Why Are We Yelling?

The Art of Productive Disagreement

De: Buster Benson

Narrado por: Buster Benson

Duración: 5 h y 56 m

Resumen del Editor

Have you ever walked away from an argument and suddenly thought of all the brilliant things you wish you'd said? Do you avoid certain family members and colleagues because of bitter, festering tension that you can't figure out how to address?

Now, finally, there's a solution: a new framework that frees you from the trap of unproductive conflict and pointless arguing forever.

If the threat of raised voices, emotional outbursts, and public discord makes you want to hide under the conference room table, you're not alone. Conflict, or the fear of it, can be exhausting. But as this powerful book argues, conflict doesn't have to be unpleasant. In fact, properly channeled, conflict can be the most valuable tool we have at our disposal for deepening relationships, solving problems, and coming up with new ideas.

As the mastermind behind some of the highest-performing teams at Amazon, Twitter, and Slack, Buster Benson spent decades facilitating hard conversations in stressful environments. In this book, Buster reveals the psychological underpinnings of awkward, unproductive conflict and the critical habits anyone can learn to avoid it. Armed with a deeper understanding of how arguments, you'll be able to:

• Remain confident when you're put on the spot
• Diffuse tense moments with a few strategic questions
• Facilitate creative solutions even when your team has radically different perspectives

Why Are We Yelling? will shatter your assumptions about what makes arguments productive. You'll find yourself having fewer repetitive, predictable fights once you're empowered to identify your biases, listen with an open mind, and communicate well.

©2019 Buster Benson (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

"This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better." (Seth Godin, author of This Is Marketing)

“This clever, empowering book shows how conflict can be a source of growth, intrigue, and joy. Buster Benson unveils a new framework for arguing that helps you understand your biases and show other people theirs in a non-confrontational way. This is the perfect book at the perfect time to bring some sanity back into disagreements.” (Annie Duke, author of Thinking in Bets)

"Buster Benson turns everything you know about arguing on its head. Before reading this book, I never thought I’d be looking forward to my next disagreement. Productive disagreeing is the most underrated life skill you can build." (Ev Williams, CEO of Medium, partner at Obvious Ventures, cofounder of Twitter)

Good read

In arguments... you're trying to realise what you don't know. win or lose doesnt matter

I would argue this should be common sense

I don't think it was a bad book, but as I have always had an open mind to issues, this book wasn't for me. Maybe someone who has a hard time listening to others could benefit from it.

Already changing my life!

I’ve been struggling at work with a conflict and this book put so many things into perspective and gave me the framework to experiment with my disagreements. Love it get it it’s amazing!!!!

Great content - with some clutter

I sense this is a clear passion project for Mr Benson, and I hope this review comes off as constructive. My initial interpretation of the books intention was a business oriented self help arc, and I believe this in reality has a much broader scope. The content is great. There is truly magnificent advice offered in identifying different perspectives, your own biases and triggers, and developing a constructive path through managing both the obvious conflicts in life and the more subtle ones. However, I had two hurdles that made it difficult to really engage with some content. 1) the performance of the audio seemed as if the author was reading his own book. I didn’t get the passion that I am sure he needed in writing it. The passion that he describes in some of his analogies did not come through. Bringing me to the second part 2) the stories and analogies that were used to lead into his core content fluctuated from extreme polarized generalities in one moment (anxiety from death and divorce), and his next piece of content was illustrated by a highly specific personal experience that I had difficulty relating to (2016 election reactions). I highly agree with the outline of Buster’s content and core principles and applaud that. I also hope this review isn’t like ordering a Guinness and then saying I don’t like dark beer. Best wishes Mr Benson.

Interesting Topic But Unrealistic

I found the book to be just, "okay". I commend the author for trying to tackle a difficult, yet very relevant subject in the modern world. However, I found the book to create more questions for me than practical solutions. An example of this issue is with the author's own personal journey towards better dialogue with varying points of view. The author conducts pot luck dinner discussions around controversial topics, has his guests participate in controlled debates, and seeks to uncover solutions to controversial topics (and does so somewhat successfully). The problem is, this approach is not rooted in reality. There are very serious problems in the world, but I felt that the author assumes that all parties involved in the debate are intelligent, rationale, and good natured people who want to improve humanity. That to me is not reality, though. In my own personal experiences, I have met some very intelligent, but extremely combative and irrational people (and occasionally the opposite). No amount of facts, dialogue, or open communication techniques enable progress. In many cases, it was just healthier to move on.

Required reading. Seriously read this book.

I feel some hope and have a methodology to get conversions going again using the ideas Buster presents. if you dread conversations and encounters there is hope herein.

good start but...

The author should have used an editor to sharpen the story after the first good chapters.

We should seek to understand

There was an interesting example the author used about disagreement. He asked people if they thought a glass of water would go stale after a day. There were people who argued vehemently on both sides (based on what they believed would happen with water in a day). This led me to think about how often people argue rather than seek out information to gain a better understanding of the topic.

It was ok

I liked how it started, towards the end, it felt like it was bouncing all over the place on different topics. Lost me after chapter 5.

I hope to see more books from this writer

more books like this are needed in a world where so many conversations become polarized, then arguments.