Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal conditions, we’re doing it wrong.

In this episode, I’ll explore:

• The advantages and limitations of healing while single
• Why being in a relationship can accelerate your growth (but only under the right conditions)
• How emotional safety plays a key role in healing
• Why the question itself might be coming from a place of fear, shame, or comparison
• How to work with whatever season you're in and meet yourself there

Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or consciously taking space from romantic connection — this conversation will help you better understand the unique opportunities (and challenges) each path offers.

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We all have visions for how we thought life would unfold — timelines we hoped to follow, milestones we expected to reach. So what happens when life doesn't go to plan?

In today’s episode, I’m speaking to those moments of disappointment, grief, and disorientation that come when our reality looks nothing like we’d imagined. Whether it’s relationships, career, family, or a more intangible sense of where you “should” be by now — it’s easy to spiral into self-blame, shame, or despair when life veers off course.

We’ll explore:

• Why unmet timelines can stir such deep emotion and shame
• The hidden comparison traps that make us feel like we’re falling behind
• How to hold space for grief without collapsing into hopelessness
• The difference between giving up and gently letting go
• What it looks like to reimagine your path from a place of self-trust and compassion

If you’re navigating a chapter that looks wildly different from what you’d hoped or planned — I hope this conversation helps you feel a little less alone.

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Many of us are taught that taking care of the people we love is the ultimate expression of devotion. But when caring crosses the line into caretaking, it can quietly create deep imbalances in our relationships.

Caretaking often stems from anxiety, a need for control, or an old belief that love must be earned through over-functioning — anticipating needs, smoothing over discomfort, managing someone else's feelings or life for them. While it can look like love on the surface, it often leaves both partners stuck: one overextending, the other under-functioning, and both feeling disconnected.

In this episode, we explore:

• The key differences between caring and caretaking
• How caretaking can create resentment, imbalance, and emotional dependency
• Why caretaking is often a hidden form of control
• Signs you might be caught in a caretaking dynamic
• How to shift towards healthier, more empowering ways of loving and relating

Building secure, connected relationships isn't about fixing or rescuing each other — it's about standing alongside each other, with enough trust to let each person take responsibility for themselves.

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Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called the power struggle stage — and while it can be incredibly challenging, it’s also a powerful opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about:

• What the power struggle stage is and why it happens
• How insecure attachment patterns can intensify this dynamic
• The common traps couples fall into during this phase
• What to do (and not do) if you want to move through it
• When the power struggle becomes a sign of misalignment rather than a phase

If you’ve found yourself wondering whether you’re growing apart or just navigating something difficult and necessary — this episode is for you.

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When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.

But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationships
• What it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensiveness
• How our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising it
• The importance of meaningful repair after conflict
• The difference between blame and honest self-reflection
• Why it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give it

These aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space.

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One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness.

In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control.

Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why some people resist self-work or relationship growth
• How attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and change
• The difference between inviting vs. demanding growth
• Why your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participation
• What to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuck

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In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.

It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those with anxious attachment) to project blame, anger, and sweeping judgments onto those with avoidant attachment styles. But while that instinct may feel validating in the short term, it actually keeps us stuck.

This episode is a call for compassion and nuance — not just for others, but for ourselves.

Whether you’ve been hurt by someone with avoidant tendencies in the past or are currently struggling with anxious-avoidant dynamics, this conversation will invite you to take a broader, more honest look at the patterns playing out in your relationships and what healing really requires.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why avoidant attachment is so often misunderstood and unfairly vilified
• How our instinct to blame keeps us stuck in insecure patterns
• The deeper origins of avoidant attachment — and how understanding this helps build compassion
• Why anger, blame, and black-and-white thinking won’t help you heal
• The role of boundaries, discernment, and self-responsibility in moving forward

If you're committed to growing into a more secure, grounded version of yourself, this episode is an invitation to pause and reflect on the narratives you’re holding — about others, and about yourself.

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Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along the way. In this episode, we’re unpacking five hard truths about healing that will help you set realistic expectations and stay committed to your growth.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• Why healing isn’t always comfortable — and why grief is often part of the process
• The myth of waking up one day as "fully secure" and what real progress looks like
• How healing might disrupt your relationships (and why not everyone will like the changes you make)
• Why you won’t stop getting triggered — but how you can gain more control over your reactions
• The surprising truth: sometimes you’ll miss your old patterns, even the unhealthy ones

Healing doesn’t mean never struggling again. It means showing up differently, practicing new choices, and being compassionate with yourself along the way. If you're in the thick of it, know that you're not alone, and every step forward matters.

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• Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here
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• Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations
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