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The Way I Used to Be Audiobook

The Way I Used to Be

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Publisher's Summary

In the tradition of Speak, this extraordinary debut novel shares the unforgettable story of a young woman as she struggles to find strength in the aftermath of an assault.

Eden was always good at being good. Starting high school didn't change who she was. But the night her brother's best friend rapes her, Eden's world capsizes.

What was once simple is now complex. What Eden once loved - who she once loved - she now hates. What she thought she knew to be true is now lies. Nothing makes sense anymore, and she knows she's supposed to tell someone what happened, but she can't. So she buries it instead. And she buries the way she used to be.

Told in four parts - freshman, sophomore, junior, and senior years - this provocative debut reveals the deep cuts of trauma. But it also demonstrates one young woman's strength as she navigates the disappointment and unbearable pains of adolescence, of first love and first heartbreak, of friendships broken and rebuilt, while learning to embrace a power of survival she never knew she had hidden within her heart.

©2016 Amber Smith (P)2016 Simon & Schuster, Inc.

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    Amber Rae San Francisco, CA 09-10-16
    Amber Rae San Francisco, CA 09-10-16 Member Since 2014

    I'm a clinical psychology doctorate student. I love to read a good romance or ya novel to escape from the everyday stresses of life.

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    "Rough but Rewarding Read"
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    This book is not the easiest to finish due to the emotional content. I remember taking it in smaller doses when it got to be too much. Other times, I took large doses and stayed up till 6 in the morning. Overall, I was really moved by this book. It brought me back in time to when the popular, older girls would hang in the bathroom in high school and put their make-up on in the mirror. It brought back memories of being a freshman living in my first college dorm. Alas, it was hard to sit and wait for her to finally be able to tell someone she was raped, but the book was worthwhile.

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    K. Moore 03-26-16
    K. Moore 03-26-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Unbearable"
    What did you like best about The Way I Used to Be? What did you like least?

    That Eden finally told someone. The fact that it portrayed a girl of 14 having sex ,this book showed how rape can destroy. This book could have ended 3 hrs earlier.


    Has The Way I Used to Be turned you off from other books in this genre?

    not sure


    Which scene was your favorite?

    When she finally opens her mouth and tells


    Do you think The Way I Used to Be needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

    No


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    B. J. Neary Oreland, PA USA 07-29-16
    B. J. Neary Oreland, PA USA 07-29-16 Member Since 2015

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    "The Way I Used to Be by Amber Smith"
    If you could sum up The Way I Used to Be in three words, what would they be?

    LOVE GONE BAD


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Way I Used to Be?

    This story about rape and its effects on a freshman in high school was a sucker punch readers will not be able to escape. Rebekkah Ross's narration of this audiobook was compelling; the voices Ross used for Eden, her friends and family were so good I did not want to stop listening! Eden is young for her age and nerdy. One night she is savagely raped by her brother's best friend, Kevin Armstrong, whom Eden idolized. As the reader follows Eden through high school, we see her terror (Kevin threatened to kill her if she told anyone & he said no one would believe her), self loathing, and descent into a life of self harm (she sleeps around, is rude and mean to her friends, she turns on her brother and parents, drinking and drugs). It was so distressing to see this young girl who was full of life and hope become angry, isolated, and desperate (Eden keeps pushing down the incident). I rooted for her to trust someone with the truth and for her rapist to burn in hell. Amber Smith gives the horrifying statistics about rape in her Author Notes- rape doesn't just destroy the victim and so many times it goes unreported, why is this? This story does a stellar job of getting into a victim's head and heart. Every school should have this book in their library and all teens MUST read this raw and compelling book!


    What does Rebekkah Ross bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    Ross's narration made Eden such a prisoner and her descent into a life of hook-ups was crushing


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    When Eden finally tells the truth


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    Heather 07-12-16
    Heather 07-12-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Raw and stunning"

    This book was, in so many ways, such an honest and humble account of a girls trials and turbulent ions through something that so many people have experienced. The dialogue was so believable and the internal dialogue almost allows you to believe hat it's your own thoughts. I am blown away by how excellent this novel is and look forward to reading many more books by Amber Smith.

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    Betty L. Ross 07-10-16 Member Since 2016
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    "The Way I Used To Be"

    This was a very difficult book to listen to, full of raw emotion and desperation. It was well done, and I encourage people to read or listen to it, to gain an understanding and sensitivity to what rape victims as well as their family and friends experience. The writer and narrator put me into the character's mind, her "skin", I actually felt her sense of loss and hopelessness. There is also a measure of resolution to the story, which leaves the listener a sense of hope for the future. Well done.

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    Jen 04-18-16
    Jen 04-18-16
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    "Beautifully frustrating"

    It was beautifully frustrating. Heart breaking and so well written... It was hard to stop listening once you started.

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    jenny 04-16-16
    jenny 04-16-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Magnificent"

    This was sad and so very real. Rape is so damaging no matter how old a woman is when it happens. Is take only minutes and effects the life of a woman for years. It is amazing how many we an it happens to and they never tell anyone because they feel they will be blamed themselves or they will be hurt.

    This book was well written and well narrated. All the feelings were there. I'm glad she did what she did in the end.

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    seclusionrecords 04-11-16
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    "Best YA I've read in years!"

    This is the best young adult novel I've read in a long time. Gripping, compelling, and realistic.

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    Amazon Customer 04-10-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Hard to read, but didn't stop tell it ended"

    Tears, tears, tears. Good story that everyone should hear. Everyone needs to understand the fear that she felt for so long.

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    Jo Martinsville, VA, United States 04-01-16
    Jo Martinsville, VA, United States 04-01-16
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    "One of the best books I've ever read"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    If they want to understand what it means to experience sexual trauma, then yes.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Way I Used to Be?

    Character's description of how she tried to overcome the experience of rape by forcing herself to have sex and eventually becoming promiscuous. This made sense of a phenomenon that on the surface of it, makes no sense.


    Have you listened to any of Rebekkah Ross’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    no


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

    .


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