There are moments when the pain feels too deep to describe — when every step forward feels impossible and healing seems out of reach. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to those of you who are there right now, carrying heartbreak that feels unbearable.

I'll walk with you through the truth about pain — how it's not a sign that you're broken, but a sacred invitation to healing. You'll learn why pain isn't an interruption to your growth, but the very doorway to it. Together, we'll explore how to stop circling your wounds and instead tend to them with compassion, so that the pain can finally release what's ready to be freed.

If you're tired, scared, or wondering if you'll ever feel peace again, this episode is for you. Take a breath, lean in, and remember — you don't have to do this alone. Healing begins when you stop abandoning yourself and let others walk beside you.

Takeaways:

• Pain is not proof of brokenness — it's a signal to heal.
• Avoiding pain prolongs suffering; facing it opens peace.
• Healing requires compassion, patience, and presence.
• You don't have to heal alone — support is available.

If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/.

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Emotional affairs can be one of the most confusing and painful experiences in a relationship. In this episode, I'm breaking down what they really are — and what they're actually about. So many people believe emotional affairs are about the "other person," but I'll show you why they're often rooted in something deeper: unmet emotional hunger, self-abandonment, and the longing to feel fully alive again.

You'll learn why these relationships can feel electric, why secrecy distorts truth, and how both partners can begin to heal — not by policing behavior, but by learning to be honest without self-abandonment. Whether you've been betrayed or have strayed yourself, this conversation will help you understand what your deeper needs are and how to meet them with integrity.

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional affairs are about unmet needs, not just betrayal.
• The healing path begins with radical self-honesty.
• Integrity isn't the absence of desire — it's staying present with it.
• Growth means learning to choose yourself without self-rejection.

If this episode resonates, I'd love to help you on your healing journey. Reach out or join my next class at https://andreagiles.com/.

More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful.

I walk through how shame forms, what the "shame loop" looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others.

Key Takeaways:

• Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it's a lie.
• Recognizing the "shame loop" is the first step out of it.
• Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame's grip.
• Healing begins when we stop proving shame right.

If you're ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

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More from me:

• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles