Change Your Questions, Change Your Future

Overcome Challenges and Create a New Vision for Your Life Using the Principles of Solution Focused Brief Therapy

De: Elliott E. Connie, Adam S. Froerer

Narrado por: Elliott E. Connie, Adam S. Froerer

A practical and hopeful guide that teaches you how to ask yourself the right questions in order to create a new vision for your future.

What outcome do you want from reading this book?
What difference would it make if you could attain it?
How would you notice the change it made in your life?

The questions we ask ourselves are powerful tools that can change the trajectory of our lives. In this practical and hopeful guide, psychotherapist Elliot Connie and Adam Froerer, teach that getting honest and asking yourself the right questions enables you to create a new vision for your future that is hopeful and full of previously unimagined possibility. Your actions and beliefs will then align with your new vision as you employ the tips, strategies, and practices that can be turned to time and time again in a variety of situations.

Using case studies, success stories, and the latest research in the field of SFBT, listeners are given the tools, knowledge, and confidence to apply SFBT principles that will shift their perspective, retrain their brain, and change their relationship to their future.

This audio product contains a PDF with supporting material, and the PDF is available to download.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2024 Elliott E. Connie (P)2024 Hay House LLC

Great Book

Exactly what I was looking for. This book highlights a different angle when it comes to overcoming life trauma and setting goals. Loved it

Love their approach. Not a fan of the book.

I thought I would pick up this book after following Elliott and Adam on YouTube for a while. I am a clinical mental health therapist who uses a more solution-oriented lens, though leaning more into ACT and IFS for my methods. I often find the books aimed at the non-clinical reader better at conveying the essence of a therapy modality than the ones written for clinicians. So I thought I would start with this book before looking at their more clinically-oriented ones or some of their trainings.

While I like the ideas presented in the book, I found its execution hard to muddle through. So I'll try to balance pros and cons.

Pros:
Adam and Elliott's approach not only offers a different take on self-development and therapy, which is often focused around our perceived problems and shortcomings, common to SFBT but adds tweaks to the SFBT approach. Their shift from goals as the focus of the original version of SFBT to outcomes is great. I was already gravitating toward a more nuanced version of ACT that aligns with this - focused more on the identity you want to create and assume rather than simply what techniques do you need to learn to make the choices you want to make. Change Your Questions, Change Your Future presents a similar concept nicely.

Cons:
While the book presents this new approach to development and therapy, it does so in a way that, IMO, got muddled in way too many personal stories by the authors. That is not to say personal stories are bad, but leaning so heavily on the personal experiences of the two authors compared to case studies from clients is kind of like doing research with two test subjects then applying that to a larger population. While their stories were relevant to them and somewhat relevant to their approach to SFBT, it often seemed like the hows and whys of the model got lost in the stories. The few case studies or examples involving clients in the book were often better articulated in ways that I, as the reader, could see how their model could be applied in my own life as well as the work with my clients.

Sometimes it's hard to describe how to do something when you have done it for yourself for so long that it becomes second nature. I have no doubt Elliott and Adam can articulate their ideas well, since they do so often in their videos. But in leaning so heavily on their own personal stories and life experiences, I think they presented accounts that were too close to the subject matter to keep the focus on clear communication of their ideas. If nothing else, I would have liked to have read more accounts relevant to their clients to see how they applied their model with different people for a more diverse representation of how their approach can be used.

The other con, and this was just a personal gripe, was there was way too much religion in there. While I respect the authors' beliefs and spirituality, I just got tired of hearing them talk about their personal faith or saying something like "God has a purpose for you." As a non-Christian, I'm used to the Christian overculture saturating much of what is out there and overall ignore it as long as it's not trying to force itself down my throat. But it started coming up in the book enough that it became tiresome.

Overall, the book is a decent introduction. I plan to tread one of their other, more clinical books, next and suspect I'll find that a better read. It's not a bad read, but go into it being aware that you will largely be reading about the authors' experiences and lives than clear discussions of how this model can be incorporated into your own life. It's more like reading an autobiography and taking lessons from that than a guide or theoretical approach.

Loved it

They did a great job summarizing SFBT and making it accessible to regular people. Really inspiring stuff!

fantastic

some overlap in stories and lessons from their previous diamond method book, but an expertly well put together book. the overlap was a welcome reminder. the attached PDF was very much appreciated and will inform my private practice.

A Powerful Read

Elliott’s and Adam’s passion for SFBT and the seeing good in all people comes through in every part of this book. Just listening to their belief in the process and ability for people to make positive changes in their lives, inspired me to start making some needed changes in my life.

Life changing, I’ve already listened to it twice

This book, if you listen to it with an open mind and open heart will shift you towards a positive direction in your life. I love that it is clear and actionable. The actions are simple yet highly effective. In my opinion, it should be read by all humans who want to improve their life. I am so grateful for this book. Thank you Elliot and Adam for writing this book. You have officially become immortal and I know this book will change millions, oops billions of people’s lives!