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  • Ep. 12: I Don’t Deserve to Dream This Big, Featuring Shaesta Waiz

    Ep. 12: I Don’t Deserve to Dream This Big, Featuring Shaesta Waiz
    Oct 7 2025
    From an Afghan refugee camp to the skies above every continent, Shaesta Waiz shattered barriers as the youngest woman to fly solo around the world in a single-engine aircraft. But before she could take flight, she had to confront the lie that she didn’t deserve to dream big. In this powerful conversation, Lilo interviews Shaesta about breaking free from cultural constraints, the courage to redefine identity, and finding purpose in advocacy for women and girls left behind in Afghanistan.

    In this episode:

    Who is Shaesta Waiz?
    An Afghan-American pilot who, in 2017, became the youngest woman to circumnavigate the globe solo in a single-engine plane. She founded Dreams Soar to inspire and resource the next generation in aviation and STEM.

    What “ego lie” did she believe?
    “I don’t deserve to dream this big.” Growing up between Afghan traditions at home and American culture at school, she internalized limits about what a girl “should” do.

    What shaped that belief?
    A strict, traditional household, limited role models, language barriers, and community pressure not to “draw attention.” Her mother encouraged possibility; her father valued practicality—creating both support and constraint.

    How did she discover aviation?
    On a first solo commercial trip as a young adult, the takeoff moment “unlocked” possibility. The cockpit became a place free of judgment where only skill and focus mattered.

    What is Dreams Soar?
    A nonprofit she launched to pair her global flight with on-the-ground outreach for students—turning a record attempt into a purpose-driven mission.

    What was the Athens orphanage moment?
    Many kids—refugees—weren’t moved by aviation talk. She sat in a circle, listened, and met Sara, a Farsi-speaking Afghan girl newly separated from her mother. Speaking in Farsi, Shaesta explained what was happening and stayed until Sara felt safe—realizing her mission was about people first, inspiration second.

    Did she make it to Afghanistan?
    Yes—via commercial flight (insurance wouldn’t cover GA), coordinated with the UN. Hundreds of Afghan girls welcomed her. She also reunited with her father, who—proudly—helped translate and celebrate her journey.

    Resources & Ways To Support
    • Book: Fly Girl Fly: Shaesta Waiz Soars Around the World — proceeds support Dreams Soar scholarships.
    • Dreams Soar: Learn, give, or partner to expand aviation access and STEM outreach. www.shaestawaiz.com
    • Episode action: Share this episode with someone who needs permission to dream big; leave a review to amplify these stories.
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  • Ep. 11: I Know What I Want, Featuring Dr. Graham Norris

    Ep. 11: I Know What I Want, Featuring Dr. Graham Norris
    Sep 23 2025
    Futurist and leadership expert Dr. Graham Norris joins host Lilo Armandie explore how to make better decisions under uncertainty. Learn practical ways to overcome perfectionism, overachievement, and feeling overwhelmed. Drawing on research, global experience, and his own pivots, Graham shows how imagination (not prediction) helps us navigate uncertainty, make better decisions, and design futures that actually fit who we are. If you’ve ever climbed a ladder only to wonder why it feels empty, this conversation will help you step forward with curiosity instead of fear.

    Q: Who is the guest?
    Dr. Graham Norris is an award-winning futurist, keynote speaker, and leadership expert. He’s advised leaders at Intel, Microsoft, and Adidas on how to think clearly about tomorrow.

    Q: What’s the “lie” explored in this episode?
    The belief that you must know exactly what you want—or predict every outcome—before you can move forward. Graham calls this the “lie of certainty.”

    Q: What topics are discussed?
    • Why perfectionism, overachievement, and overwhelm keep high performers stuck
    • How to use imagination (not prediction) to navigate uncertainty
    • Decision-making traps: analysis paralysis, arrival fallacy, and too many choices
    • Lessons from aviation, medicine, and psychology about learning from mistakes
    • Balancing planning and flexibility when life or work goes off the rails
    • Aligning goals with personal values as they evolve over time
    Q: What will listeners learn?
    You’ll learn practical tools to:
    • Build “future confidence” instead of chasing impossible certainty
    • Ask what’s truly important to you and design steps toward it
    • Replace fear of being wrong with curiosity, experimentation, and growth
    Q: Who should listen?
    Leaders, professionals, and anyone rethinking success or feeling stuck between options will benefit from Graham’s insights.

    Call to Action
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  • Ep. 10: We Want the Best & the Brightest

    Ep. 10: We Want the Best & the Brightest
    Sep 9 2025
    Space Force Guardian and rocket scientist Col. Bree Fram joins Lilo for a candid conversation about service, leadership, and the myth of meritocracy. Bree traces a 23-year career of deployments, command, and showing up authentically—then reckons with an executive policy shift that branded loyal service members as “problems,” sidelining talent in the name of politics. Together they unpack institutional betrayal, what real readiness requires, why vulnerability makes better leaders, and what’s at stake when a nation tells devoted people they no longer belong.

    Who is Bree Fram (she/her)?
    Bree Fram is an astronautical engineer, author, podcaster, speaker, and active-duty colonel in the United States Space Force. She is currently on administrative leave, pending separation due to Presidential policy regarding transgender people at the end of 2025. In her final assignment she was stationed at the Pentagon where she developed the requirements for future Space Force capabilities.

    Where can I learn more about Bree Fram?
    Find Bree Fram's books and Forged in Fire podcast at https://www.breefram.com/#/


    Are transgender troops a security concern?
    No. Decades of service and multiple studies show transgender service members meet the same standards of readiness, leadership, and deployability as any other troops. Courts and military data confirm there is no evidence of unique security risks. In fact, serving authentically often strengthens trust, cohesion, and performance within units.

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  • Ep. 9: Neurodivergence: My Difference is My Defect, with Kathleen Perley

    Ep. 9: Neurodivergence: My Difference is My Defect, with Kathleen Perley
    Aug 26 2025
    What if the very things you thought would hold you back were actually your greatest strengths? In this episode, linguist-turned-CEO Kathleen Perley shares how living with dyslexia, dysgraphia, and ADHD once convinced her she could never succeed. Instead, those differences became her superpower — fueling a multimillion-dollar business, a career in AI strategy, and a passion for redefining what intelligence really means. Her story is one of resilience, rebellion, and embracing the nonlinear path to success.

    Read Kathleen’s new book, AI Made Simple. Results Made Real.

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    Episode highlights:

    How did Kathleen turn learning challenges into career strengths?
    Kathleen leaned into nonlinear thinking, problem-solving, and pattern recognition. Her unconventional mind made her stand out in linguistics, technology, and AI. What once looked like chaos became her superpower in strategy and innovation.

    How should parents and teachers of neurodivergent kids handle the learning disabilities?
    Be careful with your words. Find and celebrate their strengths. Small wins build momentum. A single teacher’s encouragement can change a child’s trajectory.

    What advice does she give to neurodivergent professionals?
    Stop hiding, lean into your different lens, and know that perceived weaknesses can become your edge. Don’t waste energy perfecting skills you dislike; instead, amplify the work that sparks joy.

    About Kathleen
    Kathleen is a linguist-turned-entrepreneur and a recognized thought leader in artificial intelligence integration, dedicated to bridging the gap between AI and business leadership. As Faculty and AI Advisor to the Deans at Rice University’s Jones Graduate School of Business, she develops and teaches courses on AI strategy, generative AI applications, and AI implementation, equipping executives and students with the skills to navigate AI-driven transformation. In this role, she also advises university leadership on AI adoption, training faculty on emerging technologies, and shaping AI education across the business school. Beyond academia, Kathleen is the CEO and Founder of DemystifAI, an AI consulting and education firm that helps mid-sized businesses integrate AI to drive innovation, efficiency, and growth. She previously founded Decode, a digital agency that scaled to $17M in annual revenue and specialized in healthcare digital transformation before being acquired by private equity-backed Unlock Health.

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    56 m
  • Ep. 8: I'm Not Qualified, with Ashley Peebles

    Ep. 8: I'm Not Qualified, with Ashley Peebles
    Aug 12 2025
    Ashley Peebles spent years quietly believing she wasn’t good enough — that her background, education, and skills didn’t measure up. In this candid conversation, she shares with Lilo how that lie shaped her choices, from passing on opportunities to undervaluing her own achievements. Ashley takes us through the turning points that rewired her self-worth, from life as a military spouse to building a thriving business, losing it overnight, and rebuilding on her own terms. Her story is a masterclass in resilience, self-belief, and finally checking the box.

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    56 m
  • Ep. 7: I’m Not Like my Father, with Leonard Murphy

    Ep. 7: I’m Not Like my Father, with Leonard Murphy
    Jul 29 2025
    Leonard Murphy seemed to have it all—prestige, ambition, and success in the banking world. But behind the polished exterior was a man silently unraveling under the weight of addiction, generational trauma, and unresolved pain. In this raw and powerful conversation, Leonard shares how childhood wounds, ego, and ambition fueled his descent—and how losing everything became the gateway to reclaiming his life. Now a sober coach and founder of Empowered Through Sobriety, Leonard helps high-achieving men of color confront the root of their addictions and rediscover purpose.

    In this episode:
    • Leonard’s childhood and his father’s struggle with addiction
    • Impact of generational trauma and mental health
    • High-functioning alcoholism
    • Illusion of success in corporate culture
    • Marriage, fatherhood, and the ripple effects of addiction
    • Hitting rock bottom and contemplating suicide
    • The turning point: loss, grief, and the decision to change
    • Trauma therapy as the key to sustainable recovery
    • Redefining success through purpose and service
    • Empowering high-achieving men of color in sobriety
    Connect with Leonard at https://www.empoweredthroughsobriety.com

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  • Ep. 6: Mommy Dearest: She Has My Best Interest at Heart, with Justin Leone

    Ep. 6: Mommy Dearest: She Has My Best Interest at Heart, with Justin Leone
    Jul 1 2025
    Lilo reconnects with longtime friend Justin Leone—musician, award-winning sommelier, author, and entrepreneur—to explore the painful cost of tying self-worth to performance. From a childhood shaped by control and conditional love to a career defined by reinvention, Justin shares how early trauma impacted his adult relationships, his ego, and his ability to trust. With honesty and humor, he opens up about breaking generational cycles and learning to love without losing himself.

    In this episode:
    • Ego and Identity
    • Generational Trauma and Its Effects on Mental Health
    • Navigating Adult Relationships
    • Navigating Personal Relationships and Family Dynamics
    • Career Ambitions and Personal Growth
    • The Evolution of Love and Relationships
    • Breaking the Cycle of Manipulation
    • Rebuilding Self-Worth and Identity
    • Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
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  • Ep. 5: I Have to do This Alone, with Angelina “STRIKE” Stephens

    Ep. 5: I Have to do This Alone, with Angelina “STRIKE” Stephens
    Jun 17 2025
    Lilo sits down with retired Air Force Lieutenant Colonel and mental health advocate Angelina “Strike” Stephens. Ange shares her powerful journey through depression, suicidal ideation, and postpartum struggle—unraveling the lie she once believed: I have to do it alone. From her raw essay Run Toward the Fire to her quiet unraveling behind the scenes of a decorated military career, Ange speaks candidly about the emotional toll of high-performance leadership, the stigma around mental health in the military, and how a boat, a baby, and a breaking point became the start of healing.

    In this episode:
    • Burden of Isolation
    • Leadership and Vulnerability
    • Breaking the Stigma of Mental Health
    • Family Planning and Career Challenges
    • Postpartum Struggles and Isolation
    • Complexity of Suicidal Ideation
    • The Journey to Mental Health Awareness
    • Incremental Healing and the Role of Support
    • Understanding Leadership and Mental Health
    • Finding Joy and Strength in Vulnerability
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    1 h y 9 m