In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you.

I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention.

I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through.

Key takeaways:

• Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer
• You can learn to trust your own judgment again
• Commitment builds confidence over time
• Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence by Jeffrey R. Holland: https://youtu.be/pCSs4f9DlVM?si=OihbR5qlp-5c1Nky

If you're facing a decision right now and feel overwhelmed or unsure, reach out. Schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining the small cohort of my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back

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• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to move forward is actually a normal response to emotional trauma—and how your brain is trying to protect you, even when it's keeping you trapped.

I walk through three common scenarios I see again and again: staying when you're afraid to leave, being left and drowning in self-doubt, or choosing to stay but feeling unable to trust or feel peace. If any of these sound familiar, you're not broken. Your brain is wired to seek ease, avoid pain, and cling to what feels familiar—even when that familiarity hurts.

I also share how real change begins by reconnecting with your future self—the version of you who already knows what's possible. When you get clear on what you want and why you want it, you can start creating movement, even in small ways, and reclaim your power.

Key takeaways:

• Feeling stuck is a protective brain response, not a personal failure
• Avoiding pain often keeps us locked in familiar suffering
• Clarity about what you want is the way out of stagnation

If you're ready to stop feeling trapped and start moving forward, reach out. You don't have to do this alone. I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

More from me:

• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

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© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles

In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, and the old roles we unconsciously keep stepping back into. I explore why these patterns return even when we believe we've healed them, and I share how breaking these loops requires something deeper than waiting for someone else to change. It requires choosing differently for ourselves.

I walk you through how relational contracts form, how they expire, and why trying to rebuild inside an outdated contract keeps you stuck in pain. I share what it means to create a new contract — one based on truth, self-responsibility, and clarity — whether with the same partner or within a new chapter of your life entirely.

My intention is to help you see your patterns with honesty and compassion so you can step into a more empowered way of relating to yourself and others.

Takeaways:

• Old relational contracts can expire long before the relationship ends.
• Loops break when I stop abandoning myself.
• A new relationship contract requires truth, clarity, and personal power.
• Growth begins the moment I choose differently.

If this resonates and you're ready to break your own patterns, I invite you to schedule a call with me so we can talk about you joining my January group. https://calendly.com/andreagilescoaching/get-your-life-back?month=2025-12

More from me:

• Get Your Life Back After Infidelity Special: https://portal.andreagiles.com/offers/p5MWTwrk/checkout
• Please leave a rating and review if you like our podcast: https://ratethispodcast.com/healfrominfidelity
• Sign up for the $47 class "Decide: How to Commit to Staying or Going After Infidelity" here: https://portal.andreagiles.com/decide
• Apply to join the "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity" group program here: https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/
• Follow me on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/theinfidelitycoach/

Please click the button to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes!

For transcripts and other available downloads, please visit my website at https://andreagiles.com/podcast/

© 2020 - 2025 Andrea Giles