In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore one of the most powerful—and underestimated—tools for emotional intelligence and healthy relationships: the phrase “Help me understand.”

Drawing from real moments with kids, partners, and everyday home life, Ash shares how this one sentence can dissolve assumptions, regulate reactivity, and repair years of feeling misunderstood—especially for neurodivergent kids and adults. Dave adds his perspective on triggers, self-awareness, and how to hold space for curiosity even when your nervous system is activated.

This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply practical—an invitation to slow down, ask before assuming, and choose connection over conflict.

• Why “help me understand” interrupts spiraling assumptions

• How this phrase transforms communication with neurodivergent kids

• The difference between reacting, projecting, and responding

• Emotional intelligence: awareness, regulation, social awareness & relationship management

• How tone, physiology, and intention matter more than the words

• Breaking generational patterns of yelling, blame, and character shaming

• Modeling triggers, repair, and emotional safety for children

• Where do you tend to assume intent instead of asking for clarity?

• What happens in your body when you’re triggered—and how can you pause before reacting?

• How might using “help me understand” change your relationships at home or work?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton unpack something most of us do—often without realising it: the chameleon effect.

From relationships to work and even parenting, many of us subtly shape-shift to be who others need us to be—just to feel safe, accepted, or loved. Ash and Dave explore what happens when this survival strategy turns into self-abandonment, and how to reclaim your authenticity while still adapting with awareness.

Drawing from real-life stories (including Ash’s reflections on her 12-year-old son learning who he is around others), this episode explores the roots of this behavior and the gentle practice of self-observation as the path back to truth.

In this episode:

• What the “chameleon effect” really is and why we all do it

• How fear of rejection drives shape-shifting behaviors

• The fine line between adapting and abandoning yourself

• How to use observation—not judgment—to return to authenticity

• Parenting lessons: letting your child explore identity safely

• The importance of recording and watching yourself with compassion

• Why authenticity feels safer than performing once you learn to stay with yourself

  
  

Ash and Dave close with a powerful reflection on recording your own conversations as a tool for empathy, awareness, and growth.

Reflection prompts:

• When do you notice yourself changing to fit in?

• What’s your “why” behind wanting to be liked or accepted?

• How can you observe yourself with curiosity, not criticism?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Ash and David dive into the messy, sacred, and often confusing terrain of decision-making during big life transitions. What happens when your intuition is a full-body yes… but the data says you’re walking into chaos? How do you move forward when you're navigating uncertainty, spiritual nudges, emotional upheaval, or a partner who processes decisions completely differently?

This conversation is warm, honest, playful, and deeply human—exploring everything from intuition, faith, emotional processing, spiritual bypassing, relationships, patience, and the discomfort of holding conflicting truths.

Whether you’re facing a major life choice or trying to understand how to make decisions in partnership, this episode offers grounded wisdom, nervous system attunement, and gentle encouragement to trust your inner knowing—even when the path looks foggy.

• Why intuitive decision-making often clashes with logic

• Full-body yes/no signals and what happens when they don’t match the data

• Navigating decisions with partners who process very differently

• Anxiety, urgency, patience, and pacing through big life transitions

• The gap between belief and reality (delusion vs faith)

• How emotional processing supports clarity (without spiritual bypassing)

• Relationship frameworks for decision-making without conflict

• The role of God/Spirit/intuition in guiding big life choices

• Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path

• When has your intuition guided you somewhere that didn’t make sense on paper?

• What decision-making style do you naturally default to—and how can you honor it more?

• Where in your relationships do you rush, avoid, or override instead of communicating what you need?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton continue their conversation on self-awareness with a practical twist: how to observe yourself in real time.

Ash shares a powerful exercise she uses with clients and couples—recording important conversations on video—not to prove a point, but to see yourself with fresh eyes. From unconscious facial expressions to the mismatch between words and body language, this practice offers a mirror for growth rather than criticism.

Dave reflects on how he once used recording as a weapon in arguments, and how shifting that intention toward curiosity changed everything. Together, they explore the difference between observing to control versus observing to understand, and why the goal isn’t perfection—it’s partnership, accountability, and growth.

In this episode:

• How to use recording as a tool for self-reflection, not evidence

• Why most communication happens beyond words

• How to spot the mismatch between what you say and what your body reveals

• What to do when you notice your “performance” on camera

• How to use observation to build conscious relationships

• The “death, burial, and resurrection” model for healthy partnership

• Why collaboration, not competition, is the foundation of love

Ash and Dave invite you to pause, watch yourself without judgment, and use self-observation as the doorway to healing and connection.

Reflection prompts:

• When was the last time you truly watched yourself communicate?

• Do your energy, words, and body language tell the same story?

• How can you turn self-awareness into collaboration, not criticism?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore the subtle but powerful dynamic of sentimental projection—how unspoken emotional expectations can unintentionally set the people we love up to fail.

From birthdays to anniversaries and “special moments,” we often attach deep meaning to gestures that others may not even see. Ash and Dave unpack how these expectations, when unspoken, can create quiet resentment—and how to move toward collaboration, communication, and compassion instead.

Together, they reflect on how to set each other up for success in relationships through emotional intelligence, perspective-taking, and a shared understanding of what celebration truly means.

In this episode:

• What sentimental projection is—and how it shows up in daily life

• The emotional wiring difference between partners and why it matters

• How unspoken expectations can create unnecessary pressure

• What it means to “celebrate with” rather than “celebrate for” someone

• Building connection through curiosity, not correction

• How to communicate your needs without shame or blame

  
  

Reflection Prompts:

• Where do your emotional expectations come from—past or present?

• How can you express what you value without making it a test of love?

• What would “setting your partner up for success” look like for you?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton continue the conversation on parenting, identity, and generational healing. After exploring the dangers of making your child the center of your universe in the last episode, this week they dive into how to recover and rebuild a healthy parent-child relationship—one rooted in balance, modeling, and mutual respect.

Ash and Dave unpack what it means to reclaim your identity, nurture your marriage, and model healthy selfhood for your kids—without guilt or shame. This episode is both a guide for parents and an invitation to self-compassion as you re-learn what it means to be whole.

In this episode:

• How to begin reclaiming your identity after losing yourself in parenting

• Why modeling joy, passion, and purpose teaches kids more than words ever could

• The role of hobbies, friendships, and partnership in healthy family systems

• How over-sacrifice in parenting creates resentment and disconnection

• Why self-care and individuality are gifts to your children, not threats

• The importance of compassion for parents who are also healing their own upbringing

Ash and Dave remind us that healing isn’t about blame—it’s about rewriting the playbook our children will inherit.

Reflection prompts:

• What brings you joy outside of your roles?

• How might your children benefit from seeing you pursue your own passions?

• If your child mirrored your current relationship or self-worth, would you feel proud?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore a deeply important and often misunderstood topic: what happens when your children become the center of your universe.

Ash shares her perspective as a parent who has seen how identity can dissolve into roles—mother, wife, daughter, teacher—until there’s nothing left of “you.” Dave brings the other side of the story: what it’s like to be the child of a parent who gave everything, and how that love, though well-intentioned, can become suffocating.

Together they unpack the emotional risks of over-identifying with parenthood and how to lovingly reclaim your own sense of self without abandoning your kids.

In this episode:

• The hidden danger in “putting your kids first, always”

• How identity loss fuels depression and disconnection in midlife

• The enmeshment trap: when your child’s happiness becomes your responsibility

• How parentification shapes anxious, over-responsible adults

• Why good intentions aren’t always healthy dynamics

• The difference between being a present parent and an over-involved one

• Why letting your child be separate from you is an act of love

  
  

Ash and Dave open a vulnerable, necessary conversation about boundaries, selfhood, and breaking generational cycles—because love should liberate, not consume.

Reflection prompts:

• Do you know who you are outside of your roles?

• Where might you be taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions?

• How can you model individuality for your children while staying connected?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton share a heartfelt update: after over two and a half years of weekly episodes, they’re preparing to retire this format of the podcast at the end of 2025.

Ash and Dave reflect on the journey that brought them here, the lessons they’ve learned as friends and collaborators, and the big shifts happening in both of their lives. From building Re-MIND to Dave’s new passion for AI and conscious technology, this conversation is a raw, honest, and hopeful exploration of endings, seasons, and what’s next.

In this episode:

• Why it’s time to bring this chapter of the podcast to a close

• The behind-the-scenes challenges and growth of creating weekly episodes

• The importance of honoring seasons and knowing when to pivot

• Dave’s next big leap into AI, blockchain, and “anti-slop” conscious tools

• Why identity and value aren’t defined by productivity alone

• Reflections on what’s been built—and what still lies ahead

This isn’t goodbye—it’s an evolution. The library of 140+ episodes will remain, and the lessons within will continue to serve.

Reflection prompts:

• What season of life are you in right now—building, maintaining, or shifting?

• Where are you being called to release something, even if it’s been meaningful?

• How can you honor both the endings and the beginnings in your own journey?

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