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In today’s episode, we’re going down a rabbit hole I’ve been exploring deeply over the past month — a trail that started with my shamanic soul-retrieval work, moved into inner child healing, and has now led me into the world of attachment styles in romantic relationships.

If relationships feel confusing, draining, or chaotic for you… this is an episode you don’t want to miss.

I’m sharing insights from the brilliant book Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller (linked in the show notes). If you struggle in romantic partnerships, I’m practically ordering you to read or listen to this book — it will give you clarity, language, and tools that make everything make sense.

This episode explores why you show up the way you do in relationships, how your early experiences shaped that, and—most importantly—how you can shift toward secure, grounded, self-led connection.

What We Explore in This Episode

✨ Why attachment styles matter more than you think

✨ The 3 main attachment styles (plus the rare 4th)

✨ How childhood shapes attachment

✨ Triggers and attachment activation

✨ The anxious–avoidant trap

✨ How to shift toward secure attachment

✨ The power of secure partners

Resources Mentioned

📘 Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller — Find it on Amazon HERE.

If this episode has brought some lightbulb moments or stirred something meaningful for you, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram at @EmmaOBrienCoach

If you’d like support with healing your attachment patterns, inner child work, or building emotional safety in your nervous system, you can book a free connection call. Coaching is where this work becomes truly transformational.

✨ Book a free connection call → HERE

Thank you for being here with me. There’s so much exciting self-discovery happening behind the scenes, and I can’t wait to bring you into the next layer in the upcoming episode.

Happy healing, and see you next week!

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

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or book a free connection call HERE.

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In this episode I’m diving into one of my favourite topics: inner child healing and how re-parenting yourself can help you reconnect to your brilliant, innate, authentic self.

We explore why so many of your current triggers, perfectionism, people-pleasing and “why am I reacting like THIS?!” moments are actually being run by a much younger version of you – and how to lovingly take back the wheel.

In this episode, I talk about:

• What “inner child” actually means
• Why even a “good” childhood leaves imprints
• Signs your inner child needs attention
• Re-parenting yourself in real time
  
  
• Inner child work & your nervous system
• Triggers as teachers
• Internal Family Systems (parts work)
• Shamanic soul retrieval & inner child healing
• Practical ways to start today
• Integration – where real change happens
  

Resources mentioned:

• Books

No Bad Parts – Richard Schwartz

You Are the One You’ve Been Looking For – Richard Schwartz

• On my website

Blog post on Shamanic Soul Retrieval which you can find HERE.

If this episode stirred something in you…

If you’ve listened and thought, “Okay, this is me, and I don’t want my 6-year-old self running my adult life anymore”, this is exactly the kind of work I love supporting women with.

I blend:

• Thought work & practical strategy
• Shamanic journeying and soul retrieval
• HeartMath nervous system regulation
• Direct, honest, compassionate coaching

…to help women in midlife step into their sovereignty, heal old patterns, and reconnect with the most authentic version of themselves.

Work with me

• Book a free connection call HERE
  If you’re curious about inner child work, soul retrieval, or nervous system support, you’re very welcome to book a free connection call with me. We’ll explore what’s coming up for you and whether working together feels like a good fit.
• Say hello on Instagram @EmmaOBrienCoach
  
  Pop me a message and let me know what landed for you in this episode.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

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In this episode I dive into the Witch Wound: the ancestral, collective trauma rooted in the Burning Times that still shapes how women show up today. If you’ve ever felt afraid to be visible, worried about being “too much”, or guilty for wanting more than the bare minimum… this one is for you.

Drawing on Celeste Larsen’s powerful book Heal the Witch Wound I explore how historic persecution of women—healers, midwives, herbalists, independent women—still echoes in our nervous systems, beliefs & behaviours.

In this episode, I talk about:

• What the Witch Wound actually is
  How the “Burning Times” weren’t just a gruesome chapter in history, but a systemic campaign to control women’s power, wisdom, bodies & resources.
• How ancestral trauma shows up in modern life
  Why you might feel unsafe being visible online, charging well for your work, having strong opinions, or leaving relationships that deplete you.
• Powerful women as a “threat”
  The social conditioning that still rewards the quiet “good girl” & punishes outspoken, sovereign women.
• Nervous system & Witch Wound links
  How your fear of criticism, trolling, rejection, conflict, or taking up space isn’t weakness—it’s your nervous system remembering old danger patterns.
• Money, safety & fear of success
  Why so many women are subconsciously afraid of wealth & how this links back to women once being punished & stripped of everything for having power.
• Where to begin your healing
  Simple starting points: noticing your triggers, journaling your beliefs & learning to regulate your nervous system instead of abandoning yourself.

If this episode hit a nerve (in a good way) & you’re done playing small, diluting yourself, outsourcing your safety & power & you’re ready to step into your sovereignty:

• Send me a DM on Instagram @EmmaOBrienCoach and tell me what landed.
• Book a free connection call HERE and let’s talk.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

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This conversation is a straight-talking road map for women who feel stuck around money. We unpack why so many of us unconsciously give our financial power away (hello, patriarchy + intergenerational programming), how those beliefs show up as procrastination, over-giving, perfectionism, and under-charging, and the practical tools that help you shift into wealth + worth.

Karen shares her own story—from healing trauma to paying off $13k debt—plus how EFT tapping and self-worth work change your relationship with money so you can take aligned action (without B-minus guilt).

What You’ll Learn

- Why your money issues are rarely about the money—and what they’re really about
- The “financial garden” metaphor: stop snipping weeds at the soil line and pull them up by the roots
- How inherited fear and social conditioning (e.g., “women aren’t good with money”) keep you small
- The nervous-system angle: turning off “freaked-out brain” and switching on “peace brain” so you can make clear decisions
- Why progress beats perfection (ship the B-minus work!)
- Karen’s 3 power moves for financial success

Key Takeaways & Sticky Notes:

“Money work is identity work.” Change the story, then the numbers can change.

Regulate to rewire. You can’t dream big from a dysregulated state. Calm first, then plan.

Abundance isn’t only a finish line. Practice pleasure and joy while pursuing goals.

B-minus work ships. Your people want resonance, not polish.

Guest Links & Resources

About Karen Berzanski: CEO & founder of TheLuckySoul.com, creator of the M-Spot membership. Karen helps women clear hidden money blocks so they can earn, receive, and lead with confidence.

Free training: The Guilt-Free Money Reset — Three Money-Guilt Mistakes and How to Break Free (includes 21 Practical Abundance Strategies + 12 Things to Stop Doing) HERE

Website: TheLuckySoul.com
YouTube: @TheLuckySoul - Wild, Wealthy & Free
Instagram: @theluckysoul

About Your Host (that’s me, Emma)

I coach mid-life women who are done playing small to rebuild self-worth, regulate their nervous system and rewrite the beliefs that keep them stuck. My approach blends thought work, shamanic journeying/soul retrieval, somatic tools, and no-nonsense accountability so you can lead your life and money with sovereignty.

Work With Me: Explore what’s keeping you under-earning and map your next best step book a FREE call HERE.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

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If you caught last week’s episode, you’ll know we talked about limiting beliefs — where they come from and how to start shifting them - you can catch that episode here.

This week, we’re taking that work a layer deeper, exploring how intergenerational trauma — the patterns, fears, and stories passed down through your family line — can quietly shape your core beliefs and keep you repeating the same loops for years, sometimes generations.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• How trauma and patterning are handed down through family lines — even when you’ve never “personally” experienced the original event
• What intergenerational trauma really means, beyond the big-T events
• How family modelling (especially around gender roles, self-worth, and relationships) creates subconscious blueprints you might still be living by
• The fascinating science behind epigenetic inheritance — including the Mount Sinai study on Holocaust survivors and gene FKBP5 that literally changed how future generations respond to stress
• Why “what’s familiar feels safe” to your nervous system — even if it’s dysfunctional
• How shamanic energy work can complement practical coaching tools to help you rewrite inherited beliefs at a deep level

I share a personal example from my own shamanic practice — a journey that revealed an inherited belief from my grandmother that “women are worthless.”

Seeing how that belief echoed through generations was a huge light-bulb moment. After doing ancestral healing work around it, I felt the energetic shift almost immediately — the procrastination lifted, clarity returned, and I could finally move the needle in both of my businesses again.

Whether that healing happens on an energetic plane or in the subconscious mind doesn’t really matter — what matters is that it works.

Intergenerational patterns don’t have to define you. Once you bring them into conscious awareness, you can choose differently — and when you shift, everyone after you benefits.

Want Support Rewriting the Story?

If you’re noticing repeating patterns in your relationships, career, or self-worth — and you can’t seem to break them no matter how much therapy or mindset work you’ve done — it’s time for something deeper.

💫 Book a 75-Minute Breakthrough Session — together we’ll identify and clear one of your core limiting beliefs, using a mix of practical thought work and (if you’re open to it) shamanic energy tools that shift things fast.

Book a Breakthrough Session HERE.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

Send us a text

In this episode, I’m diving into one of my favourite topics — limiting beliefs: what they are, where they come from, how they quietly run your life from the shadows, and most importantly, how to shift them so you can stop playing small and start moving forward with clarity and confidence.

We all have subconscious belief systems shaped by childhood experiences, family modelling, and social conditioning. These old narratives — “I’m not good enough,” “money is hard to make,” “I have to earn love” — become invisible scripts that shape our choices, relationships, and self-worth.

But the good news is, they’re not permanent. You can rewrite them.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• What limiting beliefs actually are and how they form through childhood, attachment patterns, and social conditioning.
• How to spot your own limiting beliefs by paying attention to triggers, recurring thoughts, and inner chatter.
• How your brain reinforces old stories through pattern recognition and the “reticular activating system.”
• Powerful ways to shift your beliefs – from reframing and evidence-building to using tools like Byron Katie’s The Work.
• How shamanic and energetic work can help release deeper, intergenerational or subconscious patterns.
• Why integration is the key to making lasting change — and how to practice new ways of being in daily life.

Journal Prompts

If you want to take this episode deeper, grab your journal and reflect on these:

1. What recurring thoughts or phrases do you catch yourself saying that might be limiting you?
2. When do you feel triggered — and what belief might be hiding underneath that reaction?
3. What’s one piece of evidence that challenges your biggest self-doubt?
4. How would you act differently this week if you fully believed you were good enough?

Work With Me

If you’re ready to uncover and release the core belief that’s been keeping you stuck, book a 75-Minute Breakthrough Coaching Session with me.
Together, we’ll identify and shift the root block that’s limiting your progress so you can move forward with self-trust and confidence.

👉 Book your Breakthrough Session here

Connect with me on Instagram @EmmaOBrienCoach

You can also book a free Connection Call to explore how coaching can help you change the patterns that no longer serve you.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

Send us a text

In this episode I’m talking about the over-functioner vs under-functioner dance (hat tip to Harriet Lerner).

If you’re the one who remembers the dentist appointments, carries the emotional load, and secretly reloads the dishwasher after your partner… hi, it’s us.

I share why we end up doing it, how it wrecks intimacy (and our nervous systems), and the simple moves that shift the dynamic without starting World War III.

Podcast highlights:

• Spot the pattern: Real-life signs you’re over-functioning (at home and at work).
• Why we do it: Hyper-independence, fear of disappointment, old “don’t ask” rules from childhood.
• The intimacy killer: How parent-child energy sneaks into adult relationships.
• The fix in plain English: Ask clearly, allow help, tolerate imperfect outcomes.
• The wobble: Handling the inevitable “change-back” reaction when you stop doing it all.
• My confession: Laundry sorting, dishwasher restacking, and why control ≠ care.

Journal prompts (save these):

1. Where do I say “it’s quicker if I do it”? What’s the cost?
2. Who am I quietly resentful of, and what have I not explicitly asked them to do?
3. What outcome am I afraid of if I stop controlling it (messy, late, not how I like)?
4. Which old rule is running the show (e.g., “Don’t need,” “Keep the peace,” “Don’t ask”)?
5. One micro-handover I’ll try this week (be specific).
6. How will I hold my boundary through the wobble? (Script one sentence you’ll use.)
7. After I let go, what actually happened vs. what I feared?

Try this this week:

• Make one clear ask: “Please book your own dentist appointment and add it to your calendar by Friday.”
• Hands off the outcome: No “helpful” rearranging or reminder texts.
• Debrief kindly: Notice the trigger, breathe, recommit to the boundary.

Work with me:

If this episode hits a nerve and you’re ready to shift the one core belief keeping you stuck in over-functioning, book a 75-minute Breakthrough Session with me HERE.

Prefer to chat first? Grab a free Connection Call and we’ll map your next step together HERE.

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.

Send us a text

In this episode of Lemons and Pineapples, I dive into the fascinating world of the nervous system and why learning to regulate it is the key to building resilience, reducing stress, and reclaiming your sense of calm.

I explain the science behind the autonomic nervous system, the difference between fight-or-flight and rest-and-digest, and how modern stressors (like endless emails and work deadlines) keep us stuck in survival mode. I also share how tools from HeartMath—a science-backed system for emotional regulation—can help you shift out of stress and into calm on demand.

You’ll learn why chronic stress impacts sleep, decision-making, and even physical health, and how regulating your nervous system can improve everything from productivity to relationships.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• The two branches of your autonomic nervous system—and why they matter
• How chronic stress traps you in fight-or-flight mode
• The role of cortisol (stress hormone) vs. DHEA (repair and recovery hormone)
• Why most adults were never taught emotional literacy—and how that affects resilience
• How HeartMath tools retrain your nervous system to access calm when you need it most
• The link between heart rate variability and resilience
• Why nervous system regulation is essential for focus, productivity, and long-term health

Resources & Links Mentioned

• 🌿 6-Week Nervous System Reset Coaching Program
  – Learn practical HeartMath tools to regulate stress and build resilience
• 📞 Book a Free Connection Call
  
  
• 📲 Connect with Emma on Instagram: @emmaobriencoach
  
  

If you’re done playing small and ready to lead yourself — you’re in the right place.

I’m Emma O’Brien — Martha Beck trained and certified life coach, HeartMath practitioner, and shamanic healer helping high-achieving women stop second-guessing themselves and finally trust their own voice.

Through nervous system re-calibration, strategic coaching, and deep energetic work, I help you move from self-doubt to self-trust so you can create a life you actually want to be in — no external approval required.

🌀 Want to work together?

Explore the 6-week Nervous System Reset, 1:1 coaching, or Shamanic Soul Retrieval sessions here: emmaobriencoach.com

Questions or ready to chat?

DM me on Instagram @emmaobriencoach
or book a free connection call HERE.