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Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage Audiobook

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict, with more than 90-percent accuracy, whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods.
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In 1994, Dr. John Gottman and his colleagues at the University of Washington made a startling announcement: Through scientific observation and mathematical analysis, they could predict, with more than 90-percent accuracy, whether a marriage would succeed or fail. The only thing they did not yet know was how to turn a failing marriage into a successful one, so Gottman teamed up with his clinical psychologist wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, to develop intervention methods. Now the Gottmans, together with the Love Lab research facility, have put these ideas into practice. In Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, the Gottmans share this vital information so that couples can develop the skills to turn their relationship problems around and create strong, lasting unions.

What emerged from the Gottmans' collaboration and decades of research is a body of advice that's based on two surprisingly simple truths: Happily married couples behave like good friends; and they handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. The authors offer an intimate look at 10 couples who have learned to work through potentially destructive problems, extramarital affairs, workaholism, parenthood adjustments, serious illnesses, lack of intimacy, and examine what they've done to improve communication and get their marriages back on track.

Giving an insider's view of the Love Lab, the Gottmans take the listener step-by-step through the couples' conversations, before and after they are counseled. The authors also provide an analysis of the couples' interactions, identifying their core problems and offering suggestions for resolving them. By "listening" to the discussions in this way, you will learn to detect the most common stumbling blocks of a relationship and, most important, how to avoid them.

©2006 John M. Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, and Joan DeClaire; (P)2006 Books on Tape

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    DGM 03-17-08
    DGM 03-17-08 Member Since 2014

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    "One of the basics"

    A must have book if you are serious about working on your marriage. I have read several books and many refer to the work in this one.

    22 of 23 people found this review helpful
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    Dave Winnipeg, MB, Canada 05-17-11
    Dave Winnipeg, MB, Canada 05-17-11 Member Since 2008
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    "A Game Changer"

    This book changed the way I speak to my wife, particularly when the conversation is argumentative, merely after hearing the first recorded and analyzed conversation in the book. The biggest thing for me was defensiveness and I saw it right away in the dialogue that they present in the book.

    They use recorded transcripts of real couples talking (voiced by the narrator) and then analyze the back-and-forth relatively quickly. You can see yourself, if you're like me, in many of the conversations.

    It truly helped, but it would be best if the authors were with me as I conversed (argued) with my wife, as I worry that I will fall back into old habits as I often do after reading great advice like this. I need her to read it too.

    9 of 9 people found this review helpful
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    Patrick United States 02-10-11
    Patrick United States 02-10-11 Member Since 2010
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    "Great Book"

    This book provided me with a lot of insight on ways i could communicate better. I found myself relating to several of the couples and their issues and found the doctors recommended ways to handle situations very useful.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Jodie 09-13-13
    Jodie 09-13-13

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    "Eye opening!"
    What made the experience of listening to Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage the most enjoyable?

    The book uses real life scenarios of couples they've had in counseling, which makes the suggestions relative to myself and my own situation. This book opened my eyes and gave me an outside perspective on how I communicate in my marriage, and even in past relationships.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage?

    Like I said above, this book is an eye opener. I've seen myself in the couples they have in this book, that gives me a new perspective, and will help me focus on getting to the heart of my needs, while allowing me to work on listening to the needs of my partner. Then we can work on fulfilling those needs together.


    Any additional comments?

    I would recommend this book to anyone who is having communication breakdown in their marriage. There are numerous types of communication breakdown that are reviewed in this book, and they do a great job of doing a "before and after" session of these conversations. I plan on listening again to the book in its entirety, to get into more details.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Sindy Antelope, CA, USA 05-23-10
    Sindy Antelope, CA, USA 05-23-10
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    "So much truth in this!"

    I am listening tonight and plan to get the book tomorrow. I would like to go through the exercises written in the book. My parents did not show us how to resolve any conflict. They avoided it as much as possible. I am afraid that I did not teach my children either.
    My oldest daughter just got married three weeks ago. I would like for her to listen to the book. My other daughter is ending her engagement.
    This book would be very helpful for both of them. I am finding it very interesting!
    Thank you.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Marshall W McNeil 06-26-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Good A book, but does not sync with print version"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes. Good book


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    Any additional comments?

    Content is good. However, this book is not available on Wispersync, so when trying to follow between book and audio, extremely difficult to find start/stop of chapters, etc. (Book chapters are not even close to audio chapters). For example, the beginning of chapter 3 of the book actually starts within the audio version of chapter 4 @ 1:01:45. VERY hard to find where one left off in the printed book within the audio book.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Dave Fox Island, WA, United States 10-28-11
    Dave Fox Island, WA, United States 10-28-11
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    "Horrible"

    I just couldn't handled the way this book was written. It replays a bunch of conversations analyzing what every single sentance means - it is agonizing to listen to. The content may be OK - I don't know. It was worse than reading a text book. I am not giving up on the topic, just this book.

    3 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Sarah 02-23-16
    Sarah 02-23-16 Member Since 2016
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    "I think this would be better in paper"
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    I think the information in this book is good information, but I couldn't finish listening to it. It was so boring and the narrator was just not captivating at all. There are a also a lot of examples in the book where thee refer to what the husband said and then the wife... I get so lost because of the monotone. I think this could be a fantastic book but maybe more for print.

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    Joel Myers 07-24-15
    Joel Myers 07-24-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Excellent - insightful!"

    Eye opening, fundamental to have good clear communication and avoiding conflict and conflict resolution. Become friends again and fall in love.

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    Stefanie 02-12-15
    Stefanie 02-12-15 Member Since 2004
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    "Forward Thinking"

    Brilliant! Should Be Required Reading Before Anyone Chooses To Be Married. They should create a required class at Universities on this information.

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