When was the last time you actually put yourself first, no matter what anyone else thought?

Have you ever felt a wave of guilt just for trying to set boundaries and protect your peace?

Today, Jay dives into a powerful idea: letting go of the responsibilities that were never really yours to begin with. So many of us carry the weight of other people’s expectations, emotions, and opinions — and it leaves us feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from ourselves. Jay unpacks how we often take on things like managing how others feel or trying to live up to impossible standards, and how doing that can block us from real freedom, creativity, and growth.

Throughout the episode, Jay reinforces the message that boundaries are not selfish but necessary for healthy relationships and self-respect. He reminds us that our worth isn’t something we have to earn by meeting expectations or chasing approval. When we stop trying to control things that aren’t really ours to manage, life feels lighter, more real, and full of possibility.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

How to Support Others Without Fixing Their Problems

How to Maintain Your Own Emotional Balance

How to Prioritize Your Well-Being Over Pleasing Others

Remember, life becomes lighter when you let go of what was never yours to carry. No matter what challenges you face, trust that you are enough just as you are, and you have the strength to live authentically.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:47 Stop Carrying What’s Not Yours to Fix

02:34 #1: You’re Not Responsible for Other People’s Feelings

07:33 #2: You’re Not Responsible for How Other People See You

15:05 #3: You’re Not Responsible for Fixing Other People’s Problems

19:38 #4: You’re Not Responsible for Meeting Others’ Expectations

24:35 #5: You’re Not Responsible for How Other People Treat You

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Do you ever feel stuck in the same dating patterns?

Do you think your past relationship is still affecting you?

Today, Jay unpacks the powerful and often hidden influence our past relationships have on our current dating pattern. Drawing from psychological research and personal reflection, Jay explores the concept of repetition compulsion—the unconscious tendency to recreate emotional patterns from our past, especially in romantic relationships. He reveals how our early attachments, particularly those with our parents and first loves, shape the way we love, what we fear, and even who we are drawn to.

With compassion and clarity, Jay outlines the five key signs that your ex—or more accurately, your past relationship wounds—might still be holding the steering wheel in your current dating life. He then re-introduces the attachment theory, helping them identify their own attachment styles—whether anxious, avoidant, or secure—and how these styles play out in their romantic behaviors. His message is clear: you are not broken, you are patterned—and patterns can be changed.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize When Your Past Is Sabotaging Your Love Life

How to Break the Cycle of Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

How to Tell the Difference Between Familiarity and Safety

How to Avoid Self-Sabotaging Healthy Relationships

How to Reparent Yourself and Meet Your Own Emotional Needs

This episode is both a compassionate wake-up call and a hopeful guide for anyone seeking to build healthier, more fulfilling love. Whether you're recovering from a breakup or simply ready to stop repeating the past, this is the episode that could shift everything.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:16 How Past Relationships Shape Your Dating Future

02:39 We Recreate Familiar Emotional Patterns In New Relationships

09:18 Five Signs Your Past Relationship Is Affecting You

12:09 What Are The Different Types Of Attachment Styles?

22:35 The Path To Earned Security

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Have you ever had a hard goodbye with someone you cared about?

What’s one thing you wish you’d said to someone you lost?

Today, Jay sits down with Kate Cassidy, partner to Liam Payne — internationally beloved artist and former One Direction member — who tragically passed away in October. Kate opens up about the profound impact of losing her partner, the weight of grief, and how she’s learning to move forward. From their chance meeting in Charleston while she was working as a waitress to the whirlwind of building a life together, Kate reflects on the joy, the challenges, and the deep emotional connection they shared.

Kate expresses the emotional weight of being in the public eye, the toll of online criticism, and the realities of loving someone navigating mental health and addiction. She recounts the beauty in their every day routines, the balance they brought to each other’s lives, and the small, intimate moments that built the foundation of their relationship. Kate speaks candidly about the day she received the devastating news of Liam’s passing and the days that followed, marked by shock, numbness, and a grief unlike any other.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Support a Partner Struggling with Mental Health

How to Handle Grief After Losing a Loved One

How to Create Daily Routines That Support Healing

How to Find Strength When You Feel Powerless

How to Set Boundaries While Being a Caregiver

How to Keep Moving Forward When Life Changes Overnight

Kate's vulnerability is a powerful reminder that grief doesn’t follow a straight path — and that even in life’s most painful moments, there is space for love, learning, and hope.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:32 How is Kate Really Doing?

03:59 Kate Reveals Her Childhood Crush on Liam

07:19 The Moment They Met, The Connection Was Instant

09:40 The Beginning of Their Fairytale Romance

11:50 What It Takes to Build Real, Lasting Love

12:56 Staying Grounded Amidst Fame & Public Scrutiny

15:31 What Liam Taught Kate About Blocking Out the Noise

18:54 Liam’s Quiet Struggles With Mental Health

22:19 The Reality of Loving Someone Battling Addiction

30:05 How Kate Received the News That Would Change Her Life Forever

36:09 Kate Shares Her Final Heartfelt Goodbye With Liam

39:43 The Emotional Support That Got Her Through The First Days

44:05 No One Prepares You for This Kind of Loss

45:11 How Kate Learned to Breathe Again Through the Grief

54:44 Rebuilding Life After Loss One Day At a Time

56:39 Kate Reads a Love Letter From Liam

01:02:59 The Power of Collective Grief: How Liam’s Fans Helped Kate Feel Less Alone

01:06:52 Losing Someone Feels Like Losing a Part of Yourself

01:10:25 Why Talking About Your Grief Helps You Heal

Episode Resources:

Kate Cassidy | Instagram

Kate Cassidy | TikTok

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How often do you work out?

What’s been the biggest challenge in your fitness journey so far?

In today’s episode, Jay sits down with Dr. Vonda Wright, an orthopedic surgeon and researcher specializing in active aging and longevity. If you’ve ever wondered how to stay feeling youthful as you age, lose stubborn fat, and improve your sleep,, this conversation is packed with life changing insights.

Jay and Dr. Wright start by debunking the myth that aging is an inevitable decline. Dr. Wright explains how lifestyle choices in your 20s and 30s directly impact how you feel in your 40s, 50s, and beyond. They dive into how excess fat, especially around the belly, isn’t just about appearance—it’s a sign of inflammation that accelerates aging. Dr. Wright shares how movement, muscle mass, and diet play a crucial role in fat loss and energy levels.

They also explore the powerful body-brain connection. Dr. Wright breaks down how physical activity releases key proteins that protect the brain from cognitive decline and diseases like dementia. Jay and Dr. Wright discuss how poor sleep can sabotage fat loss, slow down recovery, and disrupt hormones—leading to more cravings, weight gain, and reduced longevity.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How fat storage impacts aging and energy levels.

The critical role of sleep in weight loss and brain function.

How movement and muscle mass keep you youthful.

How lifestyle choices in your 30s affect long-term health.

Why fitness-based friendships can improve your health.

If you want to stay sharp, maintain a healthy weight, and build lasting habits that help you thrive for decades, this episode gives you the tools to start now.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:43 Your Perception Of Aging Is A Myth

05:31 Develop Healthy Habits in Your 20s

10:07 Why Your Sleep Can Fall Apart in Midlife

16:58 Can You Restock Years Of Not Sleeping?

22:09 Sleep Deprivation is Sabotaging Your Weight Loss

26:45 The Weight Loss Formula That Actually Works

36:04 There Is A Difference Between Being Healthy & Fit

43:13 Fitness Is A Great Way To Connect

46:17 How To Lose Stubborn Belly Fat

55:30 The Body Brain Connection is Integral to

1:01:39 Don’t Make Excuses to Start Making Changes In Your Life

1:04:24 Mobility is One of the Most Important Skills for Aging Well

1:09:51 Break Free from Your Limiting Beliefs

1:17:15 Vonda Wright on Final 5

Episode Resources:

Vonda Wright| Website

Vonda Wright| YouTube

Vonda Wright| Linkedin

Vonda Wright| Instagram

Vonda Wright| Facebook

Vonda Wright| Tiktok

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Do you find it hard to make new friends lately?

Have your friendships changed as you've gotten older?

Why does making new friends as an adult feel like running a marathon with no finish line? Today, Jay takes us on a thoughtful journey into the world of adult friendships — where connections aren’t forged on playgrounds or dorm rooms anymore, but instead in between meetings, family commitments, and the weight of life’s expectations.

Jay peels back the layers of why forming new bonds can feel so exhausting as we grow older. He reveals how our changing priorities, unhealed wounds, and limited energy all shape how — and with whom — we connect. With warmth and wisdom, he invites us to explore what true friendship really looks like in adulthood, and why it’s less about quantity and more about alignment, presence, and purpose.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Let Go of Friendships That No Longer Serve You

How to Stop Forcing Deep Bonds Too Quickly

How to Approach Friendship with Curiosity Instead of Expectation

How to Stay Open to New Relationships at Any Age

How to Cultivate Meaningful Conversations that Matter

Friendships don’t have to be instant to be real. Trust that the right connections will meet you when you show up as your authentic self.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:39 This Is The Core Traits Of Real Friends

05:55 Why Making Friends Gets Exhausting As We Age?

09:53 Age Makes You More Doubtful

13:01 With Age, You Become More Selective

17:28 Why Do We Do Things More When There’s Less Friction?

20:38 Be Honest And Tell The People You Want To Build Friendship With

23:58 Find Your Person at Work And Invest In Genuine Friendship

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Do you ever pretend to be confident when you’re not?

When do you feel most confident?

What if real confidence isn’t loud or visible—but built quietly in the moments no one else sees? In today's Jay's Must-Listens, Jay explores the powerful theme of inner confidence—not the kind rooted in outside validation or achievements, but the kind built slowly through learning to trust yourself, commitment to showing up, and living with purpose.

Throughout the episode, Jay draws from powerful moments with past guests and their helpful insights. He shares a moment from his conversation with Kendall Jenner, where she opened up about experiencing anxiety and how even people who appear confident outwardly are often battling internal struggles. Jay also references insights from Lisa Bilyeu, who spoke about repetition and how confidence is built by proving to yourself—again and again—that you can do hard things.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Build Confidence Without External Validation

How to Create a Daily Confidence-Boosting Practice

How to Turn Self-Doubt into Self-Discipline

How to Build Confidence Through Repetition and Consistency

How to Anchor Yourself with Purpose, Not Praise

How to Redefine Confidence as Clarity and Alignment

This episode is both a motivational reset and a practical guide for anyone who’s ready to stop doubting themselves or seeking outside validation and start rooting their confidence in something far more lasting: their own truth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:43 Find What Makes You Happy and Do That

04:44 How To Start Believing in Yourself

09:34 Doing Things that Scare You is Worth the Risk

13:26 Genuine Love Should Boost Your Confidence

16:41 Staying Confident When Your Body Is Changing

18:52 How Stress Can Manifest In Your Body

26:32 Don’t Wait To Take Action

29:59 This is How You Build Real Confidence From Within

33:33 The Song I Made Just For Me That Changed Everything

35:28 Healing and Maturing Through Motherhood

36:55 Every Day Is A Chance For Progress

39:01 Stay Consistent In Improving Yourself

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