The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
©2008 Dr. Karyl McBride (P)2011 Tantor
"The author provides parenting tips as well as advice on maintaining healthy love relationships and friendships." (Publishers Weekly)
My mother is an addict who is also self absorbed. I was neglected so much as a child that depression became my best friend. I thought I was damaged and the crazy one. My mom never supported anything I did including school stuff. She would buy me expensive dresses that she couldn't afford instead of money for books. (She always took credit for my looks, which of course I rebelled and hurt myself by gaining weight to try to individualize myself. Sooo Unhealthy I know) I waitressed starting at 15 to 25 to put myself through school. When I got into UCLA my mom wouldn't even visit the campus despite living an hour away. I had to stop talking to her for months till she even came to my graduation. (She was grumpy and critical the entire time that it ruined the special day that I had worked so hard for.) I'm looking forward to working the steps in chapter 11+ to heal. I'm done with having low self esteem, narcissistic bfs, self destructive habits, and not knowing who I am. I choose to be my authentic, healthy self and live my life the way I WANT because this is MY LIFE. Life is a gift and I choose to honor it that way without the negativity and numbness i was raised in.
i swear i wanted to speed through this book to find the answers i needed but she was calling out my life and it was painful but necessary. its like she knows me and she knows my mom to a T. i cant help but to feel like wow i am not crazy. i recently separated from my mom and it hasn't been easy for her to accept that, but now i know i am not wrong.
this book offers real step by step instructions for how to recover. it's not just a book of stories or a book that you can identify. it actually tells you what steps to take, when to take them and examples of how to do so successfully. Very good! I am in the recovery stage now and this book is helping. I really like that the speaker was calm. I also like how in the book she discusses that sometimes you may have to repeat some steps and it natural. also how she gives examples on how to deal with your mother's reactions as well as assessing your relationships with friends and significant others. very well thought out. glad I listened to it!
Dr. McBride has great info, but her voice is so gentle that I found I couldn't really concentrate and was lulled by it.
One of the most HELPFUL, insightful, intuitive and honest books I've ever read. To have the privilege of having the book in both audible and tangible form was of greatest benefit. Like having a therapist on call 24/7. Understanding my need to reference the book until I become stronger, I'm happy to know I am not alone in my experience.
I had just briefly learned of NPD through a friend - both of us suffering from Moms with NPD - and was amazed at how incredibly revolutionary and helpful this book was. Karyl's experience as a therapist, child of a NPD mother, and mother made the advice that much more authentic. Her voice as a narrator is also so soothing and calming. My sister also listened to this book. We are going through the healing and recovery process, but already feel so much relief and realization having gone through this book.
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