In this encore episode, I sit down with relationship and infidelity coach Luke Schillings to talk openly about betrayal from a man's perspective. Luke shares his experience of discovering his wife's affair, navigating divorce, co-parenting through heartbreak, and ultimately rebuilding his life from the inside out.

We talk about the shock of confirmation, the unexpected relief of knowing you weren't "crazy," the struggle with resentment when children are involved, and the powerful shift that happens when you focus on what you can control instead of what you can't. Luke shares how journaling, forgiveness, and personal responsibility became the turning points in his healing.

Most importantly, this conversation is about resilience — and hope.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why confirmation can bring relief after suspicion
• How to identify what you can and cannot control
• The role forgiveness plays in your own healing
• Why putting yourself first actually serves your children
• How resilience is built one decision at a time

If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. You do not have to navigate betrayal alone.

Luke's Info:

• Website: https://www.lifecoachluke.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mylifecoachluke
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylifecoachluke/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachluke/
• After the Affair Podcast on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

In this encore episode, I talk about something that is foundational to healing after infidelity: learning to trust yourself again by honoring what you truly want.

After betrayal, it's so easy to lose your footing. You question your instincts. You second-guess your judgment. You stop trusting your own voice. But one of the most powerful ways to rebuild that trust is by reconnecting with your desires — even the ones that feel small, selfish, or uncomfortable.

I walk you through why so many of us struggle to ask for what we want, how people-pleasing and a reflected sense of self keep us stuck, and how honoring your desires actually accelerates your emotional growth. When you lean into what you want, you build integrity, emotional maturity, and strength. You stop abandoning yourself.

In this episode, I cover:

• Your desires are not random — they are invitations to growth
• Honoring what you want rebuilds self-trust after betrayal
• Tension is not a sign you're wrong — it's a sign you're growing
• You can stop people-pleasing and still be loving

If you're ready to rebuild your foundation and trust yourself again, I would love to support you. Reach out. You don't have to do this alone.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles

Intrusive thoughts after infidelity can feel overwhelming, consuming, and impossible to control. In this encore episode, I walk through what intrusive thoughts really are, why they happen after betrayal, and what we can actually do about them.

If you've ever gone from calm to a full emotional spiral in seconds because of a memory, a word, or a random reminder, you're not broken. You're responding to trauma. I explain the difference between the "upstairs brain" and the "basement brain," and how betrayal keeps us in survival mode longer than we realize.

Most importantly, I share practical steps to slow intrusive thoughts down, understand what they're signaling, and begin healing at a deeper level instead of just trying to push them away.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why intrusive thoughts feel so intense after infidelity
• How to regulate your nervous system in the moment
• Questions to ask yourself when a thought won't let go
• How to know if a thought needs processing or reassurance
• What it looks like to co-regulate safely with your partner

You don't have to live at the mercy of intrusive thoughts. There is something underneath them that can be healed. If this episode resonates with you, I'd love for you to reach out and let me know what landed.

The February virtual retreat, The End of Holding It All, is February 18th at 9am-4pm EST. If you want to be there, you need to be inside "Get Your Life Back" by February 16th. If you're interested, schedule your call with me today: https://andreagiles.com/schedule/

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2026 Andrea Giles