In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own.

Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion.

This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices?
• Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom?
• Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support?
• What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose.
• There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others.
• You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love.
• God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love.
• When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.”
• Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion.
• Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you.
• Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity.
• Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice.

Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)
If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

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In this episode, I’m joined by Molly Rubesh—certified life coach, author, and creator of The Modern Marriage Blueprint. Molly brings a grounded, refreshingly honest perspective to love, marriage, and everything in between.

A former corporate leader turned coach, Molly now helps individuals and couples heal old patterns, strengthen emotional intimacy, and build marriages rooted in truth, clarity, and conscious choice. We dive deep into the real side of partnership—what it takes to grow together, how to have the hard conversations, and why things like pre-nups and practical planning deserve just as much attention as romance.

Whether you’re calling in a relationship, healing from one, or deepening the one you’re in, this conversation offers insights that are both emotionally and strategically empowering.

You can access her course here: https://mollyrubesh.com/course-mmb

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break?

In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work.

What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant?
• Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results?
• Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction?
• Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure.
• “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path.
• Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match.
• Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth.
• Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?”
• Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.”
• Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing?
• Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores.
• Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”

Upcoming Event: Christine’s Women’s Retreat – October 17–19, 2025
If you feel stuck, depleted, or unsure where to go next, Christine invites you to her signature Women’s Retreat. It’s designed to help you shift frequencies—not just fix external problems. This immersive, high-frequency weekend supports deep healing, soul reconnection, and sustainable transformation.

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In this deeply tender session, Christine works with Holly, who’s navigating the exhausting grip of fear and the inner conflict that arises when she tries to override it. Holly describes the frustration of knowing she’s done the inner work—yet still feeling paralyzed by fear when it comes to speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply sending a message to a friend.

What emerges is a powerful reframe: fear is not the enemy. It’s a messenger from past pain, particularly childhood wounds of abandonment and emotional neglect. Christine guides Holly through a shift from judgment to compassion, from pushing through fear to gently parenting the scared parts of herself with curiosity and care.

This conversation is for anyone who feels “stuck” in their fear despite years of personal growth—and who needs a reminder that softness, not force, is the path forward.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you judging yourself for still feeling fear, even after doing years of self-development work?
• Do small tasks, like expressing a need or setting a boundary, send you into overanalysis or self-doubt?
• Were you raised in an environment that didn’t feel safe or affirming—and are you carrying those patterns into adulthood?
• What might shift if you treated your fear with compassion instead of frustration?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Fear often stems from childhood wounds, not present-day reality.
• Self-judgment reinforces abandonment. Compassion heals it.
• We don’t have to “push through” fear to transform—it’s more powerful to honor it, tend to it, and respond with care.
• Hyper-independence can be a trauma response—not a personality trait.
• Healing happens through curiosity, compassion, and courage—not pressure and shame.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Practice speaking to yourself the way a nurturing parent would: “It’s okay to be scared. I’m here.”
• Try the three-step emotional approach Christine recommends: Compassion → Curiosity → Courage.
• Journal about where fear still holds you back—and what your younger self might need in those moments.
• Explore whether you're bypassing your feelings by “pushing through,” and ask what might happen if you softened instead.
• Identify safe relationships where you can start practicing self-expression and vulnerability in small ways.

Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)
If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

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In a world that glorifies giving and doing, receiving can feel foreign—or even uncomfortable. But true feminine power lies in your ability to allow love, support, abundance, and guidance in. In this episode, I explore why receiving is your divine birthright!! And how you may be blocking it and can begin to open more fully to what you truly desire.

In this heartfelt, full-circle session, Christine reconnects with Anneke—the very first person she coached on the podcast ten years ago. What unfolds is a deeply moving reflection on growth that isn't measured by external milestones, but by the quiet, powerful shifts that happen on a soul level.

Anneke opens up about her journey through addiction recovery, burnout, grief, unexpected caregiving, and stepping into true self-love. Over the last decade, she’s released people-pleasing, healed from codependency, and discovered what it means to care for herself without performance or guilt.

This episode challenges the cultural obsession with checking boxes and invites you to redefine what a “successful” decade really looks like. If you’ve ever questioned your progress or minimized your own transformation, this conversation is a must-listen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you focused on external achievements while overlooking your inner growth?
• Do you struggle to give yourself credit for how far you’ve come?
• Have you been moving through a quiet season of healing or rebuilding that’s hard to explain to others?
• What would it feel like to reclaim your creativity and joy without needing it to be productive?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• True transformation often happens in the unseen work of self-trust, boundaries, and healing.
• Asking “What about me?” is not selfish—it’s sacred.
• Rest, creativity, and reflection are just as valid as action and ambition.
• We are not here to perform our lives—we are here to live them authentically.
• It’s okay to have mixed feelings about the roles we step into, including caregiving or parenthood.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Take a moment to reflect on the last ten years of your own life. What have you healed, endured, or learned?
• Release comparison. Shift your focus from goal-line success to soul-line growth.
• Create space for a joyful, unstructured creative practice—just for you.
• Allow yourself to ask: Who am I now? And what do I want moving forward?

Upcoming Event: July 1st Group Coaching Call on Receiving
Christine is hosting a powerful live coaching session on the art of receptivity. Especially for women—but open to all—this session will explore how to shift from depletion to flow, and how to access the power of receiving as a divine birthright.

Date: July 1, 2025
Time: 3:30 P.M. / PT (USA)
Register at: christinehassler.com/group
Includes a bonus meditation visualization and session replay.

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In this episode we explore the often uncomfortable—but deeply necessary—“in-between” phase of personal growth. This is the space after an identity, role, or version of ourselves has ended, but before the new one has fully formed.

In a culture that values clarity and forward momentum, this period of not knowing can feel disorienting. But it’s actually a sacred part of the death-rebirth cycle—a time to pause, shed old layers, and allow what’s next to emerge organically.

If you’re in transition and craving answers, this episode will help you surrender to the wisdom of the unknown and trust the unfolding process.

In this insightful and milestone 500th episode, Christine coaches Lisa, a woman actively working to recalibrate her nervous system after decades of living in survival mode. Through their work in Christine’s Be the Queen program, Lisa has become increasingly aware of how her high productivity and people-pleasing patterns were actually rooted in hypervigilance developed from childhood emotional abandonment and a toxic past relationship.

Christine helps Lisa move beyond traditional nervous system tools like breathwork by exploring one of the most overlooked regulators: the mind. They discuss how belief systems, people-pleasing masks, and unconscious behaviors can keep the body in a dysregulated state—even when things look “successful” on the outside.

Whether you're a high achiever who struggles to slow down, or someone who feels stuck in a cycle of stress and self-doubt, this episode offers a refreshing look at how mental and emotional honesty are key to calming your system and reclaiming your peace.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you always “on,” afraid that if you stop doing, your worth might come into question?
• Do you feel triggered by others’ behavior and immediately spiral into old thought loops?
• Are your validation-seeking habits tied to unresolved childhood wounds or past trauma?
• Can you give yourself permission to operate from truth rather than performance or perfectionism?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Your thoughts and beliefs are major regulators of your nervous system—not just your breath or body.
• Hyper-productivity often masks dysregulation and old coping mechanisms.
• Rewriting internal stories like “I’m only worthy when I produce” helps calm the system long-term.
• Nervous system regulation isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing from a place of grounded self-worth.
• You can’t fake authenticity; regulating your system starts with radical honesty about what’s true for you.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Begin your day by asking, “What do I really feel right now?” before reacting from habit.
• Use mental inquiry tools like Byron Katie’s “Is it true?” to deconstruct spiraling thoughts.
• Notice when you're chasing outcomes or approval and redirect into curiosity or creativity.
• Instead of defaulting to performative politeness (like saying good morning out of obligation), check in with your body and ask what’s real for you in the moment.
• Remember: It’s not always about doing less—but doing from a regulated, authentic place.

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