Have you ever sent a text, felt good about it… and then spiraled after they didn’t respond?

In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening in those moments and why it has nothing to do with you being “too much” or overthinking. We’re going deeper than your thoughts and into your nervous system, where anxious attachment really begins. I walk you through how to recognize what anxious attachment feels like in your body, how to stay with those sensations instead of reacting, and how to start showing up differently in your relationships without shutting yourself down or needing constant reassurance. This is where we stop trying to think our way out of anxiety and start learning how to move through it.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel a wave of anxiety the moment someone doesn’t text you back
• You find yourself over-analyzing messages and questioning what you said
• You feel an urgent need to fix things or reach out when something feels off
• You know you’re overthinking, but can’t seem to stop in the moment
• You want to feel more calm, grounded, and secure in your relationships

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
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• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Why do you keep doing the exact things you told yourself you wouldn’t… even when you know better?

In this episode, we’re breaking down the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not actually about discipline, willpower, or “being better.” I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those everyday moments… like when you say you’re going to go to the gym, start your routine, or get off your phone… and then don’t. Because what if self-sabotage isn’t you messing up… but you choosing between two very real needs?

You might want to listen if:

• You keep saying you’ll start something… and then don’t follow through
• You feel frustrated because you know what to do, but still don’t do it
• You find yourself choosing the “wrong” thing and then judging yourself after
• You struggle with consistency in your habits, routines, or even your relationships
• You’re ready to stop the shame spiral and start understanding what’s actually going on underneath it

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Have you ever told yourself “I know this isn’t about me”… but still felt completely hurt, triggered, or thrown off by it anyway?

In this fifth coaching session with Cordelia, we get into what it actually looks like to be in the middle of healing when real life hits. When something happens that brings up old feelings, unmet needs, and that familiar frustration of “why is this still affecting me?” We talk about the tension between what you know logically and what your body feels emotionally. We explore how to stop judging your reactions, how to move out of shame spirals, and how to start getting curious about what your emotions are actually trying to tell you.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep telling yourself not to take things personally… but still feel hurt when something happens
• You feel frustrated that you “know better” but your emotions still take over
• You tend to judge or shame yourself for having emotional reactions
• You’re stuck in cycles where people hurt you and you’re not sure how to change it
• You want to understand what your emotions are actually trying to tell you instead of pushing them away

Want more of Cordelia’s story? Check out her previous coaching sessions below.

• Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18288326
• Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18457312
• Part 3: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18576189
• Part 4: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18729603

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Ever wondered why you keep choosing the same kind of man… even when you know you deserve better?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on beneath the surface. Because this isn’t about a lack of awareness… it’s about the emotional patterns your nervous system learned a long time ago. We’ll talk about why attachment wounds can feel like facts, how they quietly shape who you’re attracted to, and the difference between understanding your patterns and actually changing them. If you’ve ever felt like “I know better, so why do I keep ending up here?” This conversation is going to connect a lot of dots.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men and don’t understand why
• You know your patterns intellectually but still feel stuck in them
• You find yourself overanalyzing, chasing, or trying to “fix” the connection
• You feel frustrated because you know you deserve better but your choices don’t reflect it yet
• You’re ready to stop repeating the same relationship cycle and start creating something different

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

What the hell is attachment theory anyway… and why does it explain so much about the way we love?

In this special episode of Speak Honest, I’m giving you a sneak peek inside my bestselling book Dance of Attachment. Because I’m heading into the studio to record the audiobook, I wanted to share a piece of the book with you and walk you through the foundation of attachment theory. We explore how the emotional blueprint you developed in childhood can shape the way you connect in adult relationships, and why patterns like chasing, overthinking, or pulling away often make perfect sense once you understand your nervous system.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep ending up in confusing relationship dynamics and can’t figure out why
• You feel anxious or overthink everything when someone pulls away
• You’ve heard of attachment styles but don’t fully understand what they mean
• You want to understand the patterns behind your relationships
• You’re ready to start learning a new way of showing up in love

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

What if the “luck” you see in other people’s lives isn’t luck at all?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking the belief that some people are just luckier than others. Whether it’s relationships, opportunities, or the way things seem to fall into place, it can be easy to feel like life keeps working for everyone else but you. But what if the real difference isn’t luck, it’s momentum? In this conversation, I’m walking you through the psychology behind locus of control, the powerful distinction between outcomes and inputs, and how secure women create movement in their lives by focusing on the choices they can repeat. If you’ve ever felt stuck, discouraged, or like life just keeps happening to you, this episode will help you start seeing where your real influence lives.

You might want to listen if:

• You feel like life keeps working out for other people but not for you.
• You find yourself waiting for the right timing, opportunity, or relationship to finally change things.
• You spend a lot of emotional energy analyzing situations you can’t actually control.
• You know your attachment patterns but still struggle to respond the way you want to in the moment.
• You’re ready to stop waiting for luck and start creating real momentum in your life.

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Why does he pull away right when everything starts feeling good?

In this episode, I’m breaking down what is actually happening underneath that sudden shift. When he goes from consistent and connected to distant and “busy,” it can feel confusing, personal, and intense. But what if the intensity you feel is not chemistry, and what if his pullback is not about your worth?

I walk you through the nervous system dynamics that create the push pull pattern so many smart, successful women get caught in. We’re talking amygdala activation, hypervigilance, intermittent reinforcement, and why unpredictability can feel addictive. Once you understand the biology underneath the behavior, you stop chasing intensity and start choosing capacity. And that changes everything.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men who pull away right when things start getting real
• You feel more attached the moment he becomes inconsistent
• You replay texts, analyze tone shifts, and feel urgency when communication changes
• You confuse intensity with compatibility
• You’re ready to stop internalizing the pullback and start choosing steadiness instead

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.

Why do adult friendships feel so much harder than they used to… and why does it still sting when you’re the one who keeps reaching out?

In this fourth live coaching session with Cordelia, we unpack the hidden attachment wound behind adult friendship struggles. We talk about the longing for a core group, the ache of feeling left out, and the subtle ways we dismiss our own strengths when connection doesn’t look the way we imagined it would. We explore how loneliness in adulthood can activate deeper beliefs like I’m not enough, and how those same beliefs show up in your job, your confidence, and your willingness to start over.

This conversation is about more than friendships. It’s about agency. It’s about choosing to go anyway. It’s about learning how to stop taking other people’s limitations personally and start building a life that aligns with who you actually are.

You might want to listen if:

• You crave a core group of friends but feel like you’re always the one making the effort
• You feel lonely even though you technically “have friends”
• You struggle with taking dismissal or rejection personally
• You’re afraid to start over at work because you secretly fear you’re not enough
• You want to feel more secure and agentic in your relationships instead of stuck or powerless

FIND OUT MORE!

• Join the Speak Honest Academy
• Grab Your Copy of my #1 Best Selling Book --> Dance of Attachment
• Apply for FREE Podcast Coaching with Jenn
• Join our FREE Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
• Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
• Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
• Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
• Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
• Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!

DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.