Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!
©2005 Gary Chapman; (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC
" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)
I'm a writer and a yoga teacher with a Masters in English Literature.
I was wary of the self-help title of the book, but got really turned off when I found out about the extreme American Christianity of the writer. I felt like he was going to sell me something at the end. Maybe my soul back from the devil who stole it.
The narrator was appropriate, he had kind of a Texas accent, adding to the American Everyman vibe I think the book was trying to go for, so I think that was probably a good thing. If you like that sort of thing.
Discomfort and boredom. I like the principle of the book, and perhaps I could have learned something from it if I didn't get so turned off by the gee-golly innocent Christian-ness of the narrator. It just didn't sound like reality. My love tank for this book is empty.
If you are Christian and get something out of self help books, if you think they actually help you and are not a cynical lapsed Christian like me, you might actually enjoy this book and learn something from it. Still, I thought his examples of the things people were going through made the people going through it seem kind of stupid, and I believe anyone who thinks critically and does mindfulness work will figure this kind of stuff out by themselves, rather than labelling everyone's love language and thinking they have it figured out.
I had read the book, but hearing the audio was a nice complement to reading the book. There are many lessons to be taken from Chapman's approach to communicating effectively, including both understanding yourself as well as your mate. I find this book to be much better than the Mars-Venus books.
A very powerful insight into why people do things in relationships and how everyone can improve their relationship with their spouse, frinds, family members and any other relationship. I have read this one 3 times already and find it to be very helpful in my life.
What a helpful book. Is only been a week and I already see changes in my marriage. I think this book should be required before you can get married! I've even started using the techniques on my 4 year old and am getting a positive response. I will read this one over and over until it is instilled in my brain. I'm so glad I found this book.
pro: the concept is true
con: the author reading the book is almost always a bad idea. Dr. Chapman has a heavy southern drawl and doesn't sound very good when listening to it for several hours. it actually annoyed me after a while
The overall concepts and ideas of the Love Languages are fantastic. I find it incredibly insightful and look forward to implementing them in my relationships.
The author clearly holds religious beliefs that I don't think a reader is required to share in order for these approaches to apply to them. As a result, some examples and antidotes feel a bit old fashioned and I'd really like to see/hear how else tactics can help nontraditional relationships, as well as one who may not believe in a Christian faith. I think is would really help spread love even further.
Overall: positive and recommend it
What! So if you give your abusive partner sex, everything will get better? No mention of other resources available for couples or individuals. Way too simplistic. It's a starting point for conversation, but that's it.
Every example is a success story. This is not reality. Book reads as if this is the end all and be all of couples therapy. How about some long term studies and results? Control group?
Abusive husband finally happy after wife gives him sex. Pure bull crap.
"Eye opening and a must try for all couples"
5 million people resonated with this. You cannot get wrong about it. I have just started to try the principles, and although I have to admit being skeptic in the beginning by the time I made it to the end I had bought in. Many thanks Dr Chapman for doing such a master piece for the well being of so many couples and people in the world.
"Some food for thought"
I bought this book on the reviews expecting something amazing ...
I had to dig deep within myself to find meaning in some areas but that's great right ??
It ignited some emotions and some thoughts about how I view love and how I love myself too ..
In parts I must admit a lot of the examples seemed sexist, I want a wife to cook my meals, clean my shoes, I want a husband who listens to me and buys me things, and I found myself annoyed by those example types ....
A great learning for me was asking myself why I was annoyed ...
If you are into self help and like challenging yourself to step outside of your comfort zone give this book a go, you may realise you have no clue what love really is because take away all the what I deemed as selfish congical requests what you are left with is this ....
Can you let go of your own Ego and live a life of service to someone else because you choose too??!!!
Wondering about my own love choices now so in essence a brilliant thought provoking read!!!!
"Such incredible insight"
every line of this book gives incredible insight into your own relationships
great narrative style, as the combined author/narrator, can put his original intended emotion into the audiobook
damaged relationships can always be repaired
a must read
"its a great book."
i really like this book. it help me in understanding my relationship and where it went wrong. my friend recommend me the hardcopy and happy I found it in audible.
"Outdated, not for me"
I think the core idea about this book is really useful. You can defiantly see how this is helpful to a lot of people, by understanding what the 5 love languages are and seeing how that can help your relationship. But after that, that's all you basically need to know. As the examples got on my nerves very male sided stories. Woman always trying to get their man to do chores and it's because they are not asking the man properly. It always felt like the woman was in the wrong.
Great ideas with simple illustrations. Am able to apply the concepts in real life and they have further enhanced my relationship with my partner. A must for all couples.
I wish I knew about this earlier. Let's get to work on love and make it count till forever xxx
"An amazing book!!!"
This book is amazing, I picked up very useful tips from the very first chapter to the last one. A book every couple should read.
"Fantastic to learn"
This is the most easy to understand relationship book I have read. Everyone should have this book. I will also buy it for my children.
"A must read for everyone..."
Our relationships are probably the most important thing in most of our lives, and this book will not only help you understand them better, but will also give practical ways to make them better.
It's a book about love and communication, and it has the insight and power to be a game changer for both.
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