Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Letting go of grudges is rarely easy and certainly nothing happens quickly for most people. Estranged relationships create a hotbed for growing grudges, and you nourish them when you replay and rehearse responses.

Coaching women who have been hurt by a loved one who has chosen to walk away will frequently begin with something like “how could they?” Or I’ll never be able to forgive them for what they’ve done.”

And those words are the foundation for building resentment and deep-seated grudges that bring harm to your soul. Furthermore, you’ll never heal when you are holding a grudge.

Today’s episode will provide some tips for letting go of the resentment so that your heart can begin to heal Let’s settle in for a short message today on getting rid of grudges.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/64.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

There is a bridge that connects an unsaved heart and that’s the subject of today’s podcast episode. Women have asked me how to handle their unsaved kids especially when estranged.

That’s a worthy question and one that resonates with every Christian mom around the world. I've sometimes overstepped, but always with good intentions. However, your kids will not see it that way. They see it as intrusion into their adult life.

A Mom shared with me that she wrote a lengthy letter to her unsaved kids in hopes that they might be more open once she was gone. Certainly, we desire that our kids find a relationship with Christ but pushing or threatening will only drive them further away.

Listen in today as I share some of the mistakes I made along with some practical tips that can keep you engaged in the spiritual life of your kids.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/63.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

The sting of rejection has been on my mind this week. For Christians, it’s Holy Week and I’ve been thinking about conversations I’ve had with women about estrangement.

Moreover, the rejection these women discuss is typically a child who has walked away. Rarely do I speak with anyone where the parent has chosen rejection.

Siblings, In-Laws, and other estrangement also sting, but the emotional pain of your child choosing to end a relationship with you is deeply personal and hurtful.

Holy week creates an opportunity for you to draw closer to the heart of Jesus. Mocking, false accusations, rejection, loneliness and ultimately a sacrificial death. The good news is Sunday is coming and we know He lives.

Today’s episode relates the sting of an estranged relationship you face with the love and understanding of your heavenly father. Let’s dive in.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/62.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

As children of God, we are made for connection. Connecting with another in meaningful relationship is one of the greatest joys of life. Family, friends, and co-workers. Neighbors, Church fellowship, and children’s sporting events are all places we find connection.

Conversely, rejection is one of the most painful emotional upheavals that one will ever experience. Abandonment of a relationship runs deep within the soul - cutting through every fiber of your being.

If meaningful connection is a beautiful flourishing garden, rejection is an unsightly heap of twigs and branches tied into bundles to be tossed away. You mourn the loss of that once beautiful shrub that bore fruit. The removal of that relationship even briefly damages your soul.

Today’s episode is a bit longer and will delve into the relationship of our adult kids who marry, have children, and later reject you as a parent. Specifically, this will deal with daughters-in-law who influence your son and his family. I have some personal experience on this one so grab a coffee or tea and sit with me for a bit.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/61.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Anxiety and estrangement go hand in hand. As the days and months and years wear on with no relationship with your loved one, it’s hard to be anything but anxious. Will you ever see them again? Do they think of you or miss you?

Do you replay the last conversation you had over and over wondering what could’ve been different? A dear friend lost contact with her adult child and grandchildren years ago. She mourns for this loss and grieves these dear relationships every day.

Anxiety spills over into everyday life and you may find yourself wondering when the next shoe will drop. If that resonates, sit with me today and let’s explore what that looks like and what you can do about it.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/60.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Estrangement due to one’s faith is on the rise given the world situation. No doubt you have witnessed the great divide in families over religion and politics.

As a Christian woman, you are navigating an estranged relationship with a loved one that may be due to something completely unrelated to your faith. However, as the conflict increases, eventually it turns to an attack on your faith.

How do you respond to that? Do you defend your faith in estrangement? Do you stick to the root cause? Tune in with me today as I talk about this complicated issue that many women are faced with today. I’ll give you some biblical strategies to help lead you to peaceful solutions.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/59.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Attempts at managing your thoughts can be an exercise in futility. Yet it’s essential to maintain healthy emotions when dealing with estranged relationships.

If you’re like me, you’re well on the trip to nowhere before you discover your thought process was hijacked. Have you ever started reading and all of a sudden, your thoughts have taken off in a completely unrelated direction?

Well, you aren’t alone. Distractions do that and it happens to the best of us. Today I want to share three tips to manage thoughts that will help you find your way back to a healthy highway. It will take some practice, but I assure you it will be worth the effort. Ready? Buckle up and let’s go.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/58.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact

Send me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangement

Grit and Grace are two key components when you find yourself navigating an estranged relationship. Often these two attributes come later in the estrangement when you’ve suffered through many negative emotions.

What if you could learn the biblical principles of grit and grace early on and shorten the cycle of emotional pain? Would you be willing to sit with God and allow him to change your perspective?

Grit is the constant irritation that creates friction in the relationship. Grace comes along side and softens the painful open wound that begins the process of healing.

Join me today as I talk about the grit and grace of estranged relationships.

Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/57.

Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And, anything else that comes with estrangement. And the result is living your passion and purpose! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contact