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Happy Holidays! Merry Twixtmas! Happy 2026! I am so grateful to have you here!

In this New Year’s episode of Reframing Me, I reflect on Twixtmas - that quiet, in-between week where time has no meaning and our perspective widens. My family’s New Year’s traditions have evolved, making me really think about what it means to grow alongside our children, to grieve what was while embracing what is, and to let traditions change without losing their meaning.

This episode invites you to pause before rushing into resolutions and instead close out the year with intention because the New Year is a true “line in the sand” – a moment of delineation between who we were and who we are becoming. I ask you to consider what no longer serves you, what you are ready to leave behind, and what you want to consciously carry forward.

Through reflection, honesty, and a guided metaphor of packing a suitcase for the year ahead, I encourage you to release old narratives, limiting beliefs, and roles that no longer fit. Rather than doing more, I'd love to see you step into the new year by embodying the woman you've been waiting to be – grounded, aligned, and true to yourself.

See you in 2026!

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Thank you for being here!

This episode is an honest reflection on feeling deeply connected yet quietly alone – a place many women find themselves in during midlife and parenting the teen years. Moving between lived experience, parenting observations, and relational insight, the episode explores the surprising parallel between teen loneliness and adult invisibility in a hyper-connected world.

Rather than offering solutions or tidy conclusions, this conversation sits inside the discomfort of being needed but unseen, productive but unmirrored, surrounded by people yet craving resonance. It reflects on how digital connection can replace depth, how identity shifts disrupt belonging, and why loneliness often shows up not as isolation, but as a lack of reflection.

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Thank you so much for being here! Today, I'd like you to think about this:

You can begin again anytime.

Not next week.

Not next semester.

Not when life “calms down” because we all know that’s never.

Not when the kids launch or when the holidays end or when the stars realign.

Just… begin again.

What if beginning again is simply the next breath you take?

The next thought you choose?

The next decision you make without dragging your past self into it?

YOU are the one who decides when the new chapter begins - not the calendar, not other people, not the version of you who accidentally fell into an old habit, or forgot her goals for a few weeks, or made a mistake that felt like a setback.

You can begin again the moment you choose to.

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Welcome back to the show! I’m so grateful you’re here! And I’m so happy to have my voice back to normal after an icky cold that I may have rambled a bit more than usual – hahaha! But today, we’re talking about something many families do without ever naming itn - recreational arguing. You know the dynamic: nothing is actually wrong, but yet somehow you’re in a debate about tone, or not listening, or why someone “waited until now” to mention something. But underneath the surface-level conflict is something surprisingly human: connection attempts very ungracefully disguised as friction.

I walk through why teens (and adults) use tension to create closeness, how patterns from childhood homes show up in present-day relationships, and why some people only feel seen when things are slightly dramatic. We talk about how conflict can become ritualized, how certain personalities need emotional activation before they can bond, and why disengaging can change the entire system.

This isn’t an episode about fixing anyone. It’s about understanding the function behind the friction, and remembering that sometimes a raised voice isn’t hostility – it’s actually a clumsy, but familiar, way to reach for connection. And when you can see it clearly, you don’t have to take the invitation to argue to still meet the need underneath it.

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What if it wasn’t you after all? What if that rejection was a redirection to something better or to where you are supposed to be?

Thank you so much for being here! In today’s Jen is Zen, I’m inviting you to look at rejection through a completely different lens. What if the “no” you got wasn’t about you at all? What if it wasn’t a failure or a flaw or proof that you’re not enough, but a quiet nudge redirecting you toward the place you’re actually meant to be?

If this realization had hit me sooner in my own life, how much peace could I have given myself! Yet, many of us instead take every “no” as a personal indictment instead of a sign of alignment.

This is your reminder that the universe does not give you peace in situations that aren’t right for you, and sometimes the disappointments that sting the least are the ones speaking the loudest.

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In this Thanksgiving episode, I am extra thankful for you being here! Many moms (including me!) are anxious to have their college students home for the holiday, but that doesn't mean it won't be without its possible challenges. We'll have a conversation exploring the joys and challenges of welcoming college freshmen back home for the holidays. As our families reconnect, we need to adapt to the changes our child has experienced in their first months at college, from newfound independence to identity growth, and how these shifts impact family dynamics, which have also had to adapt.. Whether it’s managing expectations, fostering open communication, or finding gratitude in the chaos, this episode is packed with advice to help families make the most of this special time together.

Dr. Brubaker’s warm and relatable approach offers encouragement and empathy, reminding listeners to focus on connection, gratitude, and the love that binds families. Perfect for parents navigating their child's return from college, this episode is your guide to a meaningful and memorable Thanksgiving.

Listen now on Reframing Me and connect on social media at @reframingme or at reframing-me.com.

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Thank you so much for being here!

*** Join me in the Reframing Circle to go deeper each month with *1 bonus Jen is Zen episode,* *1 matreniassance-themed episode,* *1 guided meditation,* and *weekly book readings/discussions.***

You can create your own magic. You can create your own future. You do not have to be chosen. You do not have to wait to be chosen. You are the creator of your own life.

There's a moment that so many midlife moms quietly fear: the one where they sense that their purpose is fading just as their children’s lives are expanding. Being caregiving becomes an identity, and how losing that role can feel like losing yourself.

But you don’t have to wait to be chosen or validated. You can choose yourself. You can create your own magic. See this as an invitation for women to reclaim their purpose, trust their voice, and remember that midlife isn’t a decline; it’s an awakening.

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It's the home stretch for my years as a "Football Mom," and I am feeling the feels. When your kids are involved in an activity that becomes consuming of your time, energy, and money, and when we find ourselves on the sideline or in the stands or seats watching day after day, week after week, year after year, there comes a point when it all ends. For many, senior year is that end. But for some, it happens sooner, whether they don’t make the team or grow out of love with the sport or activity and just decide they are done – but wait! You might say – but what if I’m not done?

It’s the end of a chapter. There is a loss – a sense of grief – it’s the loss of an activity – of a group of people you’ve grown to feel a community with – the loss of something that you share with your child. It's ok to feel sad. It’s ok for us to look back and reflect. It just won’t be the same. And it’s ok to mourn that end – mourn the loss. We may feel an ambiguous loss. At its core, ambiguous loss is about a lack of resolution. The loss of what could have or should have been. The loss of someone or something as it was.

But we aren’t the only ones who will feel the end because obviously, the kids will feel it even more than we do. So what comes next - what can we expect from our teen athletes post sports, and how you can help them find their identities.

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