Episodios

  • BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale

    BPD Love is a Reverse Fairytale
    Aug 24 2025
    BPD Love is a Reverse FairyTale
    What starts like a pseudo BPD relationships fairytale in reverse ends in emotional devastation—and you’re left wondering what happened. In this episode, I explore why relationships with someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and their supposed
    "Love" feel and are experienced like a reverse fairytale: magical in the beginning, somewhere along the way, sooner or later, traumatic in the end or the many on-going unsuccessful ends in the trauma bond.

    You’ll learn why the intense beginning isn’t real intimacy, isn't real "love" and how idealization flips into devaluation, and why the cycle never leads to a “happily ever after.” This episode is a compassionate wake-up call for those still hoping to get back to “chapter one.” You get what you think is the "happy-ever-after" in the beginning and that starts to unravel into the exact opposite.
    If you’ve been stuck in a looping pseudo love story that keeps breaking your heart, it’s time to understand the pattern—and reclaim your own narrative by breaking free of the quest to get back to the magical fairytale reverse beginning of idealization and intermittent
    reinforcement of a toxic love passed off as a fantasy that you don't want to admit now.

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    19 m
  • Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Enmeshed in a BPD Relatioship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles
    Aug 24 2025
    Enmeshed in a BPD Relationship? 5 Codependent Hooks Fueling Cycles

    Are you enmeshed in a BPD relationship? Why can’t you let go—even when it’s hurting you? This Codependency Inside Out, surviving cluster B episode explores the 5 trauma-rooted codependent hooks that keep you psychologically and emotionally enmeshed, fueling the cycles, in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

    From rescuing and self-abandonment to enmeshment and fantasy bonding, you’ll learn how these unconscious patterns pull you deeper into the storm—and how to finally begin breaking free.

    You’ll Learn:
    – What enmeshment really is and why it feels like love
    – How your nervous system mistakes chaos for connection
    – Why self-erasure becomes a survival strategy
    – How to reclaim your identity and rebuild your boundaries
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    17 m
  • BPD Frustration Intolerance

    BPD Frustration Intolerance
    Aug 18 2025
    BPD Frustration Intolerance

    BPD Frustration Intolerance explains one of the most confusing, crazy-making, and painful dynamics loved ones face in relationships with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder. In this episode, I unpack why ordinary limits, boundaries, or small disappointments can trigger emotionally explosive reactions, chaos, and betrayal cycles. No matter how any times you try to calm a person with BPD down, jump to their demands, apologize for what they are doing to you, try to help them emotionally regulate, you cannot stop these betrayal cycles.
    In the betrayal cycles and through all the demands and the Borderline (protective) entitlement as they shame you and blame you and "hold you responsible" in their projective identification they have no real-time emotional awareness of YOU, of what YOU are feeling, of what YOU are going through. They don't care after each and every one of these betrayal cycles. YOU won't be seen or heard or empathized with, understood, or apologized to either.

    In this podcast episode you will learn and I hope gain clarity about:

    1. What frustration intolerance really means in the context of BPD
    2. How trauma and emotional dysregulation fuel these reactions
    3. Why the cycle creates a false promise of peace that never lasts
    4. The toll it takes on partners, family members, and friends
    5. Why this makes BPD relationships unsustainable

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
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    18 m
  • 7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail

    7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail
    Aug 14 2025
    7 Reasons Why BPD Relationships Fail

    Why do relationships with someone who has untreated Borderline Personality Disorder so often end in heartbreak? In this episode, I share the 7 key reasons why BPD relationships fail — explained with compassion, depth, and clarity. Whether you’re the partner, the ex, or someone living with BPD yourself, you’ll gain insight into the emotional patterns that make love feel intense yet unstable — and why love alone isn’t enough to keep it alive without healing and change.
    This is not about blame. It’s about Codependents' truth, self-understanding, and reclaiming your peace by healing, breaking the trauma bond and reclaiming your own personal power and creating a healthier and more functional relationship to and with yourself.

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    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    28 m
  • BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen

    BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection You are Unseen
    Aug 10 2025
    BPD Mirror Holds No Internal Reflection: You are *Unseen*

    If you’ve ever loved someone with untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and felt like they never truly saw you — this episode explains why. Through the lens of BPD fragmentation, we uncover how their “mirror” doesn’t reflect you at all, but instead the broken, distorted image of a wounding parent from their past. You’ll learn:

    Why the “mirror” of a person with BPD is cracked from early relational trauma.
    How loved ones become trapped in distorted roles they can’t escape.
    Why no amount of love or explanation can make them see the real you.

    The first step to freeing yourself from their reflection and reclaiming your identity.
    If you’ve felt invisible, miscast, or frozen in the wrong role — this episode will give you the clarity you need to step out of their fragmented mirror "reflection" of you for good.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    https://www.millionpodcasts.com/codependency-podcasts/
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    28 m
  • The BPD Love Paradox

    The BPD Love Paradox
    Aug 6 2025
    The BPD Love Paradox

    Why does someone with Borderline Personality Disorder crave deep love—only to sabotage and destroy it when it arrives? In this episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast I explore the heartbreaking paradox at the center of BPD. From BPD self-fulfilling prophecies, the acting out of unconscious BPD repetition compulsions, and defensive splitting to the tragic pattern of testing love until it breaks, A.J. Mahari compassionately unpacks why intimacy feels both irresistible and terrifying to those with BPD. Whether you're loving someone with BPD or navigating the disorder yourself, this episode offers clarity, empathy, and a path toward healing.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
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    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    27 m
  • The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck

    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
    Aug 5 2025
    The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Are Stuck

    (From My Codependency Inside Out Surviving Cluster B Podcast)

    The BPD Fantasy of who you thought they were and then that loss, over and over again, is why Codependents are stuck in the Fantasy and Trauma Bond abandoning self not knowing how to face your own multi-layered pain now. The idea of letting go feels like an imminent ending to who you used to be, who you have lost in the BPD relationship that was a BPD Fantasy.

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    This podcast is ranked in the Top 100 Relationships Podcasts on feedspot.com at:
    100 Best Relationship Podcasts You Must Follow in 2025

    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    10 m
  • BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication

    BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
    Aug 2 2025
    BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication

    BPD fragmented self blocks connection and communication. I dive deeply into the core reason a person with (especially untreated) BPD cannot hear you or see you. These are toxic relationships. When you are relating to a person with BPD in any relationship type, there is no "we". No mutuality, no reciprocity. They don't see you or hear you and in this podcast episode I get to the core of why and how Borderline Personality is a relationship disorder of disconnection and inability to attach and communicate that persists due to the fragmented lack of self in every person with Borderline Personality (unless and and until extremely well treated over 8-16 years in a psychodynamic modality of specialized BPD treatment.

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    Million Podcasts has ranked this podcast in the top 60 Codependency Podcasts,
    the top 100 Narcissistic Abuse Podcasts and the top 100 in their Toxic Relationship
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    41 m