Hi love.

Have you ever felt like no one listens…until you lose it?

You ask calmly.
You explain clearly.
You regulate yourself.

And nothing changes.

But the moment you explode? Suddenly, everyone’s paying attention.

In this premium Behind the Mic episode, Tiffini, Joy, and I unpack the dynamic that hit a nerve in the office this morning:

Why do some systems only respond to anger?

We talk about:

– The pattern of suppressing anger to be the “good girl”
– The breaking point where suppression turns into explosion
– Why some partners (and kids) only respond when you’re dysregulated
– Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the war between your Manager and Firefighter parts
– The Anacardium pattern: “Everybody breaks.”
– How codependency is rooted in the refusal to feel
– Why leaning in feels scarier than leaning out
– The guilt that comes when you stop over-functioning
– Parenting from regulation instead of control
– And how to break generational suppression before it reaches your daughter’s Saturn return

We also explore a powerful truth:

Codependency isn’t just “doing too much.”

It’s:
“I don’t want to feel.
And I don’t want you to feel.”

And when feelings are suppressed long enough, rage becomes the only available language.

This episode is raw.
We talk about screaming fights.
Throwing clothes in the yard.
Village parenting.
Undoing 20 years of over-functioning.
And what it looks like to assume goodwill instead of defending.

If you’ve ever thought: “They only hear me when I’m angry,”
This conversation will help you understand why.

And more importantly, how to stop needing to break to be seen.

Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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You’re either eating everything in sight to numb the ache…
or staring at food like your body forgot how to be hungry.

Welcome to what so many women quietly call the divorce diet.

After divorce, your nervous system is on high alert. Grief, resentment, fear, and mental load don’t just affect your thoughts — they change your biology.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we unpack:

• Why cortisol and adrenaline shut digestion down — or drive intense sugar and carb cravings
• How heartbreak, betrayal, and chronic stress deplete specific organs in the body
• The Traditional Chinese Medicine organ–emotion connection (liver resentment, spleen worry, kidney fear, heart heartbreak, lung grief)
• Why therapy alone sometimes doesn’t “stick”
• And the nourishment layer most women are missing

This isn’t about willpower.
It’s not about discipline.
And it’s definitely not about another diet.

It’s about survival physiology.

Your body has been keeping the score — and it may be asking for deeper nourishment, not more control.

We also share a whole-food approach to rebuilding from the inside out using grass-fed beef organs, collagen, and colostrum — ancestral nutrients that support the exact systems divorce stress depletes.

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When the organs are nourished, resentment softens.
Worry quiets.
Energy returns.
And appetite stabilizes naturally — because your body finally feels safe again.

Divorce recovery is holistic — mind, body, spirit.

When we nourish the body, the spirit exhales.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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One line from Brené Brown’s Atlas of the Heart hit me like lightning during my own post-divorce unraveling—exposing the exact shame trigger I’d carried for years, the hidden identity fueling quiet resentment, self-criticism, and that exhausting push-pull of “too much” versus “not enough.”

In this powerful episode, I take you straight into the moment it landed (page 30, in the section on resentment), share the raw, tender answers that flooded in when I texted the question to my inner circle (“weak,” “bitch,” “lazy,” “fake,” “unmotivated”…), and walk through my own vulnerable evolution—from “too much or not enough” to fully owning “too much” as the big, intense, storm-cloud-and-sunshine truth of who I am.

Through a trauma-informed, spiritually grounded lens, we explore:

• How this single sentence stem reveals our deepest unwanted identity—the shame elicitor Brené says is the most powerful trigger.
• Why resentment after divorce often stems from failing to claim what we need, and how naming the fear (“It’s really important for me not to be perceived as…”) cracks open the door to radical self-acceptance.
• Somatic practices to locate the trigger in your body (that chest tightness, belly clench, or heat rising) and meet it with fierce compassion instead of more judgment.
• The spiritual invitation: transmuting the exiled parts (your intensity, your darkness, your bigness) into medicine—because divorce isn’t just loss; it’s the sacred threshold to reclaiming your full aliveness.

This isn’t passive listening—it’s an embodied exercise we do together. I guide you to answer the question in real time, feel what surfaces, and begin pouring love exactly where you’ve withheld it. The more we love the vulnerability we’ve feared, the clearer we become about who belongs in our next chapter… and who we lovingly release.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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Divorce isn’t just an ending—it’s a sacred disruption, a call to reclaim what’s been missing: true polarity, grounded masculine leadership, and the feminine surrender that lets you finally soften without losing yourself.

When I read GS Youngblood’s The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman, my nervous system exhaled. I felt seen in ways I hadn’t before. That instant somatic shift is why I brought GS on—to share the medicine that helped him rise from his own painful divorce and now helps men (and the women who love them) rewrite the story.

In this raw, heart-centered conversation, we explore:

• The divorce origin that ignited GS’s mission: protecting kids from fractured homes and ending the cycle of missing masculine leadership
• Why strong women often end up in toxic masculine patterns (anger, control, desperation) when polarity collapses—and how naming it creates instant safety in the body
• Masculine-feminine polarity decoded: clear lead/follow that reignites sacred juice in intimacy (beyond rigid gender roles)
• The Masculine Blueprint in action: life leadership (decisions, structure), sexual leadership (primal desire without entitlement), emotional leadership (holding space somatically)
• Why men resist (deep shame around "not enough")—and gentle, non-pressuring ways women can invite change: clean pain expression, no amplification from old wounds, refusing to fill the vacuum
• Somatic rewiring as the foundation: daily embodiment practices to quiet reactivity and cultivate spaciousness (years-long, but life-changing)
• Post-divorce dating discernment: spotting grounded masculine energy, owning your wild feminine sexuality without rushing, building devotion through slow courtship
• Mutual accountability: women reclaiming clean vulnerability and heart-led expression; men stepping into power that evokes trust, lust, and devotion

This is integrative medicine for the midlife soul—somatic, spiritual, relational. If divorce cracked you open and you’re ready to heal the patterns that led there (and attract what your feminine essence truly craves), this episode is your invitation.

Resources:

• The Masculine in Relationship → gsyoungblood.com/books (or Amazon link)

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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This is us. Moms who’ve lived it — sitting together having a real, unfiltered conversation about the one thing that keeps so many of us stuck: the feeling that it’s all so damn unfair.

We talked about the hard parts of co-parenting after divorce — the uneven load, the chronic illness with no support, the special-needs kids mostly on one parent’s shoulders, the guilt, the waiting for him to step up or see what he lost, the resentment that still flares even when we think we’ve done the work.

We named it all.

Then we went deeper.

We explored how that loud “it’s so unfair” story is often rooted in something quieter: an old belief that we’re not quite worthy, not quite enough, not safe unless someone else makes it right. We talked about the moment we realized we chose these men (the signs were there), how guilt can quietly turn us into over-functioning parents, and why acceptance doesn’t have to feel like giving up.

We also got honest about what finally started to move the needle for us: looking at the resentment in the body (especially the liver), using gentle homeopathic support to help clear what talk therapy alone sometimes can’t touch, and doing the slow work of reclaiming our own worth instead of waiting for fairness from the outside.

There were a few mic-drop moments. There was laughter. There were tears. And there was a lot of “oh… that’s why it’s been so hard to let go.”

If you’re tired of carrying the unfairness like a quiet weight in your chest every time you co-parent, this conversation might be the one that helps you see it differently — and finally feel some space around it.

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You keep it together.
Calm texts. Steady schedules. Polite handoffs.
But every time his car pulls up, your body betrays you: heart races, chest tightens, breath goes shallow.
That’s not just “leftover divorce stuff.” That’s anxiety living in your nervous system—and it’s been quietly growing every time you swallow the unfairness to stay the “bigger person.”

He’s got the new life.
You’re carrying the kids’ big feelings, the invisible load, the resentment no one thanks you for.
And the more you perform “fine” for everyone else, the more your own healing slips through your fingers.

Why does being the bigger person feel like slow self-betrayal?
Why does the anxiety keep coming back even when you’ve done “all the work”?
And what if the real shift isn’t more boundaries or better scripts… but something deeper that finally lets your body and spirit exhale?

In this episode, we go straight into:

• The hidden way “bigger person” energy keeps your nervous system braced
• How resentment and unfairness get stored somatically—and why that blocks real repair
• The quiet spiritual wound his moving-on keeps poking
• And the integrative path out that most people never talk about

You’ll get the truth that lands in your chest… and the curiosity to find out what “instead” actually feels like in your body.

If every handoff still leaves you raw, this is the episode that stops the performance and starts the real release.

Send me a DM and tell us: What’s the moment being the “bigger person” hurt the most? We read every one.

You don’t have to keep carrying it alone, love.
Press play. Your body’s been waiting.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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This Thursday, you’re invited into something sacred and real.

One of our most cherished community members — the one who shows up honest, even when life feels like a rocket ship up her ass — sat down with Coach Tiffini for a live, unfiltered IFS coaching session.

She came in carrying the familiar post-divorce exhaustion: extra work responsibilities dumped without warning, barely time to eat, resentment simmering… yet underneath it all, a new kind of calm she hadn’t felt in years.

What rose to the surface was a younger part of her — the 22-year-old still living in the apartment from her early marriage — who learned, over and over, that being fully herself meant blame, betrayal, and rejection.

A husband who punished her opinions.
A workplace that gave her impossible tasks, then asked “why did you do that?”
Years of choosing partners who offered scraps instead of the whole table.

So she adapted the only way a tender heart knows how: she started accepting less than she deserves. She shrank. She stayed quiet. She took the crumbs so she wouldn’t risk being told — again — that she’s “too much.”

In this session, we gently meet that part in her body (right in the heart space). We witness the loneliness she’s carried alone for decades. And we give her the words she’s been waiting to hear:

“You are not too much. Your voice, your boldness, your wild, beautiful energy — these are sacred gifts. The people who belong with you now will celebrate every inch of who you truly are.”

You’ll hear the somatic softening that happens when a protected part finally feels safe.
You’ll feel the spiritual re-parenting that begins when Self steps forward with love instead of management.

This episode is for every woman who’s walked through (or is still walking through) divorce and still notices herself:

• Saying yes to extra loads at work when her body is screaming no
• Staying in connections that offer half-hearted effort
• Quietly putting her own needs last… again

It’s the medicine of seeing how old rejection wounds don’t vanish when the marriage ends — they live on in patterns until we meet them with compassion.

Gentle invitations to carry into your week

• Where in your life are you still quietly accepting less than your full worth — in love, work, friendships, or your own body?
• What would it feel like to let the version of you who’s done settling speak one small, honest truth this week?
• Whisper (or write) to that younger part inside: “I see how hard you tried to keep us safe. I’m here now. I’ll stand up for what we deserve.”

This is the deep, integrative work we do together — somatic witnessing, spiritual truth-telling, layered healing that touches mind, body, and soul.

Premium only, because some conversations are too tender, too powerful, for the open feed.

And here’s the part that makes this space different: Premium members aren’t just listeners — you’re invited to be coached, andheld in the same loving container.

Come home to yourself.
We’re waiting with open arms. ❤️

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Hi, love—welcome to Dear Divorce Diary, where midlife women move beyond talk therapy to process grief held in the body, release what's braced inside, and reclaim the confidence divorce tried to steal. I’m Dawn Wiggins, therapist, coach, integrative healer, and the woman who once lay awake thinking, “I should feel better than this… but my body never got the memo.”

Toothpicks holding your eyelids open. Moving through molasses. Wired-tired even after more sleep, fewer spirals, all the supplements and rest hacks. The big scary thing is over, yet exhaustion lingers—rest lands on the surface but never reaches the cells. Why?

Because negative beliefs quietly program your nervous system to stay on high alert, and your body stays braced, unable to downshift and truly receive at a cellular level.

In today’s episode, we name the two hidden drivers of post-divorce exhaustion that won’t quit:

• The beliefs silently fueling chronic fatigue (even when life “should” feel lighter)
• The body patterns reinforcing the brace—and why gentle somatic-spiritual shifts are essential to let rest land
• Real stories of pausing to process dysregulation in real time (no performative bullshit, just remedies, tears, and grace)
• How receiving support—without apology—builds the capacity you’ve been craving

This isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about softening protector parts, reprogramming at the belief and neural level, and inviting layered homeopathic harmony to amplify your body’s natural recharge.

If this stirred something deep in your chest, join premium for $5/month: exclusive tools, our February 23rd live workshop on receiving as the key to healing, and the full ritual that makes shifts cellular.

Resources & Links:

• Free Nervous System Divorce Recovery Quiz → Discover your pattern in under 2 minutes.
• Join Cocoon (free community on Heartbeat) → Your sisters are holding space.
• Premium Subscription → Deeper integration + exclusives.
• Dawn Wiggins Therapy → High-ticket EMDR-homeopathy hybrid sessions.

Drop a review if this resonated—it helps other midlife women find us when they’re drowning in the same ache. Send your wins—we love reading them aloud.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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