To Be Loved

A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation

De: Frank G. Anderson MD

Narrado por: Frank G. Anderson

Rarely does a trauma therapist disclose their own trauma history...yet it's the untold, brutally honest, incredibly heartbreaking story of Dr. Frank Anderson that made him the world-renowned trauma expert he is today.

Known for his magnetic and radiant personality, Frank spends his time training thousands of clinicians around the world on how to help clients with complex trauma make sense of their suffering. But underneath this charismatic exterior are his dark family secrets, including the marks of child abuse from his father and the invisible scars of shame.

In To Be Loved, Frank shares his confusing experience of growing up an outsider in a typical Midwestern Italian American home that was at one turn fiercely loving, but at the same time unaccepting, abusive, and rife with secrets.

After enduring six years of therapy as a child in the 1970s, he was programmed to be something that he wasn't for decades, and became driven to create the perfect life—until it all fell apart.

It was only then that he realized resilience, forgiveness, and facing his trauma were the keys to living an authentic life—and finally knowing what it feels like to be loved.

©2024 Frank G. Anderson (P)2024 Tantor

Masterfully written and narrated.

The message, while not identical, was easy to apply to my life's generational trauma and Cptsd. Im a huge fan of Bessel vanDerkulk The body keeps the score and Richard Schwartz IFS and alignment was unmistakable and beautifully written.

Indeed, a great book!

For some reason, the first chapters didn’t sit well with me. I sensed a lack of authenticity and perhaps constriction in the story. I have C-PTSD and somehow I couldn’t relate to this book. I was thinking about not wasting my precious time and return it but I’m thrilled I didn’t.

No spoilers, but a big opening changed everything and made me realize that what I sensed on the previous chapters made sense. From there on, I found the book so relatable and precious. I wonder how those chapters would read if that opening came earlier…

It’s stunning how Frank navigated and negotiated the turmoil with his complicated family dynamics, plus the integration of his personal life and finding his own healing and authenticity.

This story definitely warms my heart and gives me hope, but at the same time it frightens me. Not everyone has the resources and capacity to move through such upbringings. Of course I’m still processing and absorbing parts of this book. For sure, re-listening is a must.

Frank, thanks for shining your light. I too love Frankie.

Beautiful soul

Dr. Anderson provides a courageous, honest, gracious telling of his story. He is a beautiful soul and I’d highly recommend the book.

A beautiful memoir!

Frank Anderson’s memoir is authentic, powerful, and captivating. He is a true story teller. I thank him for his profound vulnerability and truth telling. He shows us that healing is possible. This book is a true gift to the world! I can’t wait to listen to it again.

The importance of healing in a complex family dynamic

I Loved the book. Found it very relatable. I have a very similar family dynamic. Listening to the book was very healing for me ❤️

Oh my heart.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I see my reflected in it and it helps me to continue my journey into healing and I feel proud of myself.
Thank you again!

A Beatiful Memory for me on the Beach

I listened to this book while enjoying the beach this summer 2024. I laughed at many moments that were similar to my recollections of living in a large Italian American family as the oldest daughter of five! I had tears at moments that showed a beautiful tender vulnerability and story of lived experiences and I celebrated the moments of personal triumph and joy. I loved this book and its message that love heals trauma…

a brilliant memoir

That's a impressive memoir, filled with hope and insights. it's not too triggering, but really engaging

Vulnerable

An amazing, vulnerable memoir. I recently completed a four month training by him and wanted to hear his story! Well done and respectful! Thank you Dr. Anderson for sharing your life!

Open candid heartfelt

The author did a great job reading his own book. He is open and honest about his life experience and I felt honored to hear it.