You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious.

If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for you.

I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck in familiar unhelpful patterns or that you’re failing. From a trauma-informed, nervous-system lens, I explain why your body can still react even when your mind knows you’re safe.

We’ll look at the difference between conscious understanding and body-based (implicit) memory, and how your nervous system responds to perceived threat rather than logic.

This episode isn’t about using motivational slogans or ‘just think positive’ advice - It’s about understanding anxiety with the compassion, curiosity, and context needed to work with your nervous system, not against it.

And to remind you that you’re not broken. Your body has been trying to keep you safe.

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January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best.

In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough” - and why this isn’t a personal failing.

This isn’t a motivation or willpower problem. More often than not, it's a capacity issue.

We talk about how cultural ideas around productivity and self-improvement ignore emotional labour, people-pleasing, burnout, and the invisible ways many women are already holding everything together.

In this episode, we explore:

• why the 'New Year, New You' approach and the month of January amplifies shame and self-blame
• how people-pleasing and over-giving drain capacity
• things to consider when you deem yourself 'not consistent enough'
• the difference between healthy consistency and survival-based rigidity
• why pushing harder doesn’t create safety or change
• questions to ask yourself when considering what you want to change
• and how to reconnect with yourself without pressure or reinvention

This episode is an invitation to move away from “What’s wrong with me?”
And towards a gentler, more honest question: What am I already carrying, who for - and at what cost?

If January leaves you feeling behind, frozen, not good enough or quietly exhausted, this episode is for you.

This episode is part of She Is Here™ - a podcast for women who worry that they're too much and yet not enough. Charlotte Bailey a trauma-informed psychotherapist explores people-pleasing, trauma, conditioning, nervous-system safety, and combines, clinical expertise with relatable lived experience and spoken word poetry to help you remember and reconnect with who you were before you were taught to be less. So you can begin to feel safe being seen - just as you are.

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A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas.

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This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering.

People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt safer to be less — less loud, less emotional, less honest, less visible.

This new series introduces depth and poetry so you can feel what lives beneath people-pleasing: safety, identity, self-belonging, and the parts of you that learned when to soften, appease, or disappear to maintain connection.

You’ll hear why understanding your past doesn’t always make your body feel safe in the present and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing at healing. Sometimes anxiety isn’t pathology. It’s information.

She Is Here™ is not about forcing authenticity, pushing through fear, or becoming a “better” version of yourself. It’s about discernment. Choice. And learning to reconnect with the little girl inside you who was taught she had to be less to be accepted.

This space is trauma-informed, nervous-system aware, and grounded in compassion - with psychology, lived experience, and spoken word woven throughout.

You were never too much.
You were taught to be less.

She isn’t gone. She never was.

She is here.

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Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise?
In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a lot of us can struggle to do!

I talk about my NHS and people-pleasing days when having time off made me feel guilty and anxious and like I was a failure.

This episode invites you to consider how often you listen to what your body is saying and talks about the importance of tuning in to discover what it might have to say.

A recent visualisation session with my own coach Audrey https://www.instagram.com/audrey_thesocialcoach recently opened me up to another level of connection with the purpose and meaning behind the work I do (something analytical, logical only past me would have rolled her eyes at 🤣)

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I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading.

I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I should or shouldn't post etc. but I’ve realised those rules don’t always honour the depth of my work - or who I truly am.

In this episode I acknowledge my recent reflections and confirm this isn't about a rebrand - it's about remembering and a return - is about returning to my why — the part of me that began this work in the first place.

I talk about the difference between rebranding and remembering, why it’s time to stop softening our truth to fit expectations, and how I’m reshaping this podcast to reflect the depth, emotion, and honesty I want to bring to every episode.

This isn’t just my podcast - it’s ours.
For you, for me, and for the little girl inside each of us who deserves to know:
She’s safe to be seen.
Safe to rest.
Safe to take up space again.
She is here.

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Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.”

I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice to help you start rewriting those rules into something kinder and more realistic — so you can honour your needs without feeling like a bad person.

This isn’t about swinging from people-pleasing to being cold or uncaring. It’s about learning that you can be kind and have boundaries. You can rest and still be responsible. You can say no and still be good.

If you’re ready to start letting go of guilt and creating new, flexible guidelines to live by, this episode will gently walk you through how.

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If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty.

In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an internalised rule you’ve been carrying for years — like “I must keep everyone happy” or “Putting myself first is selfish.”

This episode includes:

Why guilt feels so intense when you say no or prioritise yourself

How to reframe guilt so you can see it as a sign of growth, not wrongdoing

A guided reflection exercise to help you uncover the root of your guilt and begin reframing it

If this episode helps you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it - and stay tuned for the next episode, where we’ll explore practical strategies to rewrite those old rules for good.

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