As we get deeper and deeper into our 40’s, we’re finding ourselves less impressed with whatever everyone else is up to. Flashy lives and high follower accounts feel kind of meaningless and we’re happy to watch the next generation make all the same mistakes we did and care about all the things we used to. Having a million followers doesn’t mean you have a million dollars, and having a million dollars doesn’t mean you’re even happy. We’ll stick to doing what feels right to us and having conversations with interesting people, instead of influential people.

Getting our boobs checked out [3:50]

Curating friendships in our 40’s [7:02]

“Success” feels less impressive now [11:28]

Visibility isn’t the same thing as success [14:48]

We’re passing the baton [18:40]

History repeats itself [20:51]

You’re allowed to change your mind [24:48]

The Best Life Live? [28:58]

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2026 is tomorrow, so it’s out with the old and in with the new! Jill had a pretty great personal year while Danny-J had a pretty shitty one, so we’re wondering, what kind of year did you have? In any case, we’re feeling refreshed and excited for what 2026 has to offer us. Cheers to a new year, Besties!

What the fuck is Hyrox? [2:01]

Paying to pay attention [9:50]

A weird year, all around [13:34]

What we’re leaving behind, and what we’re adding in [15:59]

Feeling lit up for the new year [21:19]

Social media changes [24:49]

Why we love Threads [30:39]

The vibe for 2026 [31:59]

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Life is shitty to us in one way or another, no matter who we are or what we try to do to prevent it. It is, however, our choice on what to do about the shittiness. Blaming others, giving up, or leaving weird hate comments on Facebook isn’t going to make the pain of our pasts go away, so we have to own them and heal them in whatever ways we can. Maybe that looks like going to therapy, maybe it looks like doing ayahuasca in the jungle, or maybe it looks like getting plastic surgery in Vietnam. We’ve tried all three, Besties! The method doesn’t matter, just as long as we learn to accept what is and let things go when it’s time.

Our hair journeys [0:58]

Danny J’s psychic reading [7:13]

Why are Facebook comments so nasty? [17:05]

Are we asking for hate comments? [22:33]

We have to heal ourselves [30:34]

Exposing yourself to other perspectives [36:46]

How to let things go [43:29]

We all have a choice [49:52]

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We’ve heard of quiet-quitting when it comes to work, but what about quiet-quitting your relationship?—not really leaving, but not putting in any effort beyond the bare minimum either. We saw something recently that claimed many women over 40 are quiet-quitting their marriages. Nothing good comes out of apathy or resentment, and it seems to us that this is where the seeds of infidelity get sewn. We’d be the first to tell you that marriage isn’t always sunshine and roses, but the way we see it, if you’re unhappy you should try to do what you can to make it work, and if it ain’t working then don’t hold someone else captive to your unhappiness. Life is going to suck in any situation, so might as well make the most of it, rather than staying put in a situation you hate.

Bullshit holiday sales [0:48]

Facebook Marketplace addiction [5:02]

Gamifying purchases [9:05]

A gown but no place to wear it [10:46]

Date number 3 [13:12]

Quiet-quitting your marriage [17:17]

The beginnings of infidelity [19:35]

Married people on dating apps [21:28]

How hormones affect our feelings [25:10]

Choosing unhappiness over uncertainty [28:00]

Choose your hard [31:21]

Making the best of any situation [37:50]

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The holidays are around the corner and with visiting family inevitably comes arguing with your weird uncle about some insane thing happening in the news. There’s a time and place for walking away from discussions about politics—we can recommend this action highly—but maybe there’s a time for you to engage, too. All of us are more alike than we are different, and when we lead with curiosity and truly listen to others, finding common ground (and peace!) is possible, too. Unless the person you’re talking to is insane. We can’t help you there.

No one likes a control freak [5:07]

There’s some crazy news every day [9:19]

When holding your tongue feels impossible [12:09]

A battle of morals and self-righteousness [15:17]

When to call it out and when to leave it alone [20:06]

Actually listening to a different perspective [23:59]

We’re more alike than we are different [26:55]

It’s okay to keep your distance, too [28:12]

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Today, Jill and Danny dive into everything from TikTok earworms and the chaos of keeping up with new platforms to Danny’s new “50 First Dates With Myself” challenge that has completely reignited her creativity and joy on social media. Danny shares how the idea was born, her experience returning to TikTok after years away, and how her first official date set the tone for a year of intentional, elevated solo experiences. Planning meaningful dates matters in both single life and long-term relationships, and when you raise your standards with yourself, they naturally raise for what you expect from others. That’s why carving out novelty, play, and effort is essential for feeling alive—in love, in life, and in how you show up for yourself.

Getting back on TikTok [2:17]

What people think of Danny’s 50 first dates [4:19]

The first few dates [8:30]

Raising the standard for yourself [12:27]

Life is too short not to celebrate [14:05]

Breaking out of routine [17:21]

Exploring a creative side [19:33]

Something to get excited about [22:43]

Making content doesn’t have to be complicated [26:07]

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Last week we talked about Jill’s big news, so this week we wanted to share Danny’s: she’s dating again! Except there’s one big catch—Danny is dating herself. No more waiting around for a man to go try new foods or do fun things, she’s going to take herself. And it’s not just doing activities alone, she’s dating herself with intentionality and presence. Connecting with others is always great, but connecting with yourself is everything.

Going on 50 First dates [1:02]

Why wait for a man to do the things you want to do? [2:23]

The rules [4:33]

Presence and intentionality [7:38]

Sticking it out, even if you want to leave [10:07]

Looking good for yourself [13:28]

What does and doesn’t count as a date [16:05]

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Our girl Jill is married! For our OG Besties, you know what a wild ride it’s been—we started this podcast before Jill even met her now husband. We all couldn’t be happier for her, or more proud of her for having the courage to trust in love again. Of course, Jill’s wedding was beautiful and perfect, and we thought since our Besties have seen Jill through it all, you deserved to know how the day went, too.

The difference between a girlfriend and a wife [5:07]

An intimate wedding [8:11]

The best dance night of our lives [12:50]

Jill’s biggest regret and a secret wager [18:42]

The best wedding ever [24:08]

The vows and the first look [27:16]

Having the courage to trust love one more time [31:02]

Growing old with someone [40:38]

Changing Jill’s last name [46:54]

Setting up Danny with a new man [48:48]

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