In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton explore one of the most powerful—and underestimated—tools for emotional intelligence and healthy relationships: the phrase “Help me understand.”

Drawing from real moments with kids, partners, and everyday home life, Ash shares how this one sentence can dissolve assumptions, regulate reactivity, and repair years of feeling misunderstood—especially for neurodivergent kids and adults. Dave adds his perspective on triggers, self-awareness, and how to hold space for curiosity even when your nervous system is activated.

This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply practical—an invitation to slow down, ask before assuming, and choose connection over conflict.

• Why “help me understand” interrupts spiraling assumptions

• How this phrase transforms communication with neurodivergent kids

• The difference between reacting, projecting, and responding

• Emotional intelligence: awareness, regulation, social awareness & relationship management

• How tone, physiology, and intention matter more than the words

• Breaking generational patterns of yelling, blame, and character shaming

• Modeling triggers, repair, and emotional safety for children

• Where do you tend to assume intent instead of asking for clarity?

• What happens in your body when you’re triggered—and how can you pause before reacting?

• How might using “help me understand” change your relationships at home or work?

  
  

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Dr Ashleigh Moreland and David Masterton unpack something most of us do—often without realising it: the chameleon effect.

From relationships to work and even parenting, many of us subtly shape-shift to be who others need us to be—just to feel safe, accepted, or loved. Ash and Dave explore what happens when this survival strategy turns into self-abandonment, and how to reclaim your authenticity while still adapting with awareness.

Drawing from real-life stories (including Ash’s reflections on her 12-year-old son learning who he is around others), this episode explores the roots of this behavior and the gentle practice of self-observation as the path back to truth.

In this episode:

• What the “chameleon effect” really is and why we all do it

• How fear of rejection drives shape-shifting behaviors

• The fine line between adapting and abandoning yourself

• How to use observation—not judgment—to return to authenticity

• Parenting lessons: letting your child explore identity safely

• The importance of recording and watching yourself with compassion

• Why authenticity feels safer than performing once you learn to stay with yourself

  
  

Ash and Dave close with a powerful reflection on recording your own conversations as a tool for empathy, awareness, and growth.

Reflection prompts:

• When do you notice yourself changing to fit in?

• What’s your “why” behind wanting to be liked or accepted?

• How can you observe yourself with curiosity, not criticism?

  
  

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The Re-Mind Podcast shares general information about mental health, well-being, healing, and spiritual growth. This episode is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional.

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In this episode of The Re-Mind Podcast, Ash and David dive into the messy, sacred, and often confusing terrain of decision-making during big life transitions. What happens when your intuition is a full-body yes… but the data says you’re walking into chaos? How do you move forward when you're navigating uncertainty, spiritual nudges, emotional upheaval, or a partner who processes decisions completely differently?

This conversation is warm, honest, playful, and deeply human—exploring everything from intuition, faith, emotional processing, spiritual bypassing, relationships, patience, and the discomfort of holding conflicting truths.

Whether you’re facing a major life choice or trying to understand how to make decisions in partnership, this episode offers grounded wisdom, nervous system attunement, and gentle encouragement to trust your inner knowing—even when the path looks foggy.

• Why intuitive decision-making often clashes with logic

• Full-body yes/no signals and what happens when they don’t match the data

• Navigating decisions with partners who process very differently

• Anxiety, urgency, patience, and pacing through big life transitions

• The gap between belief and reality (delusion vs faith)

• How emotional processing supports clarity (without spiritual bypassing)

• Relationship frameworks for decision-making without conflict

• The role of God/Spirit/intuition in guiding big life choices

• Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path

• When has your intuition guided you somewhere that didn’t make sense on paper?

• What decision-making style do you naturally default to—and how can you honor it more?

• Where in your relationships do you rush, avoid, or override instead of communicating what you need?

  
  

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