The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
©2008 Dr. Karyl McBride (P)2011 Tantor
"The author provides parenting tips as well as advice on maintaining healthy love relationships and friendships." (Publishers Weekly)
Excellent clarification if you're wondering "Is this my mother?" She takes you on a clear mental bus ride of how you ended up with negative, self-defeating thought patterns and habits. She gently guides you in setting yourself free of these but without blaming or bashing your mom. Hers is a diplomatic, knowledge-is-power approach.
I found this book incredibly eye opening and helpful. As the daughter of a narcissistic mother, it was comforting to hear that I was not alone in feeling as I do - but it was also very healing. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who suspects they have a parent that is narcissistic.
I feel so much better after this book, after struggling my whole life wondering if I would ever be good enough. I really like the advice on how to heal and have healthy relationships with others, including my mother. I highly recommend this book.
I've sent this book to 4 people. it and its contents have changed our family. particularly the relationship with my older sister. THANK YOU!
The beginning of the book seems promising, but over time I realized that this book is almost religious in it's nature. I don't mean that it is Christian. I mean that it feels more like a list of her opinions than something based on real science.
Many of her readers might choose to agree with her, and that is fine. But the problem I have with the book, is that the writer doesn't take the time to really convince me of her viewpoint. She seems to assume that because she has a Ph.D, everybody will just take anything she says as gospel. Never mind that the social sciences have the poorest reputation in all of academia.
This book has helped me understand myself and grow as a person. I am so,so thankful to have stumbled upon it. I would recommend this book to any woman who feels incomplete and who has always had a rocky relationship with her mother, but never knew why. Wow!
My mother is an addict who is also self absorbed. I was neglected so much as a child that depression became my best friend. I thought I was damaged and the crazy one. My mom never supported anything I did including school stuff. She would buy me expensive dresses that she couldn't afford instead of money for books. (She always took credit for my looks, which of course I rebelled and hurt myself by gaining weight to try to individualize myself. Sooo Unhealthy I know) I waitressed starting at 15 to 25 to put myself through school. When I got into UCLA my mom wouldn't even visit the campus despite living an hour away. I had to stop talking to her for months till she even came to my graduation. (She was grumpy and critical the entire time that it ruined the special day that I had worked so hard for.) I'm looking forward to working the steps in chapter 11+ to heal. I'm done with having low self esteem, narcissistic bfs, self destructive habits, and not knowing who I am. I choose to be my authentic, healthy self and live my life the way I WANT because this is MY LIFE. Life is a gift and I choose to honor it that way without the negativity and numbness i was raised in.
i swear i wanted to speed through this book to find the answers i needed but she was calling out my life and it was painful but necessary. its like she knows me and she knows my mom to a T. i cant help but to feel like wow i am not crazy. i recently separated from my mom and it hasn't been easy for her to accept that, but now i know i am not wrong.
Dr. McBride has great info, but her voice is so gentle that I found I couldn't really concentrate and was lulled by it.
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