In this episode of Heal From Infidelity, I dive into one of the most powerful analogies I’ve used with clients: asking the question, What team are you on? When betrayal shakes your world, it’s easy to question your worth and wonder why your partner seems to show up differently elsewhere. But often, the truth isn’t about your value—it’s about which “team” each person chooses to play on.

I share insights from my own experiences and client conversations about what it means to hold yourself to a higher standard, to face pain instead of avoiding it, and to recognize when someone is willing—or unwilling—to meet you on the same field. Sometimes your partner may actually be on the same team but playing a different role. Other times, they may simply not be willing to put in the effort required to compete at that level.

This episode is a call to stand firmly in your truth, choose your team intentionally, and stop making someone else’s choices mean less about you.

Takeaways:

• Why your partner’s actions don’t define your worth
• How to recognize if you’re truly on the same “team”
• The role of resilience and facing pain in real healing
• Choosing higher standards without making yourself wrong

If you’re ready to find clarity and strength after betrayal, I’d love to walk alongside you. Reach out to me today for support.

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In this episode, I open up about the hidden cost of unspoken truths and what happens when we hold back from sharing how we really feel. I talk about why silence can feel safe in the moment, but ultimately keeps us stuck in patterns that don’t serve us.

Through personal stories and practical tools, I share how learning to speak up and honor your true feelings can change not only your relationships but also your confidence in yourself. This is about finding the courage to be authentic and vulnerable—because that’s where real transformation begins.

If you’ve ever struggled with staying quiet when you know you need to speak your truth, this episode will guide you toward breaking free from that silence and stepping into a more empowered version of you.

Key Takeaways:

• The Cost of Silence: How staying quiet hurts emotional health and relationships.
• Embracing Imperfection: Speak your truth without waiting for the “right” moment.
• Courage to Speak Up: Build confidence to express feelings and strengthen connections.
• Self-awareness & Responsibility: Take ownership without losing your voice.
• Empowerment Through Vulnerability: Use authenticity to create deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

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In this episode, I open up about how avoiding uncomfortable truths in relationships can create even deeper pain over time. I talk about the emotional toll of denial, the importance of addressing challenges quickly, and the role a supportive community can play in the healing process. This conversation is an invitation to face what’s really going on so you can prevent unnecessary heartache and move forward with clarity, strength, and peace.

Key Takeaways:

• Avoidance can lead to greater problems in relationships.
• Facing uncomfortable truths is essential for healing.
• Delaying action can cause emotional and relational tolls.
• Quickly addressing issues can prevent deeper damage.
• Community support is vital in facing difficult truths.
• Self-respect is eroded when we ignore our own feelings.
• Decisive action is necessary to reclaim peace.
• Recognizing signs of trouble early can save future pain.
• Therapists can help, but personal accountability is crucial.
• Building the muscle to face truths gets easier with practice.

More from me:

• Free class on August 19, 2025 at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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In this episode, I explore how storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing after betrayal. I explain the difference between revisiting a story to gain clarity and retelling it in a way that keeps the pain alive. You’ll hear how to recognize when it’s time to release an old, harmful narrative and replace it with an empowering one that supports growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing after infidelity.

Key Takeaways:

• We tell stories to make sense of our experiences.
• Some stories can create more pain than they resolve.
• Exploring a story can lead to deeper understanding and healing.
• Repeating stories can keep us stuck in a painful loop.
• Letting go of a story doesn't mean it didn't matter.
• Identifying when a story no longer serves us is crucial.
• New narratives can empower us to move forward.
• Healing is a layered process, much like peeling an onion.
• We can hold both love and pain in our narratives.
• Our past does not have to define our future.

More from me:

• Free class on August 19, 2025 (NOTE A DATE CHANGE) at 10 am MT - "Stop Ruminating and Reclaim Your Peace" https://portal.andreagiles.com/stop-ruminating-masterclass
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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In this episode we're going to talk about the complexities of conversations about infidelity. I know that sometimes it's important to revisit painful topics, so let's discuss some effective communication strategies, and the importance of setting boundaries to foster healing. We have to own responsibility while moving forward and practice conscious communication while rebuilding trust and intimacy post-betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• It's common for partners to want to revisit the topic of infidelity.
• Conversations about infidelity can either help or hinder healing.
• Bringing up past pain does not mean one hasn't forgiven.
• Effective communication is key to moving forward.
• Setting boundaries is essential for both partners.
• Healing is a non-linear process that requires ongoing effort.
• Both partners have a role in creating a safe space for discussions.
• Pain can resurface unexpectedly, and it's important to address it.
• Conscious communication can strengthen relationships after betrayal.
• It's crucial to advocate for healthy communication in relationships.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
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It's the 200th episode of Heal from Infidelity!

I'm going to share a personal story about planting flowers - and the importance of continuing to care for yourself and your relationships, even when faced with challenges after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing after betrayal requires patience and nurturing.
• Just like flowers, relationships need care to thrive.
• It's important to keep watering even when results aren't visible.
• Your roots are still alive, even if it feels hopeless.
• Nurturing yourself is essential for growth.
• You can make decisions from a place of wisdom and care.
• It's okay to remove what no longer serves you.
• Every time you nurture, you will see regrowth.
• You are not defined by your current situation.
• Support from others can help you in your healing journey.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Let's talk about the challenges of navigating disapproval and emotional reactions in relationships. You'll learn about differentiation — maintaining one's identity while being in a relationship — and hear about ways to manage emotional responses. We'll look at the significance of self-respect, personal growth, and keeping the courage to stand firm in your truth, even when faced with someone else's discontent.

Key Takeaways:

• Healing from infidelity involves becoming your truest self.
• Disapproval can trigger deep-seated fears of rejection.
• Differentiation means staying true to yourself in relationships.
• Emotional reactions should be managed before responding.
• It's okay to feel sad when others are upset with you.
• Self-awareness is crucial for personal growth.
• Supporting yourself is not selfish; it's courageous.
• You can hold space for others' feelings without losing yourself.
• Grief for the current situation is different from guilt.
• Trusting yourself leads to healthier relationships.

Reference: Episode #69 - Differentiation

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Today we take a look at the complex relationship between forgiveness and forgetting, emphasizing that true forgiveness does not require the erasure of painful memories. I'll discuss the importance of recognizing and processing emotions through the body, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the ongoing journey of forgiveness as a continual practice.

Key Takeaways:

• Forgiveness does not mean forgetting; it means letting go of emotional baggage.
• Our bodies hold wisdom about what needs to be processed and healed.
• Forgiveness is an internal process that requires self-awareness and honesty.
• Remembering can be protective and wise, helping us avoid harmful patterns.
• Setting boundaries is essential in the healing process after betrayal.
• Integration of past experiences is crucial for personal growth and resilience.
• Forgiveness is a continual practice, not a one-time event.
• Emotional regulation is key to having difficult conversations about past hurts.
• We must honor our feelings and allow ourselves to process them fully.
• Healing involves both the mind and body working together.

More from me:

• Sign up for the "Heal on the Go - Audio Membership" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/9tSEsULS
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
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