Question 1: My friend is seeing a therapist, and I’m wondering if it’s appropriate that the therapist called people from her résumé to check if a suggested shidduch was right for her. Would that be considered overstepping professional boundaries?

Question 2: What’s the difference between Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and narcissism? And how can you deal with someone who is very complicated, blames you for everything, and refuses to take responsibility for their own issues?

Question 3: If someone takes medication for anxiety but doesn’t tell their therapist, is that a problem? Can therapy still be effective in that case?

Question 1: There seems to be an attitude that if a rebbi or teacher does something wrong, it’s a big deal — but if the students act out, they’re simply given another chance. How does that make sense?

Question 2: Can someone have ADHD even if they don’t struggle with time management or organization?

Question 2B: I struggle with word retrieval — I often know what I want to say but can’t find the right words. What causes this, and what can help improve it?

Question 3: Can trauma cause OCD? Is it possible to heal OCD through trauma work? I’ve been doing trauma therapy for my OCD, but it doesn’t seem to be helping the OCD itself.

Question 3B: Is TMS a good treatment for OCD?

Question 4: I had some alcohol at a wedding and realized I really liked it. I know I have an addictive personality and I’m worried this could become a coping habit, especially since alcohol is served at so many weddings. How can I prevent this from becoming a problem?

Feedback 1: I called about a year ago, afraid that a therapist might control your mind or turn you against Hashem and your family. In reality, it’s not like that at all. Therapy helps you make your own decisions, come out of your cocoon, and grow. It encourages you to face and express feelings you once avoided, and to acknowledge what’s really inside.

Question 2: My child’s therapist suggested that we, the parents, go to therapy. At what point do you say that the child should go instead? I’m asking about my 5-year-old, who avoids expressing emotions and often acts out.

Question 3: What does it really mean when people say someone is a narcissist?

Question 4: How can a mother help her 17-year-old son wake up in the morning?

Question 1:I have a 19-year-old daughter with special needs. We’ve seen many professionals, and while she shows several ASD symptoms, she doesn’t meet full criteria for a diagnosis. She often asks why she has these challenges, and I don’t know how to explain it. How can I help her understand her situation and make sense of her delays?

Question 2: Why do we see so many different specialties and therapy modalities today compared to years ago? What caused this shift?

Question 3: What are your thoughts on someone seeing two different therapists at the same time for the same issue?

Question 1- sharing an experience of someone divorcing and not being open to listen.

Question 2: Are there real benefits to taking popular workshop courses that claim to help everyone? It sounds unrealistic that one approach works for all. Should I just continue with individual therapy instead?

Question 3: I’m calling about the program from September 29, 2025 (Program #1265) — the mother asking about her 17-year-old son going off the derech. Why isn’t that just considered normal teenage behavior?

Question 4: I went to visit my mother and stepfather for Shabbos. He often puts her down and speaks to her disrespectfully. As a guest at the table, what is my role? Should I defend her, distract him, or stay silent?

Question 1: I’m about to start therapy and want to make sure I get the most out of it. How can I prepare myself to benefit as much as possible?

Question 1B: I have a friend who always agrees with me. I actually want her to be more honest and share her real opinions — even if she disagrees. How can I tell her that in a nice way?

Question 2: I’m struggling to stay organized and often forget to eat lunch. How can I create a better routine and stay on track during the day?

Question 3: What is the role of a friend when someone is struggling in their Yiddishkeit? How can I be supportive without overstepping?

Question 4: My wife and I are regular listeners and really appreciate your program. By nature, I’m stubborn and quite opinionated. I’m working on seeing other perspectives, but when I give in, I sometimes feel like I’m being pushed around. How can I find balance — like in DBT’s Walking the Middle Path?

Question 1 – Aryeh, what do you do when the parents themselves are complicated?

Feedback 2 – From a caller on the 9/8/25 program (Program 1, #1260, Question 5): I took your encouragement and spoke about it with my therapist. It worked out really well—the therapist explained that I can reach out and that it was simply a misunderstanding.

Question 3 – How can I build a better relationship with myself? Because I don’t feel connected to myself, I also struggle to connect with others. This bothers me even more. How can I change this?

Question 4 – My therapist offered to see me three times a week. Is that common?

Question 5 – My son attended a yeshiva where the boys went to therapy several times a week. It actually bothered him that they went so often. Discussed the differences between therapy and mentorship?Question 6 – My yeshiva is asking me to leave. If I transfer to another yeshiva that “helps boys with issues,” I’m afraid I’ll go downhill because of the environment. I don’t want that. What should I do?

Question 1 – How do cell phones impact family life and relationships? In particular, when a couple uses them excessively, what advice would you give to young couples about healthy cell phone use?

Question 2 – Do you have any guidance for dealing with moderate OCD, especially when it comes to religious anxiety around Rosh Hashanah? I often feel like I’m not doing teshuvah properly and can only see what I’ve done wrong.

Question 3 – Can you speak about the termination process in therapy? I’ve been in therapy for two years and made significant progress. At one point I thought I was ready to finish, but now that I have, I’m finding it very difficult and feel I need support.

Question 4 – A close family member has a 16-year-old son who dropped out of yeshiva about six months ago. He spends all day on the internet gaming and does nothing else. While the parents are trying to stay connected to him, I believe this is an addiction. Should I suggest that they see an addiction therapist?