In this powerful and emotionally honest session, Christine coaches Tiffany—a gifted, intuitive woman who’s been living inside the identity of caretaker, rescuer, and savior. As someone raised in a family marked by addiction, loss, and emotional chaos, Tiffany learned early on to take responsibility for others’ well-being, often at the expense of her own.

Now, with a brother spiraling and a deep longing to create a family of her own, Tiffany finds herself stuck in an exhausting cycle of overgiving, people-pleasing, and spiritual burnout. Christine gently but firmly guides her toward a redefinition of love—one that includes boundaries, dignity, and surrender, not depletion.

This episode speaks to every empath, helper, or healer who struggles with giving too much, confusing martyrdom with love, and forgetting their own needs in service of saving others.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel responsible for other people’s healing, happiness, or choices?
• Have you been confusing helping with over-giving—or love with martyrdom?
• Are you exhausted from trying to fix or save others who haven’t asked for your support?
• What might open up for you if you believed that everyone is on their own soul path—and you don’t have to intervene?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Being the “savior” is often a survival role rooted in early identity confusion—not your true purpose.
• There’s a sacred difference between being of service and being responsible for others.
• You can give people the dignity of their own process—and that is its own act of love.
• God/Source never asks you to deplete yourself in the name of love.
• When you stop over-giving, you make space for reciprocal love, rest, and your rightful life.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Reflect on this mantra: “I no longer rob others of the dignity of their own process.”
• Get honest about where you’re still playing the role of rescuer—and release it with compassion.
• Reorient your energy through prayer, meditation, or spiritual practices that restore you.
• Redefine your non-negotiables in relationships, especially around addiction, boundaries, and reciprocity.
• Begin to build a new identity: one rooted in self-trust, clear agreements, and spiritual alignment—not sacrifice.

Upcoming Event: The San Diego Women’s Retreat (Oct. 17–19, 2025)
If this episode resonated, you’re invited to Christine’s signature women’s retreat—a high-frequency, transformational experience designed to reconnect you with your truth, your joy, and your courage. Whether you’re in a season of rebuilding or simply seeking maintenance for your soul, this retreat offers intentional support and sacred community.

Early bird discount ending soon.
Learn more and register at: christinehassler.com/retreat

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• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
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• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
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In this episode, I’m joined by Molly Rubesh—certified life coach, author, and creator of The Modern Marriage Blueprint. Molly brings a grounded, refreshingly honest perspective to love, marriage, and everything in between.

A former corporate leader turned coach, Molly now helps individuals and couples heal old patterns, strengthen emotional intimacy, and build marriages rooted in truth, clarity, and conscious choice. We dive deep into the real side of partnership—what it takes to grow together, how to have the hard conversations, and why things like pre-nups and practical planning deserve just as much attention as romance.

Whether you’re calling in a relationship, healing from one, or deepening the one you’re in, this conversation offers insights that are both emotionally and strategically empowering.

You can access her course here: https://mollyrubesh.com/course-mmb

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break?

In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work.

What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant?
• Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results?
• Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction?
• Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure.
• “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path.
• Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match.
• Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth.
• Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?”
• Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.”
• Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing?
• Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores.
• Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”

Upcoming Event: Christine’s Women’s Retreat – October 17–19, 2025
If you feel stuck, depleted, or unsure where to go next, Christine invites you to her signature Women’s Retreat. It’s designed to help you shift frequencies—not just fix external problems. This immersive, high-frequency weekend supports deep healing, soul reconnection, and sustainable transformation.

Location: San Diego, California
Details + registration: christinehassler.com/retreat
Early bird registration ends soon

Want to be coached on the show?
Join the waitlist at: christinehassler.com/waitlist

Connect with Christine:
Website: christinehassler.com
Instagram: @christinehassler

Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.