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Have you ever been told to “just give them space” but all it did was leave you with more questions, more pain, and zero real answers? If you’re at a relationship crossroads, wrestling with daily conflict, growing emotional gaps, or the panic that comes with feeling your partner drift away, you’re not alone. Love Shack Live is the podcast for those who want to rebuild real, lasting connection, not with more clichés, but with honest conversation and practical skills.

In this episode, we go beyond the tired advice about space and separation and dig into what actually helps when your world feels upside down. What if the pain you’re feeling isn’t just something to survive, but a wake-up call, or even an opportunity? What should you really do when your partner asks for space? And is it possible to come home to yourself, and maybe, eventually, to each other, even when everything feels broken?

Whether you’re in the thick of separation, considering a breakup, or desperately hoping to fix what’s been lost, you’ll discover the hidden traps that keep people stuck, like panic, overgiving, or obsessing over your partner, and the surprising steps that lead to clarity, healing, and growth.

Curious what most relationship advice never covers? Ready for a conversation that goes deeper, and helps you shift your focus in a way that could change everything? Let’s get started.

Timestamps:

05:25 Common Misconceptions About Separation
08:29 The Work of Self-Discovery
12:57 The Role of Emotional Wellbeing
16:53 Resetting and Recalculating in Relationships
24:56 The Need for Mentorship and Support
25:25 The Importance of Self-Expression in Relationships
26:22 Understanding Relationship Principles
27:41 The Need for Relationship Education
30:41 The Role of Separation in Self-Discovery
35:29 Continuing Personal Growth Post-Breakup
40:07 The Journey of Personal and Relationship Growth
48:55 Embracing New Beginnings

🎯 Want to go deeper?

• Take the $9 Self-Assessment here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook/
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• Get community support inside the Better Love Club (available as an add-on with the roadmap)

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Ever set a boundary in your relationship, only to feel more misunderstood, guilty, or disconnected than before? You’re not alone. In fact, so many of us try to draw healthy lines, only to end up in new arguments, feeling shut out, or wondering if we’re doing something wrong.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, feeling the gap widen, and searching for a way back to genuine, lasting connection. If you’ve tried to “set boundaries” and it just made things messier, you’re in the right place.

This week, we’re asking:

• Why do boundaries sometimes make us feel worse, not better?
• What’s the difference between a boundary and a barrier?
• And how do you set limits that protect your heart, without pushing your partner away?

Join relationship mentor Staci Bartley, along with Tom and Brooke, as they bust common myths about boundaries, share the real skills for setting limits that heal, and reveal what it takes to speak up for yourself and stay connected.

Curious to know why boundaries backfire, and what actually builds lasting trust? Listen in. This conversation might just change everything.

Timestamps:

03:25 Physical Boundaries as a Metaphor

07:00 Emotional Boundaries and Compassionate Cruelty

16:49 The Misconception of Rigid Boundaries

26:26 The Story of Emma and Jake

27:53 Silent Resentment in Relationships

28:53 The Weight of Disregarding Yourself

29:50 The Illusion of Connection

33:24 Common Boundary Violations

36:37 Emotional Regulation and Boundaries

43:53 The Importance of Vulnerability

45:20 Practical Steps to Better Boundaries

47:55 Final Thoughts and Resources

🎯 Want to go deeper?

• Take the $9 Self-Assessment here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook/
• Start the 30-Day Roadmap and stop spiraling: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap
• Get community support inside the Better Love Club (available as an add-on with the roadmap)

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You’re not angry. You’re not yelling. You’re just… tired.

The kind of tired that sinks in so deep, you’re not even fighting anymore, you’re just holding it together in silence, hoping things will somehow fix themselves. If love feels like a burden lately, if you find yourself walking on eggshells or wondering why it’s so quiet at home, you’re not alone. In fact, you’re living through one of the most common, yet least talked about, relationship struggles of our time: emotional exhaustion.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone at a relationship crossroads. Whether you’re trying to save your marriage, navigating space and separation, or aching to reconnect with your partner, we’re here to help you rebuild something real and lasting. I’m Staci Bartley, joined by my partner Tom and our daughter Brooke. Together, we’ll get honest about what’s actually happening when couples stop fighting, not because they’ve healed, but because they’ve run out of gas.

Here’s what we’re unpacking this week:

• Why “peace and quiet” can actually be a danger sign
• The real-life symptoms of emotional burnout most people miss
• How magical thinking (“we’ll get to it later”) quietly sabotages connection
• The invisible emotional labor that wears us down, especially for over-functioners and the quietly checked-out
• Why punishing your partner (or yourself) for not “fixing it” never works
• How modern life is straining our capacity for love, and what to do about it
• Practical ways to refuel your emotional gas tank (even when you feel totally spent)
• Why play and joy aren’t optional, they’re the medicine your relationship desperately needs
• The single most important skill you were never taught about love (and how to finally practice it)

If you’re exhausted from trying to keep your relationship together, or just tired of being the one who always tries, this episode will help you name what you’re feeling, and finally offer a way forward. We’ll share the science, the stories, and the skills that can help you stop spiraling, reconnect, and rebuild.

Here’s our big question:

What if “not fighting” isn’t a sign things are getting better, but the clearest warning that your relationship needs help, now?

It’s not your fault. You just haven’t learned the skills yet. Join us in the Love Shack, let’s talk about what no one else is saying, and get you the relief you deserve.

🎯 Want to go deeper?

• Take the $9 Self-Assessment here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook/
• Start the 30-Day Roadmap and stop spiraling: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap
• Get community support inside the Better Love Club (available as an add-on with the roadmap)

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Have you ever had that quiet, sinking feeling… the one in your gut that whispers something’s off? Nothing’s exploded. Nothing’s “wrong.”

But deep down, you know, this version of your relationship, your life, even yourself? It doesn’t quite fit anymore. And you’re just dancing through the motions, hoping no one notices the smoke.

You’re not alone. In this raw, behind-the-scenes episode of Love Shack Live, we’re turning the mic inward to talk about the moment before the moment, when something big needs to change, but you haven’t found the words yet.

This time, it wasn’t our relationships that needed a reset… It was our entire brand.

💥 What happens when you outgrow something that used to feel like home?

💬 How do you bring it up, especially when the people you need to say it to are your parents and business partners?

And maybe more importantly:

👉 What can this teach you about the patterns we fall into in relationships, when we tweak the symptoms instead of naming the truth?

Whether you're quietly questioning your relationship, your role, or your next right step, this episode will help you:

• Recognize the signs of emotional flatlining (in yourself or your partner)
• Understand why timing is never perfect, but the truth still matters
• Learn the relational skill that lets you speak up without blowing everything up

So if you’ve been stuck in a slow dance with something you’ve outgrown, this conversation might just be your turning point.

🎧 Press play to hear how one “I hate our website” moment turned into a rebrand, a family reckoning, and a reminder that honesty (even messy honesty) is the first step to everything better.

Timestamps:
01:49 The Big Reveal: Rebranding Announcement
03:04 Initial Reactions and Concerns
04:00 The Turning Point: Embracing Change
05:11 The Emotional Impact of Change
06:21 Navigating Family Dynamics
07:53 The Importance of Honest Communication
09:51 The Broader Implications of Change
12:07 The Journey of Rebranding
13:00 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
19:45 The Unexpected Benefits of Change
24:24 Trusting the Process
25:13 Navigating Relationship Nuances
26:29 Starting Difficult Conversations
28:04 Receiving Unexpected News
29:47 Emotional Skills for Rebranding
31:03 Challenges of Creative Work
40:54 The Importance of Community
43:16 Closing Thoughts and Reflections

🎯 Want to go deeper?

• Take the $9 Self-Assessment here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook/
• Start the 30-Day Roadmap and stop spiraling: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap
• Get community support inside the Better Love Club (available as an add-on with the roadmap)

This episode is your first emotional pushup rep toward better communication. It starts here, with you.

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Ever find yourself saying things you don’t mean… or going completely silent because it feels like nothing will help?

You’re not alone. When emotions run high, we don’t default to communication, we default to survival.

In this episode of Love Shack Live, we’re pulling back the curtain on one of the most important (and overlooked) relationship skills: how to regulate your emotional state before you try to “fix” the conversation.

You’ll learn:

• The two emotional survival modes we all fall into, Control and Collapse, and how to recognize yours
• Why communication tips don’t work when your nervous system is in overdrive
• What the “Window of Neutrality” is, and how to stay inside it
• The real reason your conversations keep going sideways (it’s not what you think)

🧠 This is a full-length video training pulled directly from our Love in Limbo: 30-Day Roadmap. If you want to see the slides and visuals Staci references, you can watch the video version in the Spotify app or on our website here: https://stacibartley.com/emotional-survival-mode-relationship/

🎯 Want to go deeper?

• Take the $9 Self-Assessment here: https://stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook/
• Start the 30-Day Roadmap and stop spiraling: https://stacibartley.com/self-paced/30-day-roadmap
• Get community support inside the Better Love Club (available as an add-on with the roadmap)

This episode is your first emotional pushup rep toward better communication. It starts here, with you.

Timestamps:

04:39 Control Survival Mode Explained
06:33 Collapse Survival Mode Explained
07:48 Personal Story: From Collapse to Control
10:43 Balancing Control and Collapse in Relationships
20:33 The Window of Neutrality
24:10 Practical Tips for Emotional Regulation
31:54 Conclusion: Building Better Relationships
34:50 Final Thoughts and Resources

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You say you want deep connection, but your walls won’t let anyone all the way in.

You crave peace, but find yourself pulled back into conflict. You long to be loved, but still feel alone, even when someone’s lying right beside you.

Here’s the truth: You’re not broken. You’re becoming.

And your relationship isn’t just happening to you, it’s teaching you.

In this episode of Love Shack Live, we’re peeling back the curtain on how every fight, trigger, and disappointment might actually be emotional weightlifting in disguise. Staci, Tom, and Brooke explore the concept of relational self-awareness, emotional gravity, and how to stop outsourcing your healing to your partner.

What if the intimacy, safety, and truth you’re longing for won’t show up outside of you… until it’s alive within you?

You’ll walk away with a new lens on your past patterns, practical insights on becoming who you most want to be in love, and a powerful reframe that turns even your biggest relationship challenges into the classroom where real change begins.

Timestamps:
04:31 The Classroom of Life: Learning from Relationships
05:39 The Impact of Our Actions in Relationships
07:37 The Importance of Relational Self-Awareness
10:49 Navigating Relationship Dynamics
11:08 The Role of Tension and Conflict
13:48 The Feedback Loop in Relationships
15:00 The Journey of Personal Growth in Relationships
23:51 Relational Awareness and Emotional Pushups
26:08 The Superwoman Persona and Its Challenges
27:30 Understanding Polarization in Relationships
28:32 Understanding Relationship Polarity
29:41 Emotional Triggers and Self-Reflection
30:39 Discharging Emotions Effectively
31:55 Real-Life Examples of Relationship Dynamics
34:49 The Power of Perspective in Relationships
42:02 Cultivating Desired Qualities in Yourself
51:03 The Importance of Community Support
53:03 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

🛠️ Need help identifying your own defensive patterns? Grab the Space & Separation Communication Playbook, it includes a self-assessment quiz and the exact language to use instead.

This isn’t just a quiz. It’s your roadmap out of confusion and into clarity, with real scripts and next steps to help you reconnect without pushing them away.

🎯 Don’t wait. Most couples spend years stuck in the same painful loop. Let’s break yours today.

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You say one thing. They hear another. And somehow, the more you try to explain, the worse it gets.

Sound familiar?

This is what defensiveness does. It scrambles your message, distorts your intentions, and quietly chips away at emotional safety, until even love starts to feel like a battleground.

According to renowned relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman, defensiveness is one of the top predictors of divorce. And not because you’re broken, but because it’s the armor we all reach for when emotions get big and uncomfortable.

In this episode of Love Shack Live, the podcast for anyone standing at a relationship crossroads, we’re breaking down the truth about defensiveness: why we all do it, what it looks like (even when it’s subtle), and how to take off the armor without losing yourself.

You’ll hear:

• Real-life examples of common defensive moves (yes, we all have a favorite!)
• How defensiveness kills emotional safety, and how to rebuild it
• A simple tool you can use to recognize when you’re getting defensive in real time

And we’ll ask the question that could shift everything:

What if the thing you’re doing to protect your heart… is actually keeping real love out?

Whether you’re navigating space, dating again, or trying to save something that still matters, this one’s for you. It’s time to slow things down, get honest about “that thing you do,” and start building connection from the inside out.

Timestamps:
03:39 Flavors of Defensiveness
06:44 The Impact of Defensiveness
17:14 Personal Stories and Examples
25:49 Building Emotional Safety
27:26 Understanding Defensiveness
28:34 Common Defensive Mechanisms
31:26 Personal Stories of Defensiveness
34:01 Managing Emotional Capacity
35:41 Practical Tips for Handling Defensiveness
44:07 Defensiveness in Relationships
47:31 Conclusion and Resources

🛠️ Need help identifying your own defensive patterns? Grab the Space & Separation Communication Playbook —it includes a self-assessment quiz and the exact language to use instead.

This isn’t just a quiz. It’s your roadmap out of confusion and into clarity, with real scripts and next steps to help you reconnect without pushing them away.

🎯 Don’t wait. Most couples spend years stuck in the same painful loop. Let’s break yours today.

Grab your copy here → stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook

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Have you ever had that moment in the kitchen?

You’re just standing there, maybe making dinner, maybe scrolling your phone, and the weight of everything unsaid between you and your partner fills the room like smoke.

You want to say something.

You really do.

But the words feel like landmines.

“I’m still hurt.”

“I don’t know how to forgive you.”

“I hate that I can’t let this go.”

So, once again… you say nothing.

And in that silence, something unspoken begins to slowly unravel what once felt unbreakable.

If this sounds like your relationship lately, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.

Welcome to Love Shack Live, a podcast for couples standing at a relationship crossroads. For those feeling the strain of daily conflict or emotional distance… but who still believe that love is worth fighting for.

In this most-loved rebroadcast, we’re revisiting a conversation that struck such a deep chord with our community, we had to bring it back:

How do you move forward after the past has hurt you both?

Is it even possible to rebuild trust, connection, and momentum, especially when the wounds are still raw?

Inside, we’ll unpack:

• Why most couples get stuck using the past as a weapon (even when they don’t mean to)
• How shame, not the mistake itself, keeps us emotionally paralyzed
• A radically compassionate way to stop reliving the same pain—without pretending it never happened
• And practical steps to finally begin healing

Whether this is your first listen or your fifth, this episode will meet you in a new way. Because you’re not the same person you were last time you heard it. Growth is sneaky like that.

So… can you really let go of the past without losing yourself or your love?

Press play, and find out.

Timestamps:
02:18 Navigating Relationship Challenges
07:14 The Illusion of a Perfect Relationship
08:51 The Emotional Toll of Reliving the Past
10:09 The Journey of Healing and Forgiveness
19:41 The Role of Shame in Relationships
29:48 Practical Steps for Moving Forward
32:30 Understanding Regret in Relationships
33:11 Minimizing Emotional Pain
33:40 Avoiding Regret by Showing Up
34:57 The Boomerang Effect of Negative Behavior
37:30 The Importance of Affirming a Vision
43:40 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward
53:22 Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Actions
58:00 Celebrating Dreams and Creating New Ones
01:01:23 Final Thoughts and Resources

👉 Ready to stop making things worse during space and finally understand what’s actually going on?

Get the Space & Separation Communication Playbook for just $9 and discover which of the 3 emotional survival patterns: The Controller, The Collapser, or The Drifter, is quietly hijacking your connection.

This isn’t just a quiz. It’s your roadmap out of confusion and into clarity, with real scripts and next steps to help you reconnect without pushing them away.

🎯 Don’t wait. Most couples spend years stuck in the same painful loop. Let’s break yours today.

Grab your copy here → stacibartley.com/separation-survival-kit/space-communication-playbook