Are you keeping this friendship out of habit or love?

If they weren’t in your life today, would you try to be friends again?

In this profoundly insightful episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with Simon Sinek, renowned leadership expert, bestselling author, and host of the podcast, A Bit of Optimism. Jay and Simon share a deeply vulnerable and powerful conversation about what it truly means to be human in a world that’s more connected than ever, yet so emotionally disconnected. Together, they explore the foundational role of friendships, belonging, and purpose in building meaningful lives and relationships.

Jay opens up about his own transformation and the early influence of Simon’s book Start with Why, while Simon reflects on the personal journey behind his body of work, emphasizing that all leadership is, at its core, about human connection. They speak candidly about how burnout often stems from loneliness, the fragile nature of adult friendships, the difficulty many have in celebrating others’ success, and the healing power of emotional honesty in relationships. With wisdom, humor, and emotional clarity, Simon breaks down how we can show up more authentically for ourselves and for those we love—even when it’s uncomfortable.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Support a Friend Without Trying to Fix Them

How to Know When It’s Time to Let a Friendship Go

How to Create Belonging When You Feel Disconnected

How to Celebrate a Friend’s Win Even When You’re Struggling

How to Communicate When You Don’t Know What to Say

How to Recognize Burnout as a Sign of Loneliness

This episode is a powerful reminder that being imperfect is what makes us human, and that real connection isn’t built on perfection, but on the willingness to be present, authentic, and compassionate.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:26 How to Truly Connect with Others

03:45 The Universal Truth Behind All Human Problems

05:45 Why We All Really Just Want to Belong

09:33 Feeling Lonely? You’re Not Alone

12:10 Why Community is Disappearing & Why It Matters

18:33 Do Kids Really Need a Village?

22:17 Why We All Crave Safety

24:22 How to Find People Who Share Your Values

28:19 Understanding the Journey vs. the Goal

30:49 Knowing When to Persevere vs. Let Go

32:46 How to Know You've Outgrown a Friendship

35:22 Recognizing Why a Relationship Has Ended

38:08 Why Sincerity Beats Perfection Every Time

45:46 Learning to Trust Your Intuition

48:52 The Most Powerful Relationship Advice You'll Ever Hear

55:27 How to Share Your Wins With Friends Who Are Struggling

01:03:10 Stop Letting Insecurities Define Your Behavior

01:06:21 Can You Be Friends with People You Envy?

01:09:35 How to Respond to Skeptics with Grace

01:12:44 Your Worth Isn’t Measured by Numbers

01:15:45 Tune Into Your Needs, Not Others' Expectations

01:19:01 What Social Awkwardness Really Means

01:22:59 Real Communication Is About Understanding, Not Winning

01:29:44 Embracing Imperfection Is What Makes Us Human

01:31:40 Simon on Final Five

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A Bit of Optimism

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Have you ever found yourself holding onto someone who couldn’t fully open up to you?

Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have, hoping things would finally get better?

In today’s episode, I’m doing something a little different. My good friend Lisa Bilyeu flips the script and interviews me. Lisa is the co-founder of the billion-dollar company Quest Nutrition, founder of Women of Impact, and one of the most honest, fearless voices I know when it comes to growth, relationships, and empowerment. Together, we unpack some of the most misunderstood truths about relationships, from why we settle to how we can start making choices rooted in self-worth rather than fear.

We talk about how to stop crowd-sourcing your most important life decisions and why learning to listen to your own voice—without all the outside opinions—is one of the most healing things you can do. I share the real reason many of us struggle with being alone, how to break the cycle of chasing emotionally unavailable partners, and why true love should feel like peace—not anxiety dressed up as passion.

This episode is about so much more than dating. It’s about rebuilding your self-worth one choice at a time. I walk you through my 5 daily habits that help me build inner confidence, how to tell when you’re compromising in love versus losing yourself, and the honest questions you need to ask before deciding whether to stay—or walk away.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Stop Settling and Start Choosing From Confidence

How to Trust Your Intuition Without Second-Guessing Yourself

How to Break Free From the Fear of Being Alone

How to Create Peace In Order to Attract a Healthy Relationship

How to Know If You’re Compromising or Abandoning Yourself

How to Build Self-Worth With 5 Simple Daily Habits

I’m so grateful to Lisa for creating this space. I hope it brings you a deeper sense of direction, healing, and the reminder that you are always worth choosing—especially by yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:21 The Three Reasons We Settle in Love

04:24 We All Have a Different Take on Love

06:36 The 7-Day Opinion Fast

13:15 Why Do We Keep Chasing the Wrong Person?

17:29 The Technique Men Use to Flirt with Women

23:44 The Difference Between Adapting vs. Diminishing Yourself in Relationships

28:39 This is the Biggest Reason for Breakups & How to Avoid It

31:50 Promoting a Healthy Relationship Through 'US' and 'WE'

34:52 Never Say these Two Words During An Argument

36:41 Is it Love or Just Lust?

38:24 Are You Comfortable or Complacent in Your Relationship?

45:24 Don't Let Your Insecurities Affect Your Current Relationship

48:06 The Three People You'll Fall With in Love in Your Life

53:29 Why Trust Should Be Given Easily

56:02 Fixing Someone Isn't Your Responsibility

01:00:39 Three Ways to Adapt to Your Partner's Personality

01:06:23 You Can't Live on Someone Else’s Timeline

01:12:29 This is the Type of Conversation You Should be Having With Your Partner

01:16:16 5 Daily Habits to Build Self-Worth

01:22:47 Best Nighttime Routine to Block Negative Thoughts

01:25:25 Jay's On Tour Update

Episode Resources:

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Lisa Bilyeu | Instagram

Lisa Bilyeu | TikTok

Lisa Bilyeu | Facebook

Lisa Bilyeu | YouTube

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Lisa Bilyeu | LinkedIn

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Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want

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Do you believe our thoughts can shape our reality?

Have you ever had a moment where something you visualized came true?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together a powerful lineup of voices—including Roxie Nafousi, Dr. Tara Swart, Big Sean, and Will Smith—to explore how manifestation can be truly transformative when rooted in clarity, alignment, and intentional action. Through candid conversations and personal reflections, Jay and his guests break down the mindset shifts and daily habits that turn dreams into reality.

This episode challenges common misconceptions, revealing that manifestation isn't about wishful thinking but about cultivating a deep sense of self-worth and purpose. Listeners will discover how to harness the power of visualization, overcome limiting beliefs, and align their actions with their deepest desires. The discussions emphasize the importance of consistency, gratitude, and resilience in the journey toward personal fulfillment.

Whether you're new to the concept or seeking to deepen your practice, this episode offers practical insights and inspiring stories to guide you on your path. It's a reminder that with the right mindset and intentional effort, you can create the life you've always envisioned.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Shift from Passive Wishing to Active Creating

How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust

How to Visualize and Embody Your Desired Outcomes

How to Stay Motivated and Bounce Back from Setbacks

How to Align Daily Actions with Long-Term Vision

Manifestation is more than a buzzword, it's a commitment to living with purpose and intention. Tune in to uncover the tools and perspectives that can help you turn your aspirations into tangible realities.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:10 This is Why You Attract Rejection and Negativity

04:40 Stop Manifesting the Wrong Things

08:19 Manifesting the Life You Want Isn't a Trend

12:06 Start Small to Grow Big Long Term

15:04 The Impact of Micro Changes to Make Your Life Better

17:57 Why is the Brain Wired to Avoid Risk?

24:45 How Acceptance Can Help You Move Forward

28:52 Stop Chasing, Start Attracting

30:29 Focus on the Things You Can Control

33:08 The Price of Having the Wrong Success Mindset

36:02 How to Live Your Life in Love and Service

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How well did you sleep last night?

Do you wake up feeling rested?

Today, Jay welcomes renowned neuroscientist, sleep expert, and bestselling author Dr. Matthew Walker to unpack the profound importance of sleep and how it shapes every facet of our health and wellbeing. Bestselling author of Why We Sleep, Dr. Matthew Walker brings scientific rigor and heartfelt clarity to one of the most misunderstood and underestimated aspects of our lives.

Matthew opens the discussion by challenging the myth of the 'eight-hour rule.' While the average adult does best with seven to nine hours of sleep, the focus quickly shifts beyond just duration. Instead, Matthew introduces a more holistic four part framework—Quantity, Quality, Regularity, and Timing, or QQRT. This framework highlights how sleep is not simply about how long one sleeps, but also how deeply, how consistently, and how well it aligns with our natural biological rhythms.

Jay and Matthew's conversation also tackles common disruptors of restorative sleep, including caffeine, alcohol, and excessive exposure to artificial light. Dr. Walker discusses how these elements can interfere with the brain’s ability to enter deep and REM sleep, the latter being especially important for emotional processing, hormonal regulation, and memory consolidation. Sleep, it turns out, influences far more than individual health.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Know If You’re Getting Enough Sleep

How to Improve Sleep Using the QQRT Formula

How to Align Your Sleep With Your Body’s Internal Clock

How to Avoid Waking Up Tired Every Morning

How to Optimize Your Evening Routine for Better Sleep

How to Fall Back Asleep After Waking Up at Night

How to Diagnose Sleep Apnea at Home

With scientific insight and practical wisdom, the episode paints a vivid picture of how sleep, when prioritized and protected, can serve as a catalyst for healing, clarity, and sustainable energy.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:12 The Four Metrics That Define Great Sleep

06:03 Can You Actually Change Your Sleep Cycle?

09:45 Why You Wake Up Tired—Even After a Full Night’s Sleep

14:29 What Sleep Apnea Really Is and Why It’s Often Missed

19:21 The Body-Wide Damage Caused by Sleep Loss

23:20 The Hormone That Increases Late-Night Cravings

28:42 Best Types of Food to Eat Before Bed

33:48 How Late-Night Eating Disrupts Your Sleep Rhythm

37:23 The Truth About Melatonin Supplements

40:47 Should You Give Melatonin To Your Children?

44:25 The Evolution of Sleeping Pills Explained

52:36 The Best Nighttime Routine For Optimal Sleep

55:07 Three Practical Tricks to Fall Back Asleep

01:04:58 What It Really Takes to Clear Caffeine From Your System

01:08:01 Surprising Health Benefits of Drinking Coffee

01:10:02 How Alcohol Quietly Ruins Your Sleep

01:13:06 Can Sleeping Well Actually Make you More Successful?

01:16:40 The Real Risks of Losing Just One Hour of Sleep

01:21:16 What Regular Sleep and a Digital Detox Can Do For Your Life

01:22:45 Why Weekend “Catch-Up” Sleep Doesn’t Work

01:24:09 The Overlooked Link Between Sleep and Mental Health

01:27:32 How Poor Sleep Fuels Loneliness and Disconnection

01:30:58 Why Self-Forgiveness Might Be the Ultimate Sleep Tool

Episode Resources:

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Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams

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How do you know when someone is truly right for you?

Have you ever confused attention for love?

In this special crossover episode, Jay Shetty steps out of his usual host role and joins media personality Tinx on her podcast, Office Hours, for a candid and profoundly enriching conversation. Jay opens up about his journey with meditation, relationships, and personal well-being. He breaks meditation down into simple, approachable practices like breathwork, visualization, and mantra, making it accessible to anyone who’s ever felt like they ‘can’t meditate.’

Jay and Tinx go deeper, unpacking the digital overwhelm of the constant pings, nonstop news, and the pressure of staying connected. Jay shares practical strategies for reclaiming your peace, especially in the crucial first moments of the day. From changing how we wake up to choosing when and how we consume news, he emphasizes building rituals that foster clarity rather than chaos.

Jay explains the concept of love through the three key relationship types: the firework, the candle, and the mirror. He challenges the idea of “one soulmate,” suggesting instead that the people we attract reflect where we are in our own growth and emotional state. The conversation is filled with insight into how to find peace in your singlehood, develop a deeper understanding of yourself, and create a life that naturally attracts meaningful connection.

In this conversation, you'll learn:

How to Start Meditating When You Feel Stuck

How to Use Breathwork to Calm Anxiety Instantly

How to Build a Tech-Free Morning Routine

How to Consume News Without Feeling Overwhelmed

How to Create Real Human Connection in a Digital World

Remember, peace shouldn't be something you have to chase—it’s something you can create, right here, right now.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:48 Building Purpose Through the Calm Community

03:38 Struggling with Meditation? Start Here

08:26 Simple Breathing Practice to Calm Your Mind

11:05 Managing News and Notifications Without Losing Peace

18:16 Inside Jay’s Grounding Morning Routine

23:14 The Interview That Changed Jay’s Perspective

25:09 When Interviews Get Deep and Emotional

27:06 Must-Listen Episodes to Start With

29:48 Jay’s Ultimate Dream Guest Revealed

30:36 The Three Types of Love You’ll Experience

34:25 How Jay Met His Wife, Radhi

35:43 What to Look For When Searching for Love

44:37 The Root of Desperation in Dating

45:27 What to Expect from the On Purpose Live Tour

46:46 Preparing Mentally and Physically for Live Shows

48:55 Jay’s Favorite Guilty Pleasures

Episode Resources:

Tinx | Podcast

Tinx | Instagram

Tinx | TikTok

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Do you feel guilty when you put your needs before others by saying no?

When was the last time you chose yourself—just because you needed it, not because you earned it?

Today, Jay is joined by Meggan Roxanne, writer, entrepreneur, and founder of the globally loved platform The Good Quote. Known for curating some of the internet’s most powerful and inspiring affirmations, Meggan now steps into the spotlight with her own voice, sharing a remarkable personal story of loss, resilience, and transformation.

From growing up in a warm and loving home to experiencing a heart-wrenching moment at just four years old, when a grandparent told her they didn’t love her, Meggan opens up about how early trauma shaped her emotional world. Following her mother’s final wish, Meggan became the caretaker for her estranged grandfather, the very man who once wounded her deeply. Through that act of grace, she discovered the true meaning of forgiveness, empathy, and unconditional love.

Throughout the episode, Meggan and Jay explore the difference between people-pleasing and creating space for authentic connection, how emotional boundaries protect our well-being, and what it takes to stop repeating the pain we’ve inherited. She candidly discusses the challenges of grief, especially after losing her mother, her best friend, her guide, and how that loss forced her to reimagine her identity and rebuild from the ground up.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply

How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

How to Heal After Losing a Parent

How to Reconnect with Your Intuition

How to Break Generational Cycles of Trauma

How to Build Confidence Through Self-Respect

Even in the darkest of seasons, you have the power to find peace, reshape your path, and step into a life guided by intention, healing, and light.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:30 The Pain of Feeling Unloved by Family

04:12 Would You Take Care of Someone Who Doesn't Love You?

10:20 How Do You Enforce Your Boundaries?

16:20 Are You a Chronic People Pleaser?

23:06 How The Good Quote Started

34:59 Do You Trust Your Intuition?

43:49 Your Intuition is Your Best Guide

45:20 How Do You Reconnect with Your Intuition?

50:52 How Meditation Helps Calm Down Your Day

53:10 Dealing with Grief, Depression, & Losing a Loved One

Episode Resources:

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Meggan Roxanne | LinkedIn

The Good Quote | Instagram

The Good Quote | Facebook

The Good Quote | Tumblr

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Does anything in your life feel a little “off” right now?

Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve?

Today, Jay sits down with Sadia Khan, psychotherapist and relationship expert, for a deep and unfiltered conversation on love, commitment, and emotional healing in the modern age. Known for her bold and counterintuitive insights, Sadia brings clarity to the often murky waters of dating, self-worth, and relationship dynamics.

Sadia shares her powerful perspective on the importance of being able to walk away from disrespect, and how this one shift can transform who you attract and how you're treated. She challenges conventional dating advice by focusing not on what you attract—but what you entertain—highlighting the role of self-esteem in relationship choices. She explains why emotional unavailability feels attractive, how ghosting reflects poor communication habits, and why your dating app rejection might not be what you think it is.

Jay and Sadia dive into the core issues many of her clients face, including infidelity, fear of commitment, and men struggling with masculinity. She unpacks how a lack of male role models, the ability to set boundaries, and people-pleasing behaviors can derail modern masculinity—and how both men and women can break these cycles to build healthier love.

Sadia introduces the "Three A’s" women need to fall in love—Attraction, Admiration, and Adoration—and the "Three L’s" men need—Lust, Labor, and Loyalty—exploring how balance in these elements creates deep, lasting connection. She also breaks down why women might cheat on “nice” men and how misunderstanding emotional needs can lead to betrayal.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to Attract and Maintain Healthy Relationships.

Why Self-Worth is the Foundation of Love.

How to Avoid the Trap of Emotional Immaturity.

What Makes Men and Women Truly Commit.

The Real Reasons Behind Infidelity.

How to Build Masculine Strength in a Healthy Way.

Why Peace is Better than Constant Pleasure in Love.

This conversation is a masterclass in emotional intelligence and healing. If you're navigating heartbreak, struggling with self-worth, or seeking a deep, lasting relationship—this episode is for you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:17 How to Stop Fearing Conflict and Start Choosing Yourself

02:24 Why We Fall for the Emotionally Unavailable

05:31 The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps

07:01 Is Wanting Similarity the Same as Settling?

08:40 How to Stop Getting Ghosted in Modern Dating

09:31 The Early Signs of a Healthy Relationship

11:19 The Two Most Common Relationship Struggles: Infidelity and Commitment

12:19 What Happens When Men Lack Masculinity

15:25 Why Men Need Stronger Role Models

18:21 The Unspoken Contract Behind People-Pleasing

19:25 How to Show Love Without Seeking Approval

21:12 The Real Reason Women Cheat on Good Men

24:55 How to Teach Others How to Treat You

26:14 The Three A’s Every Woman Needs to Fall in Love

32:45 The Three L’s Every Man Needs to Stay in Love

36:10 How to Avoid Being Just a Temporary Fling

37:49 Why the Person You Date Isn’t Always the One You Marry

40:42 Sexual Discipline: Why It’s Essential for Self-Respect

42:29 What True Psychological Intimacy Really Looks Like

45:15 Lowering Your Standards May Cost You More Than You Think

46:10 Is Getting Cheated On Ever Partly Your Fault?

48:59 How to Recognize When You’re Being Disrespected

50:13 Are You Loyal to the Marriage or Just the Person?

52:45 The Most Honest Marriage Vow No One Talks About

56:50 Why Some Men Keep Choosing the Wrong Women

59:40 How to Know If You’re Afraid of Commitment

01:04:23 Can a Broken Relationship Be Fixed?

01:06:59 Why Knowing Your Deal Breakers Is Crucial

01:09:03 The Worst Thing to Say to Someone After a Breakup

01:09:56 Why So Many People Stay Stuck in Heartbreak

01:11:43 How to Find Closure Without an Apology

01:15:59 Not Everything You Want Is Good for You

01:66:54 Sadia on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Sadia Khan | Website

Sadia Khan | Instagram

Sadia Khan | TikTok

Sadia Khan | YouTube

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What’s been on your mind today?

Do you ever catch yourself spiraling with negative thoughts?

Today, Jay dives into the everyday negative thoughts we all wrestle with—and how we can stop letting them control us. Whether it's replaying awkward moments, spiraling into self-doubt, or feeling stuck in patterns of fear and criticism, negativity can quietly undermine our confidence and cloud our perspective. But what if those thoughts were just noise—and you didn’t have to carry them anymore?

In this episode, Jay shares seven transformative steps to help you build a healthier, more resilient relationship with your mind. Rooted in both spiritual insight and modern science, Jay walks you through powerful shifts—like recognizing your thoughts without letting them define you, challenging your inner critic with evidence, and reframing your day-to-day experiences with intention. With the clarity of a teacher and the care of a friend, Jay helps you see that awareness is not just the first step—it’s your greatest protection.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Believing Every Negative Thought

How to Challenge Thoughts That Aren’t True

How to Use Mindfulness to Calm Mental Overload

How to Build a Mental Shield Against Criticism and Stress

We can’t always stop negative thoughts from showing up, but we can learn to move through them with clarity, self-kindness, and strength—one thought at a time.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:06 How Do You Deal With Negative Thoughts?

02:20 #1: Recognize and Acknowledge Your Thoughts

07:30 #2: Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

11:22 #3: Start Reframing Your Thoughts

15:52 #4: Practice Mindfulness and Meditation

18:14 #5: Engage in Joyful Activities

20:12 #6: Look After Your Body

21:28 #7: Limit Your Exposure to Negativity

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