It’s been an amazing first season on Reclaiming Ourselves, but before we take a break, we had to get the panel back together! Sonya and all of her co-hosts are in the studio to share their thoughts on how to find the right pace for ourselves, allowing ourselves time to recover so we can show up as our best selves! 

Not only do we begin to reclaim our time and energy, but we start to understand what optimizes our aliveness. In this episode, we see how each co-host views rest at this busy time of year, and how they’re managing the demands of the season.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 16:39 The cultural messaging we receive that makes rest feel unsafe.
• 19:47 Why it’s hard to find our own tempo, and easy to just move at the pace the world sets for us.
• 25:07 Why it’s a good thing to celebrate slowing down.
• 39:56 When rest isn’t really restful, and how to tell the difference.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• Pico Iyer’s TED Talk on The Art of Stillness https://www.ted.com/talks/pico_iyer_the_art_of_stillness?language=en 

Learn more about the hosts: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker, and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Laura Shook-Guzman, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, LMFT, and Somatic Psychotherapist for entrepreneurs has been a mental health professional for 23 years. She’s the founder of three businesses; the world's first Wellness Coworking Community Soma Vida, the global community Women Who Cowork, and her own therapy practice, Conscious Ambition. You can find more about her here: 

Website: http://www.laurashookguzman.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurashookguzman/ 

—> Belinda Haan, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, is a gifted Masters-level certified professional coach who has worked with leaders and executives in various Fortune 500 corporations worldwide. She is a mindfulness and compassion teacher and facilitates group and individual therapeutic interventions that promote inner connection and belonging. She is...

Remembering who we are is an important part of reclaiming ourselves, but the journey to reclaiming ourselves is a process of forgetting & remembering. 

They share their experiences with the lifelong practice of remembering themselves (and forgetting themselves), and why finding grace for ourselves is foundational to having compassion for others.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 02:24 How losing and remembering ourselves defines the cyclical process of reclaiming ourselves.
• 14:42 Why our perception of others can trick us into thinking we’re the only ones experiencing negative emotions.
• 15:10 The ways that human responses to grief and loss are labelled as character flaws.
• 17:02 Why being amazing doesn’t mean being perfect.
• 24:26 How we abandon ourselves when we’re most vulnerable by judging ourselves for experiencing our feelings.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, by Dr. Richard Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/nobadparts 
• Psychotherapist & Author Matt Licata, PhD https://mattlicataphd.com/ 

Learn more about Sonya & Belinda: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership, and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Belinda Haan, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, is a gifted Masters-level certified professional coach who has worked with leaders and executives in various Fortune 500 corporations worldwide. She is a mindfulness and compassion teacher and facilitates group and individual therapeutic interventions that promote inner connection and belonging. She is personally passionate about bridging the gap between science and spirit, using an empathic, grounded approach that weaves contemplative practice and accessible personal development with her clients. You can find more about her here:

Website: www.belindahaan.com

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/belinda-haan-b1b02815/

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Coming to terms with racial identity and our role in systemic inequity is a challenging but vital part of reclaiming ourselves. Sonya and Emily are joined by special guest Fatima Mann, co-founder of Love and Healing Work. 

Fatima brings an understanding informed by trauma and healing, to help us understand why we need to reckon with race, when it’s okay to unsubscribe from the boxes society puts us in, and taking care of ourselves and our bodies builds the foundation for appreciating others.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 05:09 The social construction of racial identity, and how to opt out.
• 08:28 Developing a consensual relationship with ourselves.
• 12:47 Performative displays versus actual self development work.
• 15:14 How to think about Investing in ourselves and our relationships.
• 27:17 The crucial difference between discomfort and harm in difficult conversations.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• The book Anger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames, by Thích Nhất Hạnh https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/95734.Anger 
• Staci K. Haines, co-founder of generative somatics, and author of The Politics of Trauma. https://thepoliticsoftrauma.com/about 

Learn more about Sonya, Emily & Special Guest Fatima Mann: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership, and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Emily Soccorsy [So-KOR-SEE], co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, believes branding is how people experience what you believe. As owner and CEO of Root + River, a brand strategy team, Emily uses her talents to help leaders uncover the foundations of their brand: message, audience, differentiators, and overall brand strategy. She’s also an author, speaker, poet, artist, and mom of two daughters (and a 130-pound Great Pyrenees named Archie) and partner to her husband of over 20 years. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://rootandriver.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilysoccorsy/ 

—> Fatima Mann is an innovator, thought...

So much of how we show up in the world is influenced by unconscious patterns we’ve been repeating since childhood. These deep psychic grooves can help us survive, but they can also keep us from being the people we really want to be. 

Join Sonya and Laura as they explore the origins of these patterns, and how compassionate, loving self-exploration can help us get out of those ruts and back to a more authentic relationship with ourselves.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 05:23 The ways even loving, well-meaning family environments can encourage us to hide our true selves.
• 15:27 Being helpful because you want to, not to seek validation.
• 36:10 The importance of examining your patterns with curiosity and compassion.
• 37:04 How our unconscious patterns deplete our energy, and how to better resource ourselves.
• 40:02 The vital role of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in settling conflicts, internal and external.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• The poem Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver
• Pico Iyer’s TED Talk on The Art of Stillness
• Women in the Business Arena Episode 219, Get Re-Sourced

Learn more about Sonya & Laura: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker, and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Laura Shook-Guzman, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, LMFT, and Somatic Psychotherapist for entrepreneurs has been a mental health professional for 23 years. She’s the founder of three businesses; the world's first Wellness Coworking Community Soma Vida, the global community Women Who Cowork, and her own therapy practice, Conscious Ambition. You can find more about her here: 

Website: http://www.laurashookguzman.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurashookguzman/ 

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So often, we measure success by achievements: money made, promotions earned, awards bestowed. Sonya and Emily know that mindset can drive a wedge between ourselves and our values, and keep us from living truly and honestly. 

They’ll show you how to feel when you’re stuck in the loop of achieving, and how to stop working for someday and start living for now.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 07:48 The illusion of an endpoint to achieving, beyond which we’ll find fulfillment.
• 10:15 How chasing achievement leaves us vulnerable to being exploited.
• 16:38 What to do when your circumstances make it challenging to take time for your own priorities.
• 21:25 How to recognize the differences between achievement mindset and living mindset.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• Psychiatrist and author Dr. Viktor E. Frankl https://viktorfrankl.org/lifeandwork.html 
• Poet and philosopher Mark Nepo https://marknepo.com/ 

Learn more about Sonya & Emily: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership, and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Emily Soccorsy [So-KOR-SEE], co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, believes branding is how people experience what you believe. As owner and CEO of Root + River, a brand strategy team, Emily uses her talents to help leaders uncover the foundations of their brand: message, audience, differentiators, and overall brand strategy. She’s also an author, speaker, poet, artist, and mom of two daughters (and a 130-pound Great Pyrenees named Archie) and partner to her husband of over 20 years. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://rootandriver.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilysoccorsy/ 

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Do you ever feel like you’ve given up on yourself? Do you struggle with trusting yourself? How do you start to rebuild the self-love and support you’ve let go of? 

They share their own self-abandonment experiences, how to know when your brain is pushing you in a direction that your body doesn’t like, and strategies and practices to help you find your way back home. 

Join us as we discuss: 

• 03:52 The distinctions between surrender and abandonment.
• 12:12 Developing compassion for your inner critic.
• 16:00 How much of our stress response can be managed but not controlled.
• 28:28 How focusing on the present moment can ground us in our bodies and keep us in touch with self.

Resources mentioned in the show: (If appropriate)

• Professor Paul Gilbert https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk/about
• Rumi on seeking love https://psychcentral.com/blog/mindfulness/2010/02/our-barriers-to-love-mondays-mindful-quote-with-rumi#1

Learn more about Sonya & Belinda: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership, and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Belinda Haan, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, is a gifted Masters-level certified professional coach who has worked with leaders and executives in various Fortune 500 corporations worldwide. She is a mindfulness and compassion teacher and facilitates group and individual therapeutic interventions that promote inner connection and belonging. She is personally passionate about bridging the gap between science and spirit, using an empathic, grounded approach that weaves contemplative practice and accessible personal development with her clients. You can find more about her here:

Website: www.belindahaan.com

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/belinda-haan-b1b02815/

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If you’re seeing self-development as a mental exercise, you’re missing out on the foundational, fundamental well-being that comes from understanding your body! 

In this episode, Laura and Sonya explore the messages our bodies send us, and why it’s vital to pay attention to them. They’ll explain why we must remember to tune into our bodies, and how tough but rewarding that learning process can be.

Join us as we discuss: 

• 24:01 Why it can be so scary to rebuild a relationship with our bodies.
• 28:10 Approaching our body’s responses from a places of curiosity and consent.
• 33:21 Learning to prioritize the body and its messages.
• 38:29 The ways our nervous systems are constantly monitoring our safety.
• 42:23 How understanding the body can help us cultivate empathy.

Resources mentioned in the show: 

• The 8 Cs of Self-Leadership https://foundationifs.org/resources/8-cs-wheel
• Dr. Dan Siegel’s Mindsight https://drdansiegel.com/mindsight/
• Trauma expert Dr. Peter Levine https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/about-peter 
• Dr. Stephen Porges on neuroception: https://chhs.fresnostate.edu/ccci/documents/07.15.16%20Neuroception%20Porges%202004.pdf
• Deb Dana, LCSW, author and speaker on Polyvagal Theory https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/about 

Learn more about Sonya & Laura: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker, and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/

—> Laura Shook-Guzman, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, LMFT, and Somatic Psychotherapist for entrepreneurs has been a mental health professional for 23 years. She’s the founder of three businesses; the world's first Wellness Coworking Community Soma Vida, the global community Women Who Cowork, and her own therapy practice, Conscious Ambition. You can find more about her here: 

Website: http://www.laurashookguzman.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurashookguzman/ 

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Reclaiming ourselves is a personal journey, but it’s also deeply rooted in our connection to other people, bigger systems, and whole societies! 

Join us as we discuss: 

• 07:53 Why we unfairly blame ourselves for the effects of problematic systems on our personal growth.
• 21:28 Finding your agency to create more positive systems and structures.
• 22:47 How the critical context of power and privilege influences our choices. 
• 32:31 The reality of our relational, connected existence.

Resources mentioned in the show: 

• Speaker and strategist Nkem Ndefo https://lumostransforms.com/team/nkem-ndefo/ 
• The Politics of Trauma, by Staci K. Haines https://thepoliticsoftrauma.com/ 

Learn more about Sonya & Laura: 

—> Sonya Stattmann is the host & creator of Reclaiming Ourselves™. She is a TEDx & corporate speaker, and has been working with leaders around personal development for the last 22 years. She teaches workshops & offers small group programs around emotional intelligence, transformational & embodied leadership and energy management. You can find more about her here:

Website: https://www.sonyastattmann.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonyastattmann/ 

—> Laura Shook-Guzman, co-host of Reclaiming Ourselves, LMFT, and Somatic Psychotherapist for entrepreneurs has been a mental health professional for 23 years. She’s the founder of three businesses; the world's first Wellness Coworking Community Soma Vida, the global community Women Who Cowork, and her own therapy practice, Conscious Ambition. You can find more about her here: 

Website: http://www.laurashookguzman.com/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurashookguzman/ 

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