The best leaders know how to communicate clearly and persuasively. How do you stack up? Leading experts such as Deborah Tannen, Jay Conger, and Nick Morgan provide the insights and advice you need.
Dr. Tannen illustrates how the best intentions can go painfully awry between spouses, family members, co-workers and friends. With You Just Don't Understand, you'll recognize yourself and your own efforts to be understood - and gain valuable insight to help you communicate better.
The following series of lectures draws on linguistics, or the scientific study of language, to show the many ways in which language has a profound effect upon human relationships. These lectures address the various aspects and implications of what Professor Tannen calls "conversational style". It also looks at the dynamics of specific situations such as the workplace and classroom where the role of conversational style is of particular importance.
"Helpful Perceptions, not Scienctic Study"
It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language, but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own.
"A little more clarity -"
You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.
"Insightful, As Always"
"My goal in this series, in addition to illuminating the patterns of women's and men's uses of language, is to enhance understanding of how language works in everyday life. I am told by students who have taken my courses that this understanding helps them in their everyday lives, as every aspect of our lives involves talking to people of the other sex - in our personal relationships, our families, at work, and in trying to get just about anything done."
"Kind of revelatory, at least for me"
Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic - even when we're all adults. Searching for signs of acceptance, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism? In I Only Say This Because I Love You, Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages.
This best selling audio program has revolutionized the way men and women talk and listen to each other - at home, at work, and wherever the communications gap between the sexes can lead to troublesome misunderstandings.
You say something at a meeting and it is ignored; then when someone else says the same thing, everyone embraces it as a marvelous idea. You devote yourself to a project, but don't get credit for the results. You give what you think are clear instructions, but the job is not done, or done wrong.... Now, Deborah Tannen brings to the workplace the same voice, eye, and insight that made That's Not What I Meant! and You Just Don't Understand best-selling classics.
"Points out the problem but no solutions offered"
New York Times best-selling author Deborah Tannen is renowned for illuminating the way we communicate - and revolutionizing relationships in the process. What she did for women and men in You Just Don't Understand, and mothers and daughters in You're Wearing THAT?, she now does for sisters in a groundbreaking book that explores one of the most powerful and perplexing relationships in our lives.
"A must read/listen for anyone with a sister!"
"Our Impossible Expectations of Hillary Clinton and All Women in Authority" is from the Opinion section of The Washington Post. It was written by Deborah Tannen and narrated by Sam Scholl.
From the best selling author of You Just Don't Understand comes another groundbreaking examination of the way we communicate - in public, in the media, in politics, in our courtrooms and classrooms - letting us see in a new way forces that are powerfully shaping our lives.
""You're Wearing That?""
Deborah Tannen, author of the best seller about women and men You Just Don't Understand, here tackles the mother-daughter relationship. She discusses ways to communicate with family members and improve your most passionate relationships. Tannen is also the author of I Only Say This Because I Love You, You're Wearing That? Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation, and That's Not What I Meant!. She is a professor of linguistics at Georgetown University....
Fighting with your spouse? Scolding the children? Conflicting with your siblings? Linguist Deborah Tannen explains what's actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control. For more on understanding communication, we recommend Difficult Conversations.
"Sounded like she knew my family!"
Tonight on the program, guest host Lesley Stahl interviews Deborah Tannen, professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.”
We continue with an update on the 2016 Presidential race with Anthony Salvanto, CBS News elections director.