they wonder if happiness is still possible in this new chapter of life. Dr. Duff breaks down the process of emotional adjustment, the importance of realistic expectations, and how small steps can lead to renewed hope and connection.

    As always, this episode is filled with empathy, nuance, and practical encouragement for anyone going through dark or uncertain times.

    Key Discussion Points

    • The complexities of publishing a memoir about trauma and abuse

    • Understanding the impact of complex PTSD and generational trauma

    • Navigating family threats and estrangement with personal boundaries

    • Grieving the loss of an idealized future after divorce

    • Why happiness doesn’t have to look how you thought it would

    • Tips for finding support and resilience as a single parent

    • The value of community, therapy, and chosen family

    Timestamps

    00:00 – Intro and personal update
    03:00 – Content warning for the first question
    04:05 – Listener story: Surviving severe childhood abuse and family rejection
    07:00 – Dr. Duff reflects on complex PTSD and trauma recovery
    08:30 – The power of isolation in abusive systems
    10:00 – Complicated dynamics with the listener’s mother
    11:30 – Should I publish my book about my trauma?
    13:00 – Weighing the risks and benefits of publishing under a pseudonym
    14:30 – Standing in your truth despite family pushback
    15:00 – Listener story: Facing loneliness and doubt after divorce
    16:30 – Grieving the version of life you hoped for
    18:00 – Family disappointment and changing dynamics
    19:30 – The importance of time and realistic expectations
    21:00 – Children often remember things differently than we expect
    22:00 – Challenging fatalistic thoughts about the future
    23:30 – Modeling resilience and authenticity for your kids
    24:30 – Final thoughts and encouragement

    Mentioned in This Episode

    • Episode 130: Complex PTSD – What It Is and How to Recover

    • YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych

    • More mental health content at: https://www.duffthepsych.com

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  • 435: Moving Past infidelity & Coping with Sudden Medication Changes

    435: Moving Past infidelity & Coping with Sudden Medication Changes
    Apr 4 2025
    In this episode, I address two deeply personal listener questions that highlight the complex nature of anxiety and emotional healing in relationships. The first question comes from a listener who has struggled with anxiety for most of their life, recently facing severe limitations due to Generalized Anxiety Disorder and medication changes. We talk about the genetic components of anxiety, the risks of benzodiazepines in older adults, and the importance of advocating for the right care—even if that means seeking new providers or considering higher levels of treatment. The second question dives into the emotional fallout after infidelity. A listener is working to rebuild their marriage after their wife’s emotional and physical affairs but finds themselves overwhelmed by anger and trauma in the aftermath. I explore the importance of time, trauma-informed coping strategies, and how rebuilding trust is possible with consistent effort and support. Whether you're dealing with anxiety yourself or navigating complex relationship dynamics, this episode offers validation, practical advice, and hope. Key Discussion Points Question 1: Genetic Anxiety and Benzodiazepines Anxiety can be partially genetic—up to 50% of risk may be inherited. Environmental factors, early life experiences, and chronic stress also play key roles. Long-term anxiety can even change brain structures like the amygdala. Benzodiazepines such as Xanax and Klonopin can be risky for older adults, but abrupt changes in medication are harmful and inappropriate. Importance of finding the right provider—psychiatric care may be more appropriate than primary care in severe cases. Options like partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient programs, or even voluntary hospitalization if suicidal thoughts worsen. Consideration of alternative treatments like TMS, ketamine therapy, EMDR, or comprehensive medical workups. Encouragement and validation that meaningful change is possible—even later in life. Question 2: Healing from Infidelity Emotional and physical infidelity can lead to feelings of inadequacy and intense emotional reactivity. The resurfacing of past wounds during present-day arguments is a trauma response. Healing takes time; both partners must commit to rebuilding trust. Grounding, breathing, and self-regulation tools are essential in emotional moments. Individual therapy and journaling can help process complex feelings and trauma. Couples therapy with a specialist in infidelity recovery can provide structure and support. It's possible to rebuild a stronger relationship—but it takes honest effort from both sides. Timestamps 00:00 – Intro 01:12 – Listener question: Is anxiety genetic? 03:22 – Genetics vs. environment in anxiety development 05:10 – Medication history and benzodiazepine concerns for older adults 08:45 – Advocating for appropriate psychiatric care 12:30 – Suicidal thoughts and higher levels of support 14:50 – Exploring alternative and emerging treatment options 17:15 – Words of encouragement and validation 19:45 – Listener question: Coping with infidelity and feeling inadequate 21:20 – Emotional fallout and trauma from betrayal 24:10 – Regulating emotional responses during arguments 26:00 – The role of time, patience, and couples therapy 28:20 – Journaling and individual processing for long-term healing 31:10 – Rebuilding a stronger relationship after infidelity 33:00 – Closing thoughts and takeaways Resources & Links Website: http://duffthepsych.com Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych If today’s episode resonated with you, consider leaving a review or sharing it with someone who could use the support. Your stories and questions continue to make this podcast what it is—thank you for being here. Until next time, take care and keep pushing forward. You've got this.
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  • An Update From Robert

    An Update From Robert
    Mar 28 2025

    Just a quick update! Back to regularly scheduled programming next week!
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  • Chapter From My NEW BOOK - Bipolar Answers

    Chapter From My NEW BOOK - Bipolar Answers
    Mar 14 2025

    Pre-Order Bipolar Answers https://www.amazon.com/Bipolar-Answers-Questions-Answered-Psychologist-ebook/dp/B0F1DW5WQZ/

    In this special episode, Dr. Robert Duff announces the pre-order launch of his latest book, Bipolar Answers: Questions from Real People Answered by a Real Psychologist. To celebrate, he provides listeners with an exclusive reading of the book’s introduction and one full chapter, giving a firsthand look at what to expect. This book is built from real questions asked on The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, expanded with deeper insights, case studies, and practical strategies for managing bipolar disorder.

    Dr. Duff shares details about the book’s structure, how it tackles common misconceptions, and why he felt compelled to write it. He also reads a powerful chapter about navigating college after a bipolar episode, offering valuable guidance on advocacy, accommodations, and resilience.

    Timestamps:

    • [00:00] – Introduction and book announcement: Bipolar Answers is now available for pre-order on Amazon!

    • [02:00] – What the book covers: real questions, practical answers, case studies, and clear explanations.

    • [03:00] – Full reading of the book’s introduction, covering the basics of bipolar disorder, diagnostic criteria, and case study of Olivia, a professional managing bipolar I.

    • [18:00] – Full chapter reading: Navigating college after a bipolar episode.

    • [24:00] – The importance of self-advocacy, understanding accommodations, and legal rights for students and employees with bipolar disorder.

    • [37:00] – Encouragement and final thoughts: Pre-order now and stay tuned for updates on the print and audiobook releases.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Bipolar Answers is designed to cut through misinformation and offer real, actionable advice.

    • Bipolar disorder is complex and often misunderstood—this book provides a clear and stigma-free breakdown.

    • Returning to school or work after a bipolar episode can be daunting, but knowing your rights and advocating for yourself can make all the difference.

    • The book includes real-life examples, diagnostic clarifications, and practical tools for individuals living with bipolar and those supporting them.

    Connect with Dr. Robert Duff:

    • Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com

    • Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com

    • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych

    • Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych

    If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with someone who might find it helpful! Your support means the world.
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  • 433: Stuck in Trauma & Embarrassed by Emotional Reactions

    433: Stuck in Trauma & Embarrassed by Emotional Reactions
    Mar 7 2025

    Episode 433: Navigating PTSD Triggers & Overcoming Shame

    In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I tackle two listener questions related to PTSD, trauma, and the emotional challenges that come with them. The first question is from someone who is deeply affected by their environment, living in a house that serves as a constant PTSD trigger. They want to move forward but feel completely stuck. The second question is about dealing with strong emotional reactions in public and the embarrassment that follows. I offer compassionate, practical advice to help both listeners begin taking steps toward healing and self-acceptance.

    What We Cover in This Episode:

    • Understanding why trauma responses persist and how they impact daily life

    • The role of avoidance in PTSD and how to begin addressing it

    • Practical strategies for tackling overwhelming life changes

    • How to communicate with a therapist about deeply buried trauma

    • The importance of seeking trauma-informed therapy and possible medication options

    • Exposure techniques for gradually confronting PTSD triggers

    • Journaling as a tool for processing trauma at your own pace

    • Overcoming embarrassment when experiencing emotional reactions in public

    • Using gratitude as a way to shift focus from shame to connection

    • Coping strategies to regulate emotions and build resilience

    Timestamps:

    00:00 – Introduction & request for listener questions
    02:00 – Listener question: Living in a house that triggers PTSD
    05:00 – Why trauma responses persist and the role of avoidance
    10:00 – Communicating openly with a therapist about severe trauma
    12:00 – Seeking trauma-informed therapy and medication considerations
    16:00 – Making an actionable plan to move forward and sell the house
    21:00 – Practical steps to start addressing home repairs and tasks
    22:00 – Listener question: Managing PTSD emotional reactions in public
    24:00 – Using gratitude to counter feelings of shame and embarrassment
    27:00 – Grounding techniques and exposure exercises to build resilience
    30:00 – The importance of seeking support from others
    32:00 – Closing thoughts & listener engagement request

    Connect with Me:

    • Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com

    • Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com

    • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych

    • Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych

    If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. And as always, take care of yourself!
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    33 m
  • 432: What is High-Functioning Codependency? Terri Cole

    432: What is High-Functioning Codependency? Terri Cole
    Feb 28 2025

    In this episode of The Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with the incredible psychotherapist and author, Terri Cole, to discuss high-functioning codependency, boundaries, and how we can break free from people-pleasing tendencies. Terri shares her own journey from working in the entertainment industry to becoming a therapist and how her personal struggles with boundaries led her to specialize in this area. We dive deep into the traits of high-functioning codependency, where it comes from, and actionable steps you can take to create healthier relationships and reclaim your inner peace.

    What We Cover in This Episode:

    • Terri’s journey from talent agent to psychotherapist

    • Recognizing high-functioning codependency in yourself

    • How childhood and societal expectations shape codependency

    • The role of self-awareness and therapy in breaking codependency patterns

    • Practical tools for overcoming codependent tendencies

    • The importance of setting boundaries and learning to say no

    • How to conduct a resentment inventory and why it’s helpful

    • Addressing difficult family dynamics around social and political issues

    • How Terri’s book, Too Much, can help you break free from codependency

    Timestamps:

    00:00 – Introduction to Terri Cole and her background
    01:00 – How Terri transitioned from talent agent to psychotherapist
    16:00 – Recognizing high-functioning codependency
    25:00 – Childhood & societal influences on codependency
    30:00 – The importance of self-awareness and therapy
    39:00 – Practical tools for overcoming codependency
    42:00 – Navigating difficult family dynamics
    49:00 – Setting boundaries and learning to say no
    52:00 – Conducting a resentment inventory
    58:00 – How Too Much can help you break free

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Too Much by Terri Cole: https://www.terricole.com

    • High-Functioning Codependency Toolkit: https://www.terricole.com/HFC

    • Mastermind program (Flourish): https://www.terricole.com/flourish

    • Terri’s membership community: https://www.terricole.com/TCM

    • The Terri Cole Show Podcast: https://www.terricole.com/podcast

    Connect with Me:

    • Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com

    • Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com

    • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@duffthepsych

    • Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych

    If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit. And as always, take care of yourself!
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  • 431: Pathological Demand Avoidance & Persistent Low-Grade Depression

    431: Pathological Demand Avoidance & Persistent Low-Grade Depression
    Feb 21 2025

    Episode 431: Pathological Demand Avoidance in Coaching & Persistent Depression

    Welcome to another episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Dr. Robert Duff! In this Q&A episode, Dr. Duff tackles two insightful listener questions on very different but equally important mental health topics.

    Question 1: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in Coaching

    A listener working as an individual sports coach seeks advice on how to best support a talented but highly resistant student who displays signs of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). Dr. Duff dives into:

    • What PDA is and how it manifests in individuals, particularly in relation to autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent conditions.

    • The importance of reframing PDA as a high drive for autonomy rather than defiance.

    • Practical coaching strategies to work around demand avoidance, including collaborative goal setting, offering choices, and making training sessions more engaging and playful.

    • The significance of open-ended questions and genuine curiosity in understanding the root of a student’s resistance.

    Question 2: Chronic Low-Grade Depression (Persistent Depressive Disorder)

    A listener describes their struggle with long-term, low-grade depression despite attempts with medication and therapy. Dr. Duff provides insights into:

    • Understanding Persistent Depressive Disorder (formerly known as dysthymia) and how it differs from episodic major depression.

    • Behavioral activation as a treatment approach, including strategies for identifying and engaging in potentially enjoyable activities despite a lack of motivation or pleasure.

    • The five-minute rule to help overcome resistance to activities.

    • Medication considerations, including alternatives like Wellbutrin (bupropion) and the combination drug Auvelity, which may have fewer side effects.

    • Non-medication treatments such as Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and ketamine therapy.

    • The importance of evaluating life circumstances to identify external contributors to chronic depression, such as hidden identity struggles or unsatisfying relationships.

    Chapters

    [00:00] Intro and updates on Dr. Duff’s upcoming bipolar book
    [03:00] Question 1: Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) in coaching
    [12:00] Strategies for engaging students with PDA
    [14:00] Question 2: Chronic low-grade depression and treatment options
    [19:00] Behavioral activation and the five-minute rule
    [23:00] Medication alternatives and non-pharmacological treatments
    [27:00] Life circumstances and their role in persistent depression
    [28:00] Outro and listener support requests

    Resources & Links

    • Dr. Duff’s website: http://duffthepsych.com

    • Email your questions: duffthepsych@gmail.com

    • Follow Dr. Duff on Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych

    • Dr. Duff’s book “Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression”: https://www.amazon.com/Hardcore-Self-Help-Depression/dp/B01J4H5A40

    • Previous episodes on TMS and ketamine treatments: http://duffthepsych.com/podcast

    • More on ketamine treatments: https://duffthepsych.com/ect-and-ketamine/

    Thank you for tuning in! If you found this episode helpful, please consider sharing it with a friend or leaving a review. Your support helps the podcast grow and reach more people who need it. See you next time!
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