Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
©2005 Gary Chapman; (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC
" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)
I am a chaplain and speak with a lot of people. I have found myself recommending this book more than any other. The books is not a list of techniques used to manipulate people. It is a discussion about how to truly serve others in the way they want to be served. We often serve others in the way that we would like to be served. Then, we wonder why they don’t respond. Dr. Chapman helps us to overcome this mistake and discover the means by which our spouses and children like to receive love. Throughout the book, he also gives us practical advice on how to fulfill those needs.
The fundamentals are especially helpful in marital and family relationships and can be applied, in a limited manner to casual relationships as well.
One should not be surprised that the book has distinctly Christian worldview. It is published by Oasis. I do not know of a book they publish that is not distinctly Christian.
In one word, amazing! I will make this honest & to the point. As I am Australian we kind of like our info served straight up and no beating around the bush. I get tired of reading reviews that sound over the top of many peoples heads & those that make you wonder if they were paid to write it. Let me tell you this, from start to finish this guy knows his stuff. These Love languages Dr Chapman talks about transcend culture & speech language. They would work for anyone, anywhere in the world that has a desire to seek more from their partnership and is willing to listen. Dont let his funky southern accent put you off, it will actually endear you to him as you grow to admire his insights and find your own penny dropping inside. Everything he said made sense, plain english and would apply to everyone's situation whether married, in a relationship or not. Its real info that can be used to reopen and then keep the channels of communication open between partners. Also info that will make giving & receiving love as well as being lovable so much easier. It doesnt focus so much on the differences between men and women like in the Mars Venus Series of John Gray but more on the WAY we love. It explains why those suggestions you get in magazines dont always work so well. SO refreshing and info that I didnt even know I needed! Our marriage was in a rut & I can honestly say that when trying some suggestions from the book my husband immediately responded. He even wanted to listen to the book with me and we disussed things as we listened. It has brought us so much closer and helped us to connect again while learning more about ourselves and each other. We plan to go further with our "reading" as we have a new hobby, listening to books together. I hope Dr Chapman will keep writing! Thanks Dr!
My wife and I discovered this book about eight years ago. It is a practical book that touches on a problem most couples experience - different ways of expressing love. Dr. Chapman is equally funny and brilliant on his exposition of the love languages. I have successfully used and practiced the principles he teach in his book not only in my marriage but with dozens of couples I have mentored. It works! Speaking the love language of your spouse will take your marriage to new heights or revive the relationship you're in. Read it and apply it.
This is a great book. I have the print copy, but found it difficult for my long time fiance and myself to find time to read it together - the audiobook was a great answer. Dr. Chapman's work on the five love languages is insightful and helps us to realize just why some things that are so simple and basic to us, may not be understood by our mate. When miscommunication occurs, you can sometimes be left wondering, "who is this person I am with?" but a look into the five love languages can really help identify these issues and Dr. Chapman gives suggestions on how to work through them together - all the while loving each other BETTER! =) I definitely recommend this book to anyone who has ever felt confused about relationships, whether it be with family, friends, or significant others. Who is NOT in this category? =) So many relationship books seem like so much reading and not enough action ... or just so much work ... or just fluff. But this is NOT work, it is not fluff, and it is not words without action. It is great knowledge that you can begin to apply TODAY. I also think Dr. Chapman's narration of the book was excellent - you can really hear the sincerity of his voice, and the excitement he evokes when telling his stories. I will especially point out a part in the book we loved - when he talks about vacuuming the house, how he hated it as a kid and how he never thought he'd have to do that as a grown-up - but he now HAPPILY does it weekly for his wife, and in his words, "There is only one reason: L-O-V-E!"
Though a lot of the information in this book is pretty much common sense, this book shines by explaining what common sense seems to leave out. We all feel love in different ways, and we need to give and receive love in the ways that work best for us. Well read and informative. Could have used a bit more info on how to get around some of the hurdles that will likely crop up when trying to follow-through on this books teachings.
The other reviews I read made me think this would be full of great insights. I had to fast forward through the first part, which was a long, self-congratulatory interview with the author. The five languages were no big surprise - kind words, gift-giving, service, touching, and quality time. All five are good things to do for your loved ones. I'd call this a case of Expando Publishing - taking what should be a brochure or flyer and expanding it into a full length book.
This book flows nicely, is narrated pleasantly, and contains enough good information to justify the time. It is not the definitive work on communications in relationships, but it is one more perspective that should be considered. While the author gives five approaches to better communicate with your partner, the real crux of the biscuit is that it helps you actually look at your partners wants and needs. This is one of a hundred ways to skin a cat, but it is a valid way and a good addition to your repertoire. And, a very pleasant listen.
I might, under the right circumstances.
I might, under the right circumstances.
There's some wisdom in there.
This book is about 25% heavy-handed religious rhetoric, 25% folksy nonsense, and 25% outright B.S. But the remaining 25% is genuinely insightful, interesting, and helpful. If you're willing to dig through the muddy presentation, there are some wonderful nuggets of wisdom.
This book is the perfect compliment to any marriage, but extends even further. It helps you relate and understand your children, parents and friends even better too. I bought the book too, so I could apply the principles and take the tests.
"Eye opening and a must try for all couples"
5 million people resonated with this. You cannot get wrong about it. I have just started to try the principles, and although I have to admit being skeptic in the beginning by the time I made it to the end I had bought in. Many thanks Dr Chapman for doing such a master piece for the well being of so many couples and people in the world.
"Such incredible insight"
every line of this book gives incredible insight into your own relationships
great narrative style, as the combined author/narrator, can put his original intended emotion into the audiobook
damaged relationships can always be repaired
a must read
"its a great book."
i really like this book. it help me in understanding my relationship and where it went wrong. my friend recommend me the hardcopy and happy I found it in audible.
"Inspiring talk from a human experience"
This book inspired me to think in a major part of our live
Although still i think there a lot of things that still not covered in husband and wife relation ships.
"Great book for relationships, really helpful."
This book gives really great advice and has really helped my husband and I to understand each other better. The only down sides are the sometimes heavy religious content and the authors somewhat strong southern states accent, which I found occasionally distracting from the actual content.
"Every engaged couple should be given this book"
Then we would see a turn around of divorces. Every Mother In Law should buy one for their engaged couple before they get married. A superb book with great verbal illustrations on how marriages have changed.
"this is so enlightening a must read for any couple"
easy to listen to and very interesting, can't wait to listen to the next book...
In years to come, this will be just accepted as common knowledge. It ought to be, because it's so useful.
A marriage counsellor of many years, Dr Chapman has recognised these patterns of basic emotional need. And it is just that: need; usefully distilling his findings into this book, and identifying these needs as "love languages".
Some of the stories brought me close to tears. Others, laughter. The magical part is the healing that Dr Chapman has brought to thousands of people and the amazing part is that it's pretty simple stuff once it's pointed out. Even when one partner is uninterested and stubborn, the technique can still be employed. This is special stuff.
Here is wisdom which can be applied practically to enable you to make more from your most important human relationship. It is a very good answer to the question "what is love" in usable and applicable terms.
"I wish I had read this book 5 years ago."
I'm giving this to all my friends to listen to or read. Singles, Children and Teens; you're up next.
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